Feeling good now, versus feeling good back then

May 10, 2001

<< It sends me off to a time when I was happy and somewhere I enjoyed. >>

As I read messages in this thread I think of how many times I've read the

advice, " Live in the present moment! "

If past times were happy and the present is not so happy, maybe it's time to

reflect on present attitudes, for we are constantly [re-]creating our own

reality. For example, if loved ones have died, is there NOBODY else out there

in the world with whom a person could establish a new loving relationship?

I collect tag lines. One that I think is both funny and insightful is:

" No husband ever got shot while doing the dishes. "

Actually, while I believe in helping out by doing dishes, I also believe

there are more " significant " ways of being helpful in a broader sense, and I

believe that when people feel they are being truly helpful they feel a deep

sense of satisfaction.

Surprisingly enough, being truly helpful is not necessarily an easy path. I

have learned that many people derive perverse satisfaction in keeping

themselves in a " less than ideal " condition. Maybe it's a medical malady that

could be fixed with better diet and/or nutritional supplements; maybe it's

always struggling for money; maybe it's an unfilled need for a close

relationship. Some people are willing to take action to remedy the situation,

some people are not willing. But when you can FIND someone who IS willing,

and you can help that person, that puts you in a state where " It makes you

happy and joyous NOW " .

I also collect experiences where people have HAD some sort of problem, but

they have been willing to reach out to someone and do something different to

remedy their situation. My computer file of such experiences is now

approaching 350 8.5 x 11 pages in length. For each person who has solved a

problem, there is a corresponding individual who facilitated the solution to

that problem. Sure, the person whose problem is solved is happy about that.

But the facilitator is also happy and joyous in the now moment for having

been truly helpful.

If someone wishes to dialogue more with me about this, it would probably be

better to do it via private e-mail because " Enhancing the lives of those we

touch " IS the mantra of my home-based business.

Rich in Minnesota rputman

If it's true that we are here to help others,

then what exactly are the others here for?

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