Guest guest Posted April 23, 2001 Report Share Posted April 23, 2001 Dear Anat: I didn't go through any particular process, and fear does creep up on me from time to time, I suspect it always will. But somehow, when you face the monster head on, you realize, that, the worse that could happen is not death, the worse is to live with the fear. As Churchill said, " we have nothing to fear but fear itself " . But its a constant process. I once heard that, " once you have cancer, you never get another headache, they are all brain tumors " . LOL and thats true. I'm terrible at worring over every little new ache or pain, but I've learned to immediatly acknowledge the fear and then tell someone. I tell my husband or a friend. And then thats thier cue to talk me out of it, just a little common sense, like " no honey, thats just a stress headache, you were over doing it today " . Then I can laugh at the silliness of that fear, cause someone is with me, and will help me think straight and remind me not to be afraid. I can then relax and not be afraid and can trust that my husband or friend will hold the " lookout " for me untill my mind calms and I can be rational again. I also believe that if the fear persists, check it out. I'd rather have a bone scan, and put it on my credit card, and KNOW i'm OK, than to be afraid for another six months. But stuffing the fear down, or living with it cause you feel silly is not productive. I read somewhere, that when its your time to go, ie: you DNA or sacred contract, nothing can save you. No food, no medicine, nothing. And if its not your time to go, not much can harm you, Like the old minor smoking 3 packs of ciggarettes while working in the mine till he's 75, then lives on till 90. I don't think its my time yet anymore, I figure I have alot more to share, but if it is, here's my prayer (which in my opinion always gets answered, I think its even guarenteed) " God give me peace and wisdom " . with those two things you can handle anything, and fear melts away. Just try that prayer, and know that you will get it if you sincerely ask. It may take an hour or so, but your unconscious, if nothing else, will reach out and grab those qualities so you may go on to your next step. I know this sounds like rambeling. But I've never been asked this question, and its a good one, and I'm thinking out loud here, hoping to make some sense to you. Its a good question to ask other survivors as well. love, connie > " pine " <pine > > Mon, 23 Apr 2001 08:39:04 +0300 > > overcoming fear > > connie > > > i am amazed by your story. > how did you overcome fear? > i know it's a silly question but i am curious to leran more about this > transformation - the change from being terrified - to the feeling of feeling > safe. > are there tools/techniques to overcome fear? > good for you to overcome fear.!!! > for me it's a constant struggle. but i know that when i win fear - i feel > happy and enthusiastic and alive. > > wishing you the very best > Anat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2001 Report Share Posted April 23, 2001 Connie, Thanks for your ramble. I too 'fight' fear (mine is more of losing the love of my most important other). We're all survivors... some of us know it. Audrey , tink-im <tink-im@c...> wrote: > I know this sounds like rambeling. But I've never been asked this > question, and its a good one, and I'm thinking out loud here, hoping to make > some sense to you. Its a good question to ask other survivors as well. > love, > connie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2001 Report Share Posted April 23, 2001 Dear Audrey: Your right, we're all survivors. that was a great line:-) And loosing the love of a significant other, ahh, I would have big fear about that as well. I fear my husband will die, even tho he's in perfect health. I just fear it anyway. I know thats not rational. But , fear never is. Thats a tough one huh? Takes alot of work on yourself to feel free of those fears, its a process I'm only just working on, not one I've mastered. Good luck to you, and please know that you are infinatly lovable no matter what another may express. love, connie > audreylee > > Mon, 23 Apr 2001 14:17:21 -0000 > > Re: overcoming fear > > Connie, > Thanks for your ramble. I too 'fight' fear (mine is more of losing the > love of my most important other). > > We're all survivors... some of us know it. > Audrey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2001 Report Share Posted April 24, 2001 " The whole world is You, yet you keep thinking there is Something Else. " (unkn) Chinese Audrey , tink-im <tink-im@c...> wrote: " [snip] you are infinitely lovable no matter what another may express. " connie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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