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Janel. I wish all the world could hear this. I wish you would write an article

for Mothering Magazine. The majority of parents still think of babies as

helpless, clueless, no memory and barely conscious of what's going on. What a

mistake. There is a little 3 month old I take care of and she likes to go to

sleep in her swing rather than being rocked. So I put her in it and I sit right

next to her in the rocking chair and read and hold her foot while she nods off.

But sometimes I glance over at her and I see her studying my face intently, with

full intelligence and thoughtful observation. When we lock eyes she breaks into

a smile. There is another whole world we don't know about there. Yet. That's

why I value the APPPAH conference and books by Chamberlain and Verny. And I wish

I could study under Castellini. Vicky

 

 

vicky york

Lactation consultant, postpartum doula

postpartum care services

.

Oregon

vmyork Work : 5412556368

 

 

Review me at iKarma Want to spread your own reputation?

 

-

Janel Miranda

ayurveda

Wednesday, September 27, 2006 8:02 AM

PerinatalAyurveda forum Re: Babies preconditioned to like formula

milk?

 

 

Hello ---

 

Also to consider ---- as adults we have forgotten that wee, little ones are

fully present souls in a human body. They FEEL and react to everything in their

environment. When mother and/or father experience anything, but especially

significant change (ie., mother returning to work) the little one experiences it

as well. UNFORTUNATELY, babies are not able to process with the neocortex brain

and talk about it. They still experience it, react, and adjust, and the

neocortex of the brain IS developing around his or her experience.

 

In addition to the phsycial aspect of adjusting to formula at six months, baby

is also adjusting to mother's abence, including absence of her breast as safety

and nurturing. Baby will experience, without condolence or acknowledgement of

feelings, that mother is gone. Every baby will react differently. My own

daughter, at age six months, refused to make eye contact with me when I returned

home after a three week absence -- resulting in her weaning. She giggled, cooed,

and reached for her twelve year old brother. I had so regretted the decision to

be gone and was totally miserable for the entire time. I had driven 1800 miles

like a lunactic to see her and I was crushed that she would have nothing to do

with me. She would only acknowledge her brother -- when I got my face in hers

she would turn away from me and look for him and gabber and laugh with delight.

She was obviously pissed. Five years later during my intense training in

prenatal and birth therapy

(www.castellinotraining.com) she and I healed this break in our

attachment/relationship. What could have become a " funny family story " was

actually a profoundly significant wounding and an opportunity for healing.

 

The way in which a baby reacts to a situation will be a response that began in

response to the circumstances of conception and the soul's journey, then the

earliest experience of attachment to the uterine wall, then the attachment after

birth (always disrupted in modern birth), and in this case, likely, the

experience of first feedings --- was formula given during this sensitive period?

It's all cummulative. Emotional issues, like addictions to food begin in the

primal period. Choosing formula and baby food over the mother's breast --->

choose food and substances over human connection.

 

It may feel like the " bad news " , but the " good news " is that we can heal it if

we are conscious of it. We women no longer have to carry and hold guilt -- we

can transform it and our relationship with our babies. Babies will communicate

very directly and clearly when we are willing to observe and listen, and let

them have their opinion of the situations. They are very forgiving when they

know we are heart-felt in our apology -- and their brain forms NEW connections

around that experience.

 

Janel Martin-Miranda

www.InfantParentHealing.com

www.BabyKeeper.com/blogspot.com

www.ItstheBabysBirth.com -- coming soon

www.SafeBabyResolution.com

 

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Hi, Vicky ---

 

Yep, once you experience that connection you describe, you can not

ever treat babies the same. What a lucky baby!! In doing the healing

work we look for resources -- from Peter Levine's trauma work. To

heal the traumatic experience one needs to be resourced. Resources

are experiences, remembered in the body, of an experience of when

one was resourced -- seen, felt, safe, nourished, acknowledged. You

are providing that for the little girl you care for. Your

description of her interaction with you is sweet, and so right on.

It is how babies respond when someone really interacts with them,

acknowledges them, supports them. Instead of you, the adult,

insisting on you putting her where you believe she should be

( " Sleeping in the swing is bad for her -- she should be in her bed

even if she needs to cry it out. " *$(*@*@ & %!! )-- you support her

where she wants to be (where she has some resource).

 

IMAGINE if the world did get it and we began to treat babies with

upmost respect, respecting their boundaries and needs!! What if

nurses, midwives, and doctors got it!! How would they change what

they do to babies in labor and birth!? It would change the world.

