Acceptance and forgiveness

[Guest guest]

I reckon it's important not to try and forgive too early. It seems to

me that to go through the rage, the refusal to accept responsibility,

and to fantasise revenge, if not take it, is as important to recovery

as forgiveness. Forgiveness is not something which we DO, but

something which shows up as we struggle with accepting that whatever

happened, it was part of nature and we are part of that nature.

I don't think anyone's said it better than the crude but to the point

vernacular of:

" Shit happens "

Being the self interested humans that we are, it takes the

realisation that the only person we're hurting is ourselves to get us

off the treadmill of anger and retribution. In the early days

someone else who's been through the same thing is much more helpful

than philosophy. That comes later.

Best wishes

Arjuna