She told me she didn't believe in Christmas so didn't participate.

[Guest guest]

Today I went into my favor bar/food place, " Time Out " , and I asked

Jackie if she had a great Christmas.

 

She told me she didn't believe in Christmas so didn't participate.

 

I told her I loved Christmas because it gave me an excuse to give

freely to those I loved, liked and cared about (just like I gave that

FREE customer appreciation intensive worth $2,500 bucks to my clients

as a Christmas gift!) a week ago.

 

She told me that it wasn't important to her and didn't want to

participate.

 

So I took the gift I had in my pocket that I'd bought for her and went

down to work and gave it to one of my clients that would appreciate it.

 

What is this post about?

 

 

[Guest guest]

It’s about being so stuck in your preconceived notions that you miss out on all the other wonderful things that might be out there.

 

Many people don’t believe in “Christmas” per se. Whether it be for religious reasons (they’re not Christians) or maybe because of the commercialism associated with the holiday or whatever other personal reason they might have. Her particular reason for not celebrating Christmas doesn’t matter as much as the fact that she refused to see Christmas in a new way after Doc reframed it for her.

 

By saying he loved Christmas because it gave him the EXCUSE to give to those he cared about, Doc took all the religious and social significance out of Christmas and made it about appreciating and improving the lives of those you care about...and that’s something just about everyone can agree on regardless of their creed or beliefs.

 

By refusing to accept this new definition, Jackie showed that she was so locked into her preexisting beliefs about Christmas that she wouldn’t able to see and appreciate what Doc was offering her. If Doc gave her the gift she probably would have went home and reframed it into something like “That asshole...I told him I didn’t believe in Christmas and he STILL gave me a Christmas gift. He’s trying to force his beliefs on me, etc”

 

I think it’s a good metaphor for the way we live our lives. What other things might we be missing out on because we don’t believe in it and choose not to participate?

 

 

 

 

On 12/27/06 12:01 AM, " docspeed2001 " <docspeed2001 wrote:

 

 

 

 

 

Today I went into my favor bar/food place, " Time Out " , and I asked

Jackie if she had a great Christmas.

 

She told me she didn't believe in Christmas so didn't participate.

 

I told her I loved Christmas because it gave me an excuse to give

freely to those I loved, liked and cared about (just like I gave that

FREE customer appreciation intensive worth $2,500 bucks to my clients

as a Christmas gift!) a week ago.

 

She told me that it wasn't important to her and didn't want to

participate.

 

So I took the gift I had in my pocket that I'd bought for her and went

down to work and gave it to one of my clients that would appreciate it.

 

What is this post about?

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

This is a beautiful story.

 

The law of attraction.

 

Thanks, Doc.

 

:)Troy

 

 

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> On 12/27/06 12:01 AM, " docspeed2001 " <docspeed2001 wrote:

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> >

> >

> >

> > Today I went into my favor bar/food place, " Time Out " , and I

asked

> > Jackie if she had a great Christmas.

> >

> > She told me she didn't believe in Christmas so didn't

participate.

> >

> > I told her I loved Christmas because it gave me an excuse to give

> > freely to those I loved, liked and cared about (just like I gave

that

> > FREE customer appreciation intensive worth $2,500 bucks to my

clients

> > as a Christmas gift!) a week ago.

> >

> > She told me that it wasn't important to her and didn't want to

> > participate.

> >

> > So I took the gift I had in my pocket that I'd bought for her

and went

> > down to work and gave it to one of my clients that would

appreciate it.

> >

> > What is this post about?

> >

> >

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I think this post is about beliefs and values, rapport and bonding.

 

It's about recognizing that what's very significant to one person

(their beliefs and values) may have absolutely no significance to

another.

 

She's someone who you like since you prepared her a gift based upon

your beliefs and values (you love giving at Christmas time).

 

Before proceeding you " tested the waters " (elictied her strategy) by

asking her if she had a great Christmas. You determined what her

thoughts (beliefs and values) on Christmas were before deciding what

to do with the gift.

 

You found out she didn't " believe " in Christmas it had

no " importance " (value) to her. So, you giving her the gift wouldn't

have been in congruence with her beliefs and values.

 

You and she would have lost rapport had you given her the gift. You

recognized this, so you found someone else whose beliefs and values

were in congruence with you giving them the gift.

 

Thanks for the neat story Doc, even if this isn't what you intended

for the post to be about, I can think of a lot of ways that I can use

what I learned from it.

 

Lori

 

 

 

healingenergies-

essentialskills , " docspeed2001 " <docspeed2001

wrote:

>

> Today I went into my favor bar/food place, " Time Out " , and I asked

> Jackie if she had a great Christmas.

>

> She told me she didn't believe in Christmas so didn't participate.

>

> I told her I loved Christmas because it gave me an excuse to give

> freely to those I loved, liked and cared about (just like I gave

that

> FREE customer appreciation intensive worth $2,500 bucks to my

clients

> as a Christmas gift!) a week ago.

>

> She told me that it wasn't important to her and didn't want to

> participate.

>

> So I took the gift I had in my pocket that I'd bought for her and

went

> down to work and gave it to one of my clients that would appreciate

it.

>

> What is this post about?

>

>

>