Guest guest Posted August 26, 2008 Report Share Posted August 26, 2008 , " paigetrner " <paigetrner wrote: > > > > This is just my intuition speaking but it " feels " like you might > be " enjoying " your bedrest. Not consciously but subconsciously there > are probably some hidden benefits of having someone pay attention to > you, bring you food, feel sorry for you, etc. Many people love talking about what's wrong with them. Especially if they are lonely, feeling totally un-appreciated and feel unloved and only 'used' by others. They have no intention of getting or doing any self-healing because the secondary gains are much too valuable. If they don't get their secondary gains many then choose to commit 'sickness suicide', where they kill themselves slowly with some illness of choice. For example, yesterday I went and visited an old time 'loved one'. I got those 'feelings' and knew I needed to visit. She is now considered a mentally ill person because of something the MD/s call diabetic dementia. She's been married to a 'free-loader' and 'non-working' partner for 18 years. Her children left when they grew up, and no longer visit. She alienated others of her secondary family when a child sexual issue arose 12 years ago, and she attacked her best friend and knocked her to the group to protect her child from the authorities. So, no friends. No family. She was recently terminated at work. No money. Because she owns her home, no social security for medical. And the list of shit just gets deeper and deeper for her. Here's the interesting part. I took her outside into the sunlight...I started talking about fun youthful memories she has, about picking blackberry, about motorcycle riding...swimming in the pond...blab, blab, and blab... ....and within in minutes her 'dementia' left her and she was totally sane and coherent... ....until I mentioned to her that she was 'sane and coherent', then she got stupid very quickly. So group. What is this post about? John M. La Tourrette, PhD PS she did keep repeating, 'I need to go home. This is not my home. " Group, what does that mean to you? It's something very important to know or you will be barking up the wrong tree with your healing processes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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