Giving stones was WANTED healling stones, rocks

[Guest guest]

Candace,

I too, have had similar experiences. It's always so much easier to

just listen to the stone (or guide) than to submit to the limited self.

For me, i had just had a kundalini experience while wearing a

particular clear quartz that my grandmother (a confirmed agnostic) had

given me and was just more open than at any other time in my life

(temporary enlightenment), and a friend came over to visit, not even a

close friend, but anyhow, i just felt this pull to give him the stone.

I remember hearing myself say to him, " if you hold this past your time

than it will harm you, be open to giving it to the next person in

need, you need to say this to the next person who keeps it as well "

which in fact he did. I have always held this vision that it is like a

Faery going from one person to the next helping them as it helped me.

And it really did, that was truly the biggest shift in my life.

I have always missed that stone! Which i like, you know, the keeping

of it would have been a far worse missing...

Tym

 

qrtrmare <kinada_48 wrote:

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> I agree. in fact i think sometimes we are asked to give away a stone

that we are attached to.. i have a friend who wraps crystals with a

leather base to wear them they are lovely but she never seemed to have

time to make me one... she was selling them at a fair once and a boy

bought her last one but for some reason he didnt like it so asked me

if i would trade it for something in my booth.. yes yes yes.. i was

delighted to finally have one of my friends crystals.. The energy in

it was so peaceful and healing i put it on and was so excited to have

it.. another young man came to my booth and i could feel the crystal

almost lean toward him.. i knew for some reason i had to give it to

him.. but being the stone munger i am i didnt want to... i said nooo

to myself and the crystal.. i have wanted you for a long time .. no no

no.. but yet the crystal still seemed to pull toward the young man...

but still i said no to myself.. mine.... but as he walked away i just

couldnt stand the

> pull on my crystals so ran after him and handed him the crystal..

he looked at me and i told him he was to have this crystal as he took

it he told me thank you and that he had cancer.... wow.

>

> i dont mean to start an argument. but . i dont feel that we own

the crystals and stones i feel we are allowed to have them for a short

time..sometimes they stay with us sometimes they leave us.. i find for

every crystal or stone i give away something most often comes back..

>

> i would be more than willing to give somebody who wanted them a

few as at one time or other we have all thought they were ohhhhh so

pretty. so if you want to write to me in pvt to give me your address

i will be more than happy to send you a few... kinada_48

> namaste

> candace

[Guest guest]

Hello all,

 

I have resisted giving a stone away in the past because i wasn't feeling

happy about the person, but i've never used it afterwards, it seems like it

doesn't want to stay or go! but recently its called to be with that person, and

i

feel i will be giving it to her, I find that there is a grey area here, and

to wait till you find truthfully how you feel about giving it away is good as

well, because it can really tug at your heart for a long time once its gone,

and that person may have thrown it away, or just forgotten about it

completely, i strongly feel that when you are both happy with the situation,

then the

crystal can be given. Once, i gave away a special pendant of mine, that i was

in love with, on the spot i handed it to my cousin, i could feel her

attention on it, and loving it, she seemed also quite sad at the time,

something

told me to give it to her, so i thought about it as we talked and then decided

that it would do well with her, and that i can find something else for myself,

the work had almost been done. I gave her the pendant and she loved it and

cared for it for a couple of years, i forgot about it, and was very happy she

had it. I told her to look after it bacause it felt so special, an obsidian

heart, and not to give it away to anyone. You see it felt deeply resonating

with me and her and she was very happy to keep it safe. Over the years i began

to think about it a lot, felt it round my neck, and without me saying more

than 'how's the heart' she said to me " i've been meaning to give you back the

heart i havn't been wearing it much and thought you may like it back' !! so

now i am in possession of it and feel i can look after it in case it goes into

hands that don't really want it, because the crystal itself feels like its

sayine 'take care of me!' 'don't throw me out there!' honestly, i believe that

they go when they meant to go, and they will tell you no! i want to stay with

you more! at a later date it may go to that same person and it will have

completed its mission.

 

basically, there are some stones that i can't just give away, however much

the person likes it, its like ripping it out of my body! and therapists have to

take care of themselves too! It will stay with whoever needs it most.

 

i think that for me is how i am guardian of the stones i have.

 

this teaches me a lesson about my heart. I gave (another) pendant away out

of guilt (lost it in her car, she found it, never gave it back and wore it in

front of me year later, upset and angry i took it back and then gave it to

her out of embarassment of the situation) and made the other person very happy,

but over a long time that person and i were growing our seperate ways, and

believe me as much as i tried, the pendant's image was burning on my mind, as

if spirit were telling me to get it back!) it was something my mother gave

me, and I summoned up all my strength and asked for it back, there was an

argument, i got it back, and i had made such a fuss! was i being possessive and

stubborn? i don't know! but i was consumed with the return of it. It taught me

a lot about the friendship i had with her, and how it ended cleared up a lot

for me, it made a clean break and opened up the bitterness for us both to see,

we are now distant, but at a strong understanding of each other and at peace

with each other's path, much better that the pain flying around between us

for so many years! i think this beautiful pendant worked it all out, showing

us the truth.

 

I listen to all my urges now, the 'selfish' ones as well, because actually

it tells me how to be 'self-ish' and look after me as well as everyone else,

what i need, what i want, what i like, my dreams and desires, these give me my

boundaries that allow me to stand and be me, in the midst of all the other

'me's'

 

what do you think? if you understand the story!

 

oysterstars

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

Hi Oysterstars,

 

This really resonated with me. A few years ago, I was in a pretty dark

place due to my boundary issues and I called a friend. What he said to me

really stuck.

 

He said, " Well, there's selfish and that's where you get what you want at

the expense of everybody else. Then there's selfless and that's where you

give everybody else what they want at the expense of yourself. In my

opinion, the goal is to be somewhere in the middle, and I call that

Self-Ist, where I get what I want, within reason, at nobody's expense.

 

I try every day to be self-ist.

 

Love,

 

Amy

 

oysterstars wrote:

 

> I listen to all my urges now, the 'selfish' ones as well, because actually

>

> it tells me how to be 'self-ish' and look after me as well as everyone

> else,

> what i need, what i want, what i like, my dreams and desires, these give

> me my

> boundaries that allow me to stand and be me, in the midst of all the other

>

> 'me's'

>

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

Amy i agree. Being Self-Ist gives me strength and support and more able to

give others what they want too.

 

oysterstars