installing hope does NOT mean becoming their babysitter

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coachdrgridley wrote:

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> If I get what Jack means, he is able to more or less determine his

own rules.

 

Sort of. Know what you can live life with and what you choose NOT to

live life with.

 

> I know I can choose to reframe things.

 

Actually better for me than a reframe is the meta-model violations.

 

They, along with the Clarity Model give you understanding of your own

deep processes of what is okay and what is NOT okay.

 

> I also know I am a work in progress, and, esp when new

> things come up, sometimes I get unbalanced before I can do the kind

of thinking you both outline.

 

I agree. New challenges need to be stepped back from so the

emotionalism is NOT there.

 

Then and only then can you make a rational decision on what choices

you and they have.

 

Then step back into the " situation " and process the difference

choices you've chosen.

 

>Who is better able to push buttons than your family?

 

I guess it just me, but just because someone is family does NOT give

them the right to " shit in my stew " on in the stew of others.

 

They are still accountable and responsible to themselves and to

others.

 

And if they choose NOT to be responsible, then we can choose to

distance ourselves emotionally and physically from their psychic

attacks.

 

> Thanks for your thoughts!

 

Thank you Sue. I've always enjoyed talking with you, Barbara Ann and

Kelmie.