janel- formula

[Guest guest]

hi janel,

thank you so much for your thoughtful post, full of

passion for your beliefs. i couldnt agree with you

more.

right now i am a student at SBGI and learning so much.

i have worked for 15 years as a postpartum doula and

have seen some amazing things. in the past few years i

have noticed babies have a lot more trauma, primarily

from horrendous birth experiences and they really have

a hard time in the weeks following their births.

recently i worked for a mother of twins that had a

c-sec, they were born a month early and both were in

the nic-u. one came home a week earlier than the

other. the mother decided after much ambivilance about

breastfeeding, she would pump once a day.....to only

give them formula. she would leave me with the babies

for 5-7 hours per day and i would hold them and feed

them.....they did not have much contact with mom as

she was tired and went upstairs. i felt so bad for

them. when i would go to feed them, they didnt even

bother to open their eyes, its as if they just shut

down when they realized what they were getting and it

was not mommy. in the end i resolved it my thinking

well, i am an extremely loving person, so at least

they are getting my energy, but how sad for those

little girls......

hey thanks for listening,

mavis

www.gentlecaredoulaservice.com

www.sacredmotherarts.ocm

 

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

Thank you for sharing --- I am sure all of the ayurvedic doulas can

relate. You all are there AFTER it is all done. Most doulas only

have a follow-up or two.

 

I am working on a training for doulas and postpartum doulas -- to

learn how to be with the family and baby in the first weeks and

months and to support the family to heal (ie. the reasons the mother

was so detached). This period sets the foundation for relationship

for a lifetime. That is what is so important to acknowledge. AND,

it's not easy for someone like yourself to see it and do your best

mentally, emotionally, and spiritually for the baby(ies), knowing

that they need more and you know it can't came from you -- that you

can just do the best you can where you are.

 

The training piece was an inspiration -- a gift to me -- from my

grandson who was born last December.

 

Thanks for sharing.

 

Be sure to check out the safebabyresolution .

 

 

ayurveda , mavis gewant

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> hi janel,

> thank you so much for your thoughtful post, full of

> passion for your beliefs. i couldnt agree with you

> more.

> right now i am a student at SBGI and learning so much.

> i have worked for 15 years as a postpartum doula and

> have seen some amazing things. in the past few years i

> have noticed babies have a lot more trauma, primarily

> from horrendous birth experiences and they really have

> a hard time in the weeks following their births.

> recently i worked for a mother of twins that had a

> c-sec, they were born a month early and both were in

> the nic-u. one came home a week earlier than the

> other. the mother decided after much ambivilance about

> breastfeeding, she would pump once a day.....to only

> give them formula. she would leave me with the babies

> for 5-7 hours per day and i would hold them and feed

> them.....they did not have much contact with mom as

> she was tired and went upstairs. i felt so bad for

> them. when i would go to feed them, they didnt even

> bother to open their eyes, its as if they just shut

> down when they realized what they were getting and it

> was not mommy. in the end i resolved it my thinking

> well, i am an extremely loving person, so at least

> they are getting my energy, but how sad for those

> little girls......

> hey thanks for listening,

> mavis

> www.gentlecaredoulaservice.com

> www.sacredmotherarts.ocm

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