Guest guest Posted June 3, 2001 Report Share Posted June 3, 2001 I love it. I also was taught not to want---indirectly, of course---all in the name of not being selfish! I have had to deal with alot of anger re: this. Now I know there is a healthy selfishness. Celeste On Tue, 05 Jun 2001 15:26:47 -0000 audreylee writes: > YES! If you grow up always having your hopes dashed, ridiculed, etc., > > you learn to not expect and not want - It hurts too much when you > don't ever get what you want, so you just have to learn to not want. > > Really it's learn to deny wanting. One of my mantras used to be " It > could be worse. " (learned from my mother.) Amazing and Wonderful > changes happened in my life when I began to realize " Sure, it could > be worse but: It Could Be Better too. " > Audrey > > , cvj <cvjackson5> wrote: > > Hello all, > > > > After reading what Crow just wrote about having that plaque > > which spoke of expecting nothing, it made me realize just > > how little I have grown to expect in life. It all began at > > an early age. I am 50 now and I truly have grown to expect > > nothing in the way of giving emotionally from others. > > Sometimes I feel that the only person I can truly count on > > is me. I don't know if it was to be taken to this extreme > > or not, but I really don't have any expectations and I know > > that it came about because of the disappointments in life > > and it is true, if you don't expect, then you aren't > > disappointed. However, I always have this twinge of > > wishing that someone would show me that I can expect from > > them and then receive what is expected. When I don't, I > > then shrug it off and say to myself, " Oh well, I didn't > > expect it to begin with, so no loss. " > > > > I know this must sound rather depressing and it may be the > > mood I am in today, but it is something I wanted to share. > > > > Thanks for listening. > > > > **************************************** > Visit the community page: > > For administrative problems -owner > To , - > > All messages, files and archives of this forum are copyright of the > group and the individual authors. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 5, 2001 Report Share Posted June 5, 2001 YES! If you grow up always having your hopes dashed, ridiculed, etc., you learn to not expect and not want - It hurts too much when you don't ever get what you want, so you just have to learn to not want. Really it's learn to deny wanting. One of my mantras used to be " It could be worse. " (learned from my mother.) Amazing and Wonderful changes happened in my life when I began to realize " Sure, it could be worse but: It Could Be Better too. " Audrey , cvj <cvjackson5> wrote: > Hello all, > > After reading what Crow just wrote about having that plaque > which spoke of expecting nothing, it made me realize just > how little I have grown to expect in life. It all began at > an early age. I am 50 now and I truly have grown to expect > nothing in the way of giving emotionally from others. > Sometimes I feel that the only person I can truly count on > is me. I don't know if it was to be taken to this extreme > or not, but I really don't have any expectations and I know > that it came about because of the disappointments in life > and it is true, if you don't expect, then you aren't > disappointed. However, I always have this twinge of > wishing that someone would show me that I can expect from > them and then receive what is expected. When I don't, I > then shrug it off and say to myself, " Oh well, I didn't > expect it to begin with, so no loss. " > > I know this must sound rather depressing and it may be the > mood I am in today, but it is something I wanted to share. > > Thanks for listening. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 5, 2001 Report Share Posted June 5, 2001 Two things this brought up in me this morning... The Rolling Stones, singing... " You can't always get what you want, but if you try, sometimes, you get what you need. " And, the saying, who knows where it's from, that if you can't get what you want, try wanting what you get. I had a sort of 'aha' the other day, listening to the oldies station. The song " Love the One You're With " came on, and I listened to the words in a different way. What came to me is that YOU are the one you are always with... so the rather callous and free-loving chorus of " if you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with " had an entirely new slant for me. We would never be apart from the one we loved, if we loved ourselves, would we? Finding Philosophy in Rock and Roll, Crow audreylee wrote: > > YES! If you grow up always having your hopes dashed, ridiculed, > etc., > you learn to not expect and not want - It hurts too much when > you > don't ever get what you want, so you just have to learn to not > want. > Really it's learn to deny wanting. One of my mantras used to be > " It > could be worse. " (learned from my mother.) Amazing and > Wonderful > changes happened in my life when I began to realize " Sure, it > could > be worse but: It Could Be Better too. " > Audrey > --- Caroline " Crow " Abreu AIM: CaroCrow Messenger: NRGbalance URL: http://www.geocities.com/nrgbalance Personal and Medical Intuitive Readings: http://www.geocities.com/nrgbalance/readings.html " We see things not as they are but as we are. " The Talmud " I fumble along as best I can, now good, now bad, and I hope generally fair-to-middling. " Antoine de Saint-Exupery Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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