Guest guest Posted April 9, 2003 Report Share Posted April 9, 2003 Hi EyeFeminie, I was given a meditation for letting go that seems to work quite well for me. Picture the person you are in conflict with standing on a stage. Then proceed to surround them with loving thoughts and white light, Gods love (or whatever you understand of a power greater than yourself). Ask them what it is that they have to teach you and set them free. Hope this helps, Love and Light to you too, Ninox Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2003 Report Share Posted April 9, 2003 What of course would be best if you could communicate with the person and work out the conflict. And there is a book called Non-Viiolent Communication which could help, also Creative Conflict,,,, Mark > Sincerely, > EyeFeminie > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2003 Report Share Posted April 9, 2003 Hi, This is a technique I use regularly to assist in conflict resolution. I think I got it out of an intution workbook a number of years ago: Imagine you and the person you're having the issue with sitting across from each other. Begin tossing a ball back and forth (taking note of the relative force with which the ball is being tossed by each of you). Keep tossing until the two of you have reached a peaceful, steady rhythm. It may take a while! Put the ball down. Then, communicate what you need to communicate. After you say your piece, listen as the other person expresses what they need to express. Keep doing this until you feel you've reached an " understanding " of sorts. If you're angry, don't pull your punches! Just be honest, and be open to other person's honesty. You may want to take notes afterwards. I've used this technique many times, and it really seems to accomplish something, not the least of which is that I often find myself having more empathy for the other party. Usually, the big blocks between me and the other are inevitably dissolved, so some good constructive communication (if needed) can occur on the physical plane. Hope this helps! If you have any questions, I'll be happy to answer them. Deanna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2003 Report Share Posted April 10, 2003 Hello, One of the things that works really well for lower vibrations is to start wishing others " abundance " . Because your subconscious does not really distinguish between them and you. Whatever, you wish in abundance to others will automatically come back to you and this is why Jesus said to " turn the other cheek " because if you feel resentment and ill will towards someone else, it automatically lowers your vibrations and your self esteem. It's actually very easy to wish others " abundance " . You can wish them " nice thoughts, nice feelings, a nice meal, a nice friend, ... " think about it and you can add loads to this suggestions. You will have to do it often -3 to 4 times a day and especially as you just wake up. In 21 days, you'll be a totally new person full of your own abundance. Take care and be warm Paul eyefeminie <eyefem2001 wrote: I have been a member and reading these messages for a while now and have been touched by so much here. Now I am writing to ask for help and I hope this is the place to find it. I am currently part of a volunteer group in which there is conflict between myself and another. I have accepted that part of the blame lies with me, however the negativity being created continues to pull me down. I have read about higher and lower vibrations and am certainly feeling the lower at the moment. My question is, does anyone know of any healing rituals (I was brought up Catholic, so ritual is embedded in my spirituality), or books or readings that could help me get back to a higher energy level and to stop " beating myself up " over my past mistakes? And what about when I face this individual again--what can stop me from falling back down? I have begun to meditate again, but cannot get my thoughts to stop returning to this situation. Any suggestions would be very much appreciated. Sincerely, EyeFeminie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2003 Report Share Posted April 11, 2003 WHat is helpful for me in expressing conflict/anger toward a person is owning my emotions. WHen I shared such anger " I " use the word " I " often. " I " fell anger because... " I " feel..confused because.. " I " understand this is what I heard/ or you said is that correct?....this is what " I " feel in this situation...I find it helpful in opening other person point of view..WHat was said and what person think said/ think did often times there is big gap. It takes time and courage to find what IS happening... arnel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 12, 2003 Report Share Posted April 12, 2003 If you have any questions, I'll be happy to answer them. Yes Deanna, interesting listening to you and your process and your courage to confront things so head on. I wondered when you asked this who you were, meaning it stimulated a desire to know you better. Also whether you have studied communication as a process. Mark This prose below is basic to my psychology of listening To listen is to suffer because we do not want to listen to anything that might require a change. To listen is to change. We cannot change without listening. Listening implies a change. We need to change just to listen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 13, 2003 Report Share Posted April 13, 2003 Hi Mark, I wasn't sure if it was actually me you wanted to talk to, as I did not initially ask the question. I just provided a potential solution! However, to answer your question, I've never formally studied communication as a process, though I've done quite a bit of study informally as part of my own healing path. I am strongly considering pursuing education along the lines of being an art therapist or personal coach. I'm probably going to get started on this in a major way within the next year or so. Nice philosophy of listening, by the way... Deanna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 14, 2003 Report Share Posted April 14, 2003 being an art therapist or personal coach. I'm probably going to get > started on this in a major way within the next year or so. > > Nice philosophy of listening, by the way... Oh thanks Deanna, and these goals sound nice. Both are personal but being a personal coach involves a lot lot lot. Any help that I might lend in that direction would be given with joy. Funny, after almost seven years with my wife, who deliberately ignored my writings and some other 'stuff' has now totally turned on to me as a teacher/mentor/master even....its hard to believe....so I took her on as an apprentise and am teaching her chinese medicine and acupuncture....and of course Biogenic Medicine...which is a combination of chinese system and color psychology.....It was actually pretty intense today the back and forth, and was a pleasure also doing it in the sea......with the waves sometimes swamping the lecture! She is so lucky, now at home, baby coming in a month, free time to study, all he necessary books on hand, the Internet for unlimited research, and me as her own very personal teacher. Can´t get personal enough in my book. Mark Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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