What am I missing

July 16, 2008

Can anybody spot something I am missing? I am sure you have all had

times when EFT appears not to be working. I say appear as I believe

EFT works all the time. I believe when EFT is not working there is

something you have missed. I had a client come to me with a classic

driving phobia. It started off with motorway driving and has slowly

lead to driving down hills, going around bends, driving fast and

leading towards problems with normal town driving. Although my

client has this phobia he does still drive. He is confronting his

fear all the time. The client is perfectly fine as a passenger.

What I describe has been over 3 sessions.

I started off by asking what was going on in his life around the time

of the phobia starting. He could not think of anything special. I

also asked about his past history in general if he had ever been in

an accident, ever saw a car crash etc. Again he could not think of

anything relevant. I then moved onto the phobia itself starting off

with global statements'. This was not producing any results. So we

then got more precise with the wording and split the phobia up into

its individual parts. Again this was getting us nowhere.

As you will know when things appear not to be moving there is

normally a limiting belief or some sort of writings on the walls

causing a blockage. I backed tracked a bit and checked things like

if the client thought it was safe to get rid of the phobia, if he

deserves, any possible reasons why having the phobia would be good,

if the phobia is a mask for something else etc. I also done some

muscle testing. Once we had done that we then tapped on how the

client felt about himself and the phobia so things like shame, guilt,

anger etc

I then moved back to the phobia itself. Now for every part of the

phobia such as motorway driving, driving around bends etc the client

would describe it as fear and panic. His description never changed

for any part of the phobia. Although we had covered all the possible

secondary gains and got the clients feelings about himself and the

phobia out of the way the phobia will still not budge. We have tried

being more specific, splitting the phobia up into the individual

parts, used the choices technique, body sensations he feels etc

I have had difficult phobia before but this the most difficult I have

ever had. Can anybody think of anything I may have missed or

suggest something new to try?

July 16, 2008

I'd investigate two aspects

(which you maybe already did, though I'm not sure from what you wrote).

1) secondary gain, what good will the phobia bring me ?

someone will take care of me (I can't drive, sorry, you drive me) (and

actually I'm sick and tired of driving you people around)

it will improve my health (driving is bad for me, high mileage coupled

with wrong posture...)

I will save lives (gee I'm such a bad driver I'm bound to have an

accident and kill someone)

I need the money for something else (what with petrol costing more and

more...)

etc.

2) specific fears, what will happen in case of an accident ? (death,

maiming, etc.)

then use eft on those fears.

(I'd avoid going into

that as much as possible, though, avoid installing things)

Also, do you know NLP ? and

more specifically Richard Bandler's phobia cure(s) ? If yes, I'd give

that a go.

By the way, does he have that driving phobia with any/all cars or just

one ?

Francois

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