Communicating within the human energy field

[Guest guest]

Hi Joel,

 

I just watched your and Debra's video on chaining anchors.

The energy field where communication is at it's best.

It brought memories of when I was dealing with a number of mental patients

on a monthly clinic rotation, and how I quickly learned, they needed more

physical space between us for me to communicate successfully with them. There

were a few patients I had to remain out of sight while communicating.

Many times they would come into my exam room with the " I won't " idea, and as

I would back up and give them space while talking, they calmed down a bit to

listen, and then I would usually get them to the " I could " position, and

eventually, with more time and keeping space I would be able to gain their

trust

and cross them over to the " I will " position and close in the space between

us with them ultimately trusting me to do my exam on them whether it be by

touch or verbal requests. I found the boundaries of this energy field was

dictated first by respect and second by the trust levels created in careful

communication.

I'm working slowly through your site as there is so much to explore, I feel

like I'm in a candy shop. Trilsie

 

 

 

 

 

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[Guest guest]

Trilsie...

 

> I just watched your and Debra's video on chaining anchors.

> The energy field where communication is at it's best.

> I'm working slowly through your site as there is so much to explore, I

> feel

> like I'm in a candy shop. Trilsie

 

Thank you. We hope to have more video online soon.

 

> It brought memories of when I was dealing with a number of mental

> patients

> on a monthly clinic rotation, and how I quickly learned, they needed more

> physical space between us for me to communicate successfully with

> them. There

> were a few patients I had to remain out of sight while communicating.

> Many times they would come into my exam room with the " I won't " idea,

> and as

> I would back up and give them space while talking, they calmed down a

> bit to

> listen, and then I would usually get them to the " I could " position, and

> eventually, with more time and keeping space I would be able to gain

> their trust

> and cross them over to the " I will " position and close in the space

> between

> us with them ultimately trusting me to do my exam on them whether it

> be by

> touch or verbal requests. I found the boundaries of this energy field was

> dictated first by respect and second by the trust levels created in

> careful

> communication.

 

The idea is important, whether it is chaining anchors or reframing by

degrees, we often need to move someone (or ourselves) through a process

rather than persuade them to take one big leap from Point A to Point B.

With the chaining of anchors, we learn to identify the points in between

A and B to facilitate the process. Chaining anchors works by changing

the kinesthetics of the " I can't " to the kinesthetics of " I can " by

working through the steps in between. Reframing by degrees does the same

thing but cognitively, changing perceptual positions from A to B, by

looking at the " in betweens. "

 

Thank you for your comments.

 

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