Invasion of privacy presupposes an unwanted guest!

[Guest guest]

--- " Red " <r wrote:

> I really wish I could relax and have fun with her but I feel

> physically restricted in her presence. So she then thinks I'm

unhappy

> generally and becomes concerned. She'd be so very hurt if I was to

> tell her I just can't bear her here. She means well and wants to

care

> for me. She's here for another three weeks, with no other place to

live.

 

Did you invite her?

 

It doesn't sound like you did because of your subject

line, " invasion of privacy " .

 

Invasion of privacy presupposes an unwanted guest. What do you do

with an unwanted guest? I get rid of them, one way or another. What

do you do?

 

So, do you need to go through this? Are you going through it by

choice?

 

Are you going through this because of present guilt?

 

Are you going through this because of a future sense of " shame " ?

 

Since she is there only 3 weeks, then you can see the end of the

turmoil.

 

So focus on that ending, and what pleasures you will have then.

 

And in the meantime read Harry Browne's book, " How to be free in an

unfree world " .

 

That book really talks about the guilt trips and the installation of

shame that society and loved ones lay on us, and how to be rid of

them.

 

And, " NO " , your karma will not be lessened by feeling bad because

she is there.

 

But it will be helped by having her feel good for those 3 weeks if

you choose to do so from a viewpoint of compassion.

 

But if you are doing so because you feel you " must " ...

 

What many people do is, knowing it's only 3 weeks, and they care

about the person, they then notice what's important to the other

person and help them with what they like focusing on.

 

If you want out of that situation and you feel it is not necessary,

then there are ways of having her NOT visit...

 

....for example you can visit her, but not for 3 weeks, but maybe for

3 days.

 

Now if you do not care for her...

 

....So many workable solutions.

 

John M. La Tourrette

www.mentaltrainingsecrets.com