What if only mothers and fathers were the first to touch the baby in

the first hours -- no more rough scrubbing in the first seconds of

life! What if WHEN and IF it is time and necessary to do ANYTHING,

the nurses spoke softly to the baby about what she needs to do and

explained it? " Ok, I need to give you a shot for XYZ. I am sorry, it

is going to hurt you when I stick it in your leg. May I touch your

leg now to show you where I will stick it? " And, wait for the

response. " I am going to wait until you let mama and me know you are

ready. " It is amazing to watch a newborn respond to respect for his

or her body and self. How WOULD it change the world??? Our society

is so unconscious-- EVEN for children, it is very common for

medical people to just grab and jab an infant and child, or have

mother hold down or distract the child while they come at them with

injections and instruments. Even for adults -- my second and LAST

mammogram was done that way!

 

Thanks for the wishes --- I agree. I have been wanting to do an

article for Mothering Magazine for awhile. I have about 100 at

least!!I'd love to do a regular column!! Actually, Thomas Verney

wrote an article for Mothering magazine either last summer or fall

editiion. It very well done, BUT, he was trashed in the letters to

the editor the next month. He wrote a nice intro to the prenatal

psych and about women clearing out the cobwebs prior to pregnancy

and the responses by women were very intense --- they could not

embrace how their life during the prenatal period could be issues

for their baby. It sounded like she had experienced violent

relationship and her midwife assured her it would not hurt the baby.

While I appreciate the situation a midwife is in, our collective

denial doesn't benefit babies.

 

Here are some other resources for the info. Check out

www.myrnamartin.com -- she is in Canada, very close to Washington

state. She is one of Ray's certified trainees and she is conducting

her own prenatal and birth therapy trainings. Wendy McCarty

www.wondrousbeginnng.com co-developed therapy with castellino. She

has online courses and she'll be in Minneapolis in two weeks. She

founded the graduate program in pre and perinatal psych at

www.sbgi.edu. YOu can do a certificate program on line that is very

reasonable. The were both students of William Emerson at

www.emersonbirthrx.com. There is also a pre and perinatal

group. I'll forward the address.

 

I have the SafeBabyResolution up as well. I haven't yet

done an introduction, but the resolution is up. I am working with

two people -- one in Hawaii and one in Texas -- and the resolution

is being introduced in Hawaii. I am working on the website that will

support people in every state to get involved.

 

Take care --- Janel

 

ayurveda , <VMYORK wrote:

>

> Janel. I wish all the world could hear this. I wish you would

write an article for Mothering Magazine. The majority of parents

still think of babies as helpless, clueless, no memory and barely

conscious of what's going on. What a mistake. There is a little 3

month old I take care of and she likes to go to sleep in her swing

rather than being rocked. So I put her in it and I sit right next to

her in the rocking chair and read and hold her foot while she nods

off. But sometimes I glance over at her and I see her studying my

face intently, with full intelligence and thoughtful observation.

When we lock eyes she breaks into a smile. There is another whole

world we don't know about there. Yet. That's why I value the APPPAH

conference and books by Chamberlain and Verny. And I wish I could

study under Castellini. Vicky

>

>

> vicky york

> Lactation consultant, postpartum doula

> postpartum care services

> .

> Oregon

> vmyork Work : 5412556368

>

>

> Review me at iKarma Want to spread your own reputation?

>

> -

> Janel Miranda

> ayurveda

> Wednesday, September 27, 2006 8:02 AM

> PerinatalAyurveda forum Re: Babies preconditioned to

like formula milk?

>

>

> Hello ---

>

> Also to consider ---- as adults we have forgotten that wee,

little ones are fully present souls in a human body. They FEEL and

react to everything in their environment. When mother and/or father

experience anything, but especially significant change (ie., mother

returning to work) the little one experiences it as well.

UNFORTUNATELY, babies are not able to process with the neocortex

brain and talk about it. They still experience it, react, and

adjust, and the neocortex of the brain IS developing around his or

her experience.

>

> In addition to the phsycial aspect of adjusting to formula at

six months, baby is also adjusting to mother's abence, including

absence of her breast as safety and nurturing. Baby will experience,

without condolence or acknowledgement of feelings, that mother is

gone. Every baby will react differently. My own daughter, at age six

months, refused to make eye contact with me when I returned home

after a three week absence -- resulting in her weaning. She giggled,

cooed, and reached for her twelve year old brother. I had so

regretted the decision to be gone and was totally miserable for the

entire time. I had driven 1800 miles like a lunactic to see her and

I was crushed that she would have nothing to do with me. She would

only acknowledge her brother -- when I got my face in hers she would

turn away from me and look for him and gabber and laugh with

delight. She was obviously pissed. Five years later during my

intense training in prenatal and birth therapy

> (www.castellinotraining.com) she and I healed this break in our

attachment/relationship. What could have become a " funny family

story " was actually a profoundly significant wounding and an

opportunity for healing.

