most people need a kick in the ass to get motivated!

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> I do have an overall question for everyone....How did you choose

> your first modality or classes? Was it because we felt we had

that

> talent...or simple curiosity....or someone else recommended

> it/dragged us into it with them?

 

Now you are getting close.

 

Most of us were accidently dragged into whatever " it " was.

 

Compulsory education through the 12th grade, then we accidentally

noticed we skipped some classes and couldn't wait for other classes

to begin.

 

Which really goes back to the carrot and the stick, does it not?

 

> Does the teacher really appear when we are ready<G>? Or do we go

> looking for them?

 

Well, you just asked the SAME QUESTION TWO DIFFERENT WAYS! The

presuppositions are exactly the same.

 

" When we are ready " really means, " when our transderivational search

patterns are directed in that direction " .

 

Maybe a better question might be, " What triggered you to start

learning X? "

 

The trigger is normally a slam in the ass. In fact most towards

behavior is because of running for something we don't want.

 

At least until we know better our own motivational strategies and

how to make positive choices.

 

Like washing the dishes. Most men don't want to wash the dishes.

(Did you see the movie Break-Up, where an entire love match

dissolved because her girlfriend wanted him to " want to do the

dishes " ?)

 

Bad feelings are the " shoulds " in life. These " shoulds " are taught

you by others. And " shoulds " will only motivate you when the

feelings are REAL BAD.

 

A better motivator is to notice what makes you feel GOOD enough so

you do it. Notice the tone of voice. Notice where your feelings

start. Then see the dishes washed, and how clean the kitchen looks.

Then notice how good you feel when you are completely done with that

job...and take those feelings with you as you do that job...

 

Then use a few repetitions mentally to install those positive

submodalities with the task.

 

It takes a bit of practice.

 

And, you can also pull back all the misery that you used to have

that used to make you feel bad enough so that it forced you to do

it, just to get away from the bad.

 

Now at least you have the CHOICE of feeling bad, or of feeling good.