PP doula for my neighbor

[Guest guest]

I appreciate the offer for a pp doula for my neighbor -- but she's

just not there. She had her baby one week ago -- a week before the

planned induction. No money for cardiologist she apparently didn't

need after all. She had not made the commitment to have me as her

doula so she didn't call me even though we had just talked. I was

telling her about how we could communicate with the baby to come

when he's ready to avoid the induction --- she wanted the

cardiologist there. She went to walmart and went into labor when she

got home. She only knew she wanted to have connection with the baby

after birth -- she didn't. She didn't know about or want a doula

even when it was presented that what she wants can be facilitated by

it. Her childbirth class teacher had recommended it to only the

week I moved in next door -- 6 weeks ago. So, it wasn't within her

realm. I never sweat that. The doctor broke the baby's membranes

(btw, baby perceives membranes as part of him/her). Fetal heart

tones went down so they did an emergency cesarean. Her mother, a

cardiac nurse, told me the story and blame (rightfully) the doctor

for the surgery. When she read my card she said, Oooooh, I wish we'd

known about you. " Her daughter did know. She was not happy with her

daughter's tendency to do whatever the doctor says. I realize that

sometimes women are in doubt about having another woman they don't

know well there --- and yet, every nurse is likely to be a stranger.

I am very aware of the baby --- and I communicate with the baby

about whether s/he wants me there. ANd, let it go -- it's their

birth. I know the earlier we heal the expeirence, the better their

relationship and lives, but I also know it all has purpose and

correct timing. Perhaps the soul is here to learn about separation

(from the Mother/Source/Feminine -- doesn't that characterize our

world?!?!)What I have found is that knowing my success at helping

babies with colic and sleep issues, a woman will still take the baby

to the doctor. Usually the reason is that the insurance pays for

that.

 

janel

[Guest guest]

I should have read all the emails before responding. sorry for the repetition.

Vicky