>

> The way in which a baby reacts to a situation will be a response

that began in response to the circumstances of conception and the

soul's journey, then the earliest experience of attachment to the

uterine wall, then the attachment after birth (always disrupted in

modern birth), and in this case, likely, the experience of first

feedings --- was formula given during this sensitive period? It's

all cummulative. Emotional issues, like addictions to food begin in

the primal period. Choosing formula and baby food over the mother's

breast ---> choose food and substances over human connection.

>

> It may feel like the " bad news " , but the " good news " is that we

can heal it if we are conscious of it. We women no longer have to

carry and hold guilt -- we can transform it and our relationship

with our babies. Babies will communicate very directly and clearly

when we are willing to observe and listen, and let them have their

opinion of the situations. They are very forgiving when they know we

are heart-felt in our apology -- and their brain forms NEW

connections around that experience.

>

> Janel Martin-Miranda

> www.InfantParentHealing.com

> www.BabyKeeper.com/blogspot.com

> www.ItstheBabysBirth.com -- coming soon

> www.SafeBabyResolution.com

>

>

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Janel: I wonder if there is anything else I can do (until I can afford to take

workshops) for my little charge. I have taught her parents to always ask before

they pick her up and come around in front of her and say " can I pick you up " . As

I walk into her bedroom to change her diaper I talk to her about where we are

going and what we are going to do. While she lies on the diaper table I talk to

her and then I stop talking and ask her if she wants to speak. And darned if she

doesn't go on and on. This is how you fall in love with babies. If we treat them

as you described, it is no wonder our teen agers rebel when they are finally

able.

I often imagine in my head how I would want to give birth if I could do it again

and how a native american woman might do it if she was caught in labor alone in

the woods. squatting, gravity helping,after birth holding the babe against her

breast (which is probably enough in itself to stimulate the pituitary to send

out prolactin and oxytocin) and resting for a moment, giving the cord time to

quit pulsing and the placenta to separate on it's own, (after the baby has

received all of his blood because he wasn't immediately lifted up into the air

like hospitals do, especially after C-section) then when they have both looked

at each other a bit he shows her he wants to nurse. A thousand things happen in

these moments hormonally, physically, spiritually, mentally. It would be

wonderful to just be able to watch a woman and baby doing it all on their alone

and see what comes instinctively. Thanks for all the info. Vicky

 

vicky york

Lactation consultant, postpartum doula

postpartum care services

Oregon

vmyork Work : 5412556368

 

Vicky, this is a sad commentary, your message was marked as spam for my review!

Hence the delay. Beautiful description of the real thing. Have you see the

book on unassisted childbirth? The woman who wrote it, I do not remember her

name, used to meet ina group of perinatal professionals at my home in Boulder.

Another member decided to " do it " with her husband with 4th baby. Unfortunately,

althought she was a childbirth educator and all, the baby was born 5 weeks post

due date in the caul and post mature cord tissues broke, no extra blood supply

while they had difficulty getting baby breathing. The birth was fine, aftermath

very traumatic with emergencies, 8 days on oxygen, etc. I think backup is a

good plan, but that more mothers need to lean less on the birth professionals

and more on their own nature, for sure!

Love,

Ysha

 

-

Janel Martin-Miranda

 

Hi, Vicky ---

 

Yep, once you experience that connection you describe, you can not

ever treat babies the same. What a lucky baby!! In doing the healing

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I wrote an article for Mothering Magazine last winter. about the trend toward

the night doulas, and what I believe that takes away from the family instead of

benefiting them. But each article is just a drop in the bucket, you had better

get started, or I should say, continue on.

Vicky

 

 

vicky york

Lactation consultant, postpartum doula

postpartum care services

.

Oregon

vmyork Work : 5412556368

 

 

Review me at iKarma Want to spread your own reputation?

