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I've been told that I was a very active happy child but at some point

I became much more serious , even in my childhood, and I've held much

anger for years. I'm 30 now. I am everso frusterated with the fact

that I have difficulty finding a smile even in moments when I'd like

to generate a friendly or happy state. It won't come naturally. Is

there anyone in the Los Angeles area that would be able to help

me/heal me?

 

I've tried anti-depressants, which tempers the anger, but I feel that

there is something very deep at work here.

 

Any guidance would be most appreciated. I really want to create a

happy interior/exterior.

 

Peace

 

Ari

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In a message dated 12/8/02 2:42:19 AM, aribuddah writes:

 

<< I've been told that I was a very active happy child but at some point

I became much more serious , even in my childhood, and I've held much

anger for years. I'm 30 now. I am everso frusterated with the fact

that I have difficulty finding a smile even in moments when I'd like

to generate a friendly or happy state. It won't come naturally. Is

there anyone in the Los Angeles area that would be able to help

me/heal me?

 

I've tried anti-depressants, which tempers the anger, but I feel that

there is something very deep at work here.

 

Any guidance would be most appreciated. I really want to create a

happy interior/exterior.

 

Peace

 

Ari >>

 

 

Ari,

 

I have found " Louise Hay " You Can Heal Your Life a very helpful book for the

problems you speak of.

 

Best Wishes,

Christine

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Dear Ari,

I understand how it feels. I worked very hard to recover my joy and

what a pleasure it is to have it back! I think one key to living in

a happy state is to always tell the absolute truth. There is a

principle that says that telling the truth always eventually leads to

joy, for both the teller and the hearer (and that's why some people

don't tell the truth: They're afraid of feeling joy). If you're

truth is anger it might mean finding a safe place to express this

anger in a non-attacking, non-destructive way in order to release

this frequency from your body. Emotional healing can be very like

natural physical healing: The process can involve retracement or

the revisiting of old unpleasant symptoms in the reverse order they

originally occured. This is also called emotional detox and its

helpful to have guidance and support while you're cleansing so it

doesn't overwhelm you and scare you into stopping the healing process.

I can recommend a good book, " The Power of Now " by Eckhart Tolle. It

is a clear and beautiful description of the practice of living in the

present moment and the power and joy that brings. It takes conscious

practice to stay for any length of time in that centered place. But

its very worth the effort.

Good fortune in your healing journey...

Neil

, " neptunedays <aribuddah@h...> "

<aribuddah@h...> wrote:

> I've been told that I was a very active happy child but at some

point

> I became much more serious , even in my childhood, and I've held

much

> anger for years. I'm 30 now. I am everso frusterated with the fact

> that I have difficulty finding a smile even in moments when I'd

like

> to generate a friendly or happy state. It won't come naturally. Is

> there anyone in the Los Angeles area that would be able to help

> me/heal me?

>

> I've tried anti-depressants, which tempers the anger, but I feel

that

> there is something very deep at work here.

>

> Any guidance would be most appreciated. I really want to create a

> happy interior/exterior.

>

> Peace

>

> Ari

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  • 2 weeks later...

Several years ago a therapist friens stated that I was a very angry person.

I laughed. nOT me! hE OFFERED TO HELP ME, AND we spent many hours together

.. We both learned alot from each other. Great brain storming. Then he

stopped and said, " " Damn it Rose, I have spent how many hours with you, and I

can't find where that anger comes from. 'JUST WHO'S ANGER' --are you

carrying anyway? "

THAT stopped me cold! He said more, but I had to back him up to re-hear that

comment. I quickly asked if it were anger at my mom. NO. Then at another,

NO! Then it hit me. I was holding the anger of a man who was like a father

to me. He hated a woman who lived with him. He couldn't get her out of his

house, and could not get rid of her. He eventually became a manic depressive

(he held all of this in) and she later burned the house down, blamming it on

him. This sent him to he mental health hospital. I truely believe that she

later killed him.

Obviously I was carring on his anger at her! On realizing this, the tears

just ran down my face, an immediate release of what I did not recognize as an

issue.

Go over yopur own life and see IF you are also holding on to someone else's

issues. That therapist was alarmed at my own release. We both felt better.

Rose

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