Do you know how to open your heart?

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<maalberse wrote:

>

> Hi all.

> A main problem I think we all come across when working as

> therapists is that our clients don't want to « have » certain

> emotions (or behaviours).

 

Hi Maarten,

 

I've noticed something I see a bit differently.

 

It's that they 'believe' they are using the emotion, but because of

the 'pain' of the emotion or of emotions they have unconsciously lost

the ability to associate into any emotion or to feel good about much.

 

For them being 'distant' from the emotion feels better than

being 'in' that emotion. So that distance becomes a habit, a habit

they don't know they have.

 

> Isn't this avoidance at the heart of suffering?

 

So in my opinion in many people it's not avoidance, but unconsciously

armored energy to protect them.

 

> If it turns out that the client is not willing (or able) to give it

>more space, doesn't this unwillingness/ inability itself need to be

>attended to?

 

Ah.

 

We are on the same page.

 

I've noticed that many times when a client is told to do something

energetically/emotionally, like 'give it more space', they do not

know what you are talking about.

 

They don't know that they can 'give it more space' in any of the 5

senses and thousands of sub-modalities unless you tell them how in a

manner that is isomorphic and contextual.

 

Because of that 'not knowing' they literally 'can't' do what they are

told to do until they are shown how with certain steps of behavior,

or with the anchoring of associated memories/feelings that have that

emotion and can become conscious of where it is in their bodies and

how it moves.

 

> In other words: is " flowing out " the only healing direction? I

>doubt this.

 

I was at a conference a couple of weeks ago and the trainers told the

attendees to 'open their heart', as if everyone knew how to do that.

 

So at the lunch table I sat with 7 ladies who were also in the class

and I asked them about 'opening their hearts' and how it was done.

 

They thought I was joking and being sarcastic with them. Then they

told me " it was the love I had for my wife " . Now I've had a few

different wifes and each one elicites a different emotion, most of

those emotions are not 'love' or 'opening my heart'.

 

So I went to another person, a male and asked him the same question.

His response was, " take a deep breath into your belly, then soften

your belly, and then open your heart " . I thanked him and walked away.

 

My point being is many people 'believe' they can do something but do

not have a 'repeatable process' for doing it. They 'think' they are

doing XYZ but have no evidence procure.

 

There is an actual process that I take my clients through so they

can 'have more space' or 'open their heart'.

 

John M. La Tourrette, PhD

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I was with Bushmen " Grandmothers " in the Kalahari this past July.

 

They are known for their STRONG healing abilities, especially the

women. Oh, the men doctors are strong too, but the women are

stronger and the men know it.

 

WHY?

 

They told us it is because they are mothers.

 

They also told us to SOFTEN the belly and with breathing the energy

stored there heats up and rises to higher centers...the heart.

 

Interesting.

 

Be soft, be gentle, be mothers.

 

Ancient wisdom from our oldest ancestors...

 

:)Troy

 

 

 

 

> So at the lunch table I sat with 7 ladies who were also in the

class

> and I asked them about 'opening their hearts' and how it was done.

>

> They thought I was joking and being sarcastic with them. Then they

> told me " it was the love I had for my wife " . Now I've had a few

> different wifes and each one elicites a different emotion, most of

> those emotions are not 'love' or 'opening my heart'.

>

> So I went to another person, a male and asked him the same

question.

> His response was, " take a deep breath into your belly, then soften

> your belly, and then open your heart " . I thanked him and walked

away.

>

> My point being is many people 'believe' they can do something but

do

> not have a 'repeatable process' for doing it. They 'think' they are

> doing XYZ but have no evidence procure.

>

> There is an actual process that I take my clients through so they

> can 'have more space' or 'open their heart'.

>

> John M. La Tourrette, PhD

> For FREE TIPS, a weekly report go to

http://mentaltrainingsecrets.com

>