 

-

Janel Martin-Miranda

ayurveda

Wednesday, September 27, 2006 11:54 PM

PerinatalAyurveda forum Re:consciousness of babies

 

 

Hi, Vicky ---

 

Yep, once you experience that connection you describe, you can not

ever treat babies the same. What a lucky baby!! In doing the healing

work we look for resources -- from Peter Levine's trauma work. To

heal the traumatic experience one needs to be resourced. Resources

are experiences, remembered in the body, of an experience of when

one was resourced -- seen, felt, safe, nourished, acknowledged. You

are providing that for the little girl you care for. Your

description of her interaction with you is sweet, and so right on.

It is how babies respond when someone really interacts with them,

acknowledges them, supports them. Instead of you, the adult,

insisting on you putting her where you believe she should be

( " Sleeping in the swing is bad for her -- she should be in her bed

even if she needs to cry it out. " *$(*@*@ & %!! )-- you support her

where she wants to be (where she has some resource).

 

IMAGINE if the world did get it and we began to treat babies with

upmost respect, respecting their boundaries and needs!! What if

nurses, midwives, and doctors got it!! How would they change what

they do to babies in labor and birth!? It would change the world.

What if only mothers and fathers were the first to touch the baby in

the first hours -- no more rough scrubbing in the first seconds of

life! What if WHEN and IF it is time and necessary to do ANYTHING,

the nurses spoke softly to the baby about what she needs to do and

explained it? " Ok, I need to give you a shot for XYZ. I am sorry, it

is going to hurt you when I stick it in your leg. May I touch your

leg now to show you where I will stick it? " And, wait for the

response. " I am going to wait until you let mama and me know you are

ready. " It is amazing to watch a newborn respond to respect for his

or her body and self. How WOULD it change the world??? Our society

is so unconscious-- EVEN for children, it is very common for

medical people to just grab and jab an infant and child, or have

mother hold down or distract the child while they come at them with

injections and instruments. Even for adults -- my second and LAST

mammogram was done that way!

 

Thanks for the wishes --- I agree. I have been wanting to do an

article for Mothering Magazine for awhile. I have about 100 at

least!!I'd love to do a regular column!! Actually, Thomas Verney

wrote an article for Mothering magazine either last summer or fall

editiion. It very well done, BUT, he was trashed in the letters to

the editor the next month. He wrote a nice intro to the prenatal

psych and about women clearing out the cobwebs prior to pregnancy

and the responses by women were very intense --- they could not

embrace how their life during the prenatal period could be issues

for their baby. It sounded like she had experienced violent

relationship and her midwife assured her it would not hurt the baby.

While I appreciate the situation a midwife is in, our collective

denial doesn't benefit babies.

 

Here are some other resources for the info. Check out

www.myrnamartin.com -- she is in Canada, very close to Washington

state. She is one of Ray's certified trainees and she is conducting

her own prenatal and birth therapy trainings. Wendy McCarty

www.wondrousbeginnng.com co-developed therapy with castellino. She

has online courses and she'll be in Minneapolis in two weeks. She

founded the graduate program in pre and perinatal psych at

www.sbgi.edu. YOu can do a certificate program on line that is very

reasonable. The were both students of William Emerson at

www.emersonbirthrx.com. There is also a pre and perinatal

group. I'll forward the address.

 

I have the SafeBabyResolution up as well. I haven't yet

done an introduction, but the resolution is up. I am working with

two people -- one in Hawaii and one in Texas -- and the resolution

is being introduced in Hawaii. I am working on the website that will

support people in every state to get involved.

 

Take care --- Janel

 

ayurveda , <VMYORK wrote:

>

> Janel. I wish all the world could hear this. I wish you would

write an article for Mothering Magazine. The majority of parents

still think of babies as helpless, clueless, no memory and barely

conscious of what's going on. What a mistake. There is a little 3

month old I take care of and she likes to go to sleep in her swing

rather than being rocked. So I put her in it and I sit right next to

her in the rocking chair and read and hold her foot while she nods

off. But sometimes I glance over at her and I see her studying my

face intently, with full intelligence and thoughtful observation.

When we lock eyes she breaks into a smile. There is another whole

world we don't know about there. Yet. That's why I value the APPPAH

conference and books by Chamberlain and Verny. And I wish I could

study under Castellini. Vicky

>

>

> vicky york

> Lactation consultant, postpartum doula

> postpartum care services

> .

> Oregon

> vmyork Work : 5412556368

>

>

> Review me at iKarma Want to spread your own reputation?

>

> -

> Janel Miranda

> ayurveda

> Wednesday, September 27, 2006 8:02 AM

> PerinatalAyurveda forum Re: Babies preconditioned to

like formula milk?

>

>

> Hello ---

>

> Also to consider ---- as adults we have forgotten that wee,

little ones are fully present souls in a human body. They FEEL and

react to everything in their environment. When mother and/or father

experience anything, but especially significant change (ie., mother

returning to work) the little one experiences it as well.

UNFORTUNATELY, babies are not able to process with the neocortex

brain and talk about it. They still experience it, react, and

adjust, and the neocortex of the brain IS developing around his or

her experience.

>

> In addition to the phsycial aspect of adjusting to formula at

six months, baby is also adjusting to mother's abence, including

absence of her breast as safety and nurturing. Baby will experience,

without condolence or acknowledgement of feelings, that mother is

gone. Every baby will react differently. My own daughter, at age six

months, refused to make eye contact with me when I returned home

after a three week absence -- resulting in her weaning. She giggled,

cooed, and reached for her twelve year old brother. I had so

regretted the decision to be gone and was totally miserable for the

entire time. I had driven 1800 miles like a lunactic to see her and

I was crushed that she would have nothing to do with me. She would

only acknowledge her brother -- when I got my face in hers she would

turn away from me and look for him and gabber and laugh with

delight. She was obviously pissed. Five years later during my

intense training in prenatal and birth therapy

> (www.castellinotraining.com) she and I healed this break in our

attachment/relationship. What could have become a " funny family

story " was actually a profoundly significant wounding and an

opportunity for healing.

>

> The way in which a baby reacts to a situation will be a response

that began in response to the circumstances of conception and the

soul's journey, then the earliest experience of attachment to the

uterine wall, then the attachment after birth (always disrupted in

modern birth), and in this case, likely, the experience of first

feedings --- was formula given during this sensitive period? It's

all cummulative. Emotional issues, like addictions to food begin in

the primal period. Choosing formula and baby food over the mother's

breast ---> choose food and substances over human connection.

>

> It may feel like the " bad news " , but the " good news " is that we

can heal it if we are conscious of it. We women no longer have to

carry and hold guilt -- we can transform it and our relationship

with our babies. Babies will communicate very directly and clearly

when we are willing to observe and listen, and let them have their

opinion of the situations. They are very forgiving when they know we

are heart-felt in our apology -- and their brain forms NEW

connections around that experience.

>

> Janel Martin-Miranda

> www.InfantParentHealing.com

> www.BabyKeeper.com/blogspot.com

> www.ItstheBabysBirth.com -- coming soon

> www.SafeBabyResolution.com

>

>

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Ysha and Vicki --- great discussion.

 

Vicki -- you are doing great. You are showing the mother something

she may not be able to feel yet, and I hope the opportunity arises

to teach her more.

 

Ysha -- I'd be curious to hear the baby's perception of how " fine "

the birth was!! I am all for women being free to choose how, with

whom, and where to give birth to their baby AND to have access to

the support they need, especially medical care. Some women are doing

the unassisted and their reasons are compelling -- it's very risky.

Historically, women have supported women in birth -- rarely were

women alone, off in the woods or fields. By the way, one of my

annoyances is this frequent experience of someone very medical also

saying " weeeeelll, women used to work in the fields, or get off the

wagon, give birth and go on. " It's like we have this either/or. The

message is either lay down and let us drug you and control your body

or fine, then just go do it yourself. A BABY needs to be SAFE,

NURTURED and SUPPORTED through every second of gestation, labor,

birth, and postpartum. A woman needs this during this time so that

she can provide it for her baby. We women are not generally very

good at receiving nurturing and support --- and we need to be

receptive.

 

A woman's own birth will be a part of her birth as a birthing woman.

I am noticing a lot of women are using their baby's birth to resolve

their own issues, such as in a VBAC no matter what -- sometimes

beyond what is good for the baby. It's about her having that vaginal

birth and healing her body ands soul. I am noticing women born by

cesarean are doing homebirth.

 

Women have to be VERY AWARE of their inner needs in birth --- women

set themselves up for traumatic experiences by not being clear,

about not communicating with the woman. One woman recently who

wanted to have her baby in the woods almost did. She arrived,

crowning, at the birth center and the midwife wasn't there yet ---

she almost went into the woods off the parking lot. She said she

remembered my words to be clear about what she wanted -- the

midwife arrived and they went in the center. Another homebirth mom

pushed her baby to be born before the midwife and assistant got

there. It was the first birth that an OB was going to attend. He

arrived after the birth and she was very torn. Not impressive to

him. As she told HER story it was clear that she'd wanted an

unassisted birth -- what was the price for the baby?? Babies will be

telling their story as the mom and dad are telling theirs. Often

they get a breast, bottle, or pacifier in their mouth so the adult

can finish THEIR perspective of the story. And, the other side is,

that babies are teachers for the parents. I believe babies are

participants with the mother, spiritually, emotionally, and

mentally, and they choose their parents and their birth for their

lessons and contracts with the parents. A woman who desparately

wanted a homebirth and got a csection will spend her entire life

working this out in relationship with the child. SOMETIMES it is

necessary and/or best for the baby to have a cesarean.

 

Vicki --- very interestingly, in my first craniosacral training I

began rebirthing my son who was 24 years old!! I birthed that kid

about three times!! The last one was in a craniosacral class -- me

up on the table, squatting and birthing my baby. I FELT native

american and it opened up healing to reconnect with my native

american ancestry. The first one was about getting to have him in my

arms -- I didn't have total awareness until that moment how wounded

we were by the separation. I am STILL amazed at how his birth

affected every aspect of my life. Around that time I realized that

when I heard stories by women who were raped under the influence of

the date rape drug, I was somatically and viscerally feeling the

same way about my birth experience. Waking up somewhere else,

bruised, torn, different clothes, very distant, removed, fuzzy

memories, shame. Knowing something horrible and violating had

happened, but no memory, no words. A lot of people now want to know

their birth stories and their mother's say they don't remember, or

that it was great, fine, normal, etc. Women from the twilight zone

and ether years -- women 50+ -- can't tell their stories. They

are often still numb -- their babies still feel the separation and

it affects them for their entire lives. There are layer and layers

and layers to the healing. When I first read Ysha's homepage a few

years, I wept for what I didn't have with my son that affected me

and my other births and children, and every part of my life. In July

while visiting this son, who is now 31, I had the opportunity to

have a healing session with him. It was spontanous -- just a mother

and baby like moment. No matter what age we are we all yearn for the

connection and touch that you, Vicki, are describing with the baby

you are caring for. I so believe in what you all are doing ---

supporting mothers and babies during this so important time. The

ayrvedic post partum care is the best thing I have seen to help

mothers during this period.

 

 

ayurveda , <VMYORK wrote:

>

> Janel: I wonder if there is anything else I can do (until I can

afford to take workshops) for my little charge. I have taught her

parents to always ask before they pick her up and come around in

front of her and say " can I pick you up " . As I walk into her bedroom

to change her diaper I talk to her about where we are going and what

we are going to do. While she lies on the diaper table I talk to her

and then I stop talking and ask her if she wants to speak. And

darned if she doesn't go on and on. This is how you fall in love

with babies. If we treat them as you described, it is no wonder our

teen agers rebel when they are finally able.

> I often imagine in my head how I would want to give birth if I

could do it again and how a native american woman might do it if she

was caught in labor alone in the woods. squatting, gravity

helping,after birth holding the babe against her breast (which is

probably enough in itself to stimulate the pituitary to send out

prolactin and oxytocin) and resting for a moment, giving the cord

time to quit pulsing and the placenta to separate on it's own,

(after the baby has received all of his blood because he wasn't

immediately lifted up into the air like hospitals do, especially

after C-section) then when they have both looked at each other a bit

he shows her he wants to nurse. A thousand things happen in these

moments hormonally, physically, spiritually, mentally. It would be

wonderful to just be able to watch a woman and baby doing it all on

their alone and see what comes instinctively. Thanks for all the

info. Vicky

>

> vicky york

> Lactation consultant, postpartum doula

> postpartum care services

> Oregon

> vmyork Work : 5412556368

>

> Vicky, this is a sad commentary, your message was marked as spam

for my review! Hence the delay. Beautiful description of the real

thing. Have you see the book on unassisted childbirth? The woman

who wrote it, I do not remember her name, used to meet ina group of

perinatal professionals at my home in Boulder. Another member

decided to " do it " with her husband with 4th baby. Unfortunately,

althought she was a childbirth educator and all, the baby was born 5

weeks post due date in the caul and post mature cord tissues broke,

no extra blood supply while they had difficulty getting baby

breathing. The birth was fine, aftermath very traumatic with

emergencies, 8 days on oxygen, etc. I think backup is a good plan,

but that more mothers need to lean less on the birth professionals

and more on their own nature, for sure!

> Love,

> Ysha

>

> -

> Janel Martin-Miranda

>

> Hi, Vicky ---

>

> Yep, once you experience that connection you describe, you can

not

> ever treat babies the same. What a lucky baby!! In doing the

healing

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