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I know exactly what you mean. I am no longer with my children's father

because a lot of the same reasons. Things will and do get better. You are no

alone. if you ever need to talk feel free email me off group.

 

Sherry

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I go to Al Anon because my ex boyfriend, the biological father of the baby I

am pregnant with, is an alcoholic. If society tells him that he is an addict,

it was with good cause. When you have seen a man drink a pint of cheap vodka

a day, maybe you would understand. When you watch a man routinelly pass out

so drunk he cannot wake to go to the bathroom, and istead urinate, deficate

or vomit on himself, maybe you would understand. When you find yourself

diapering a grown man to keep him from once again urinating on your bed, and

making

sure he sleeps on his side so that he doesn't drown in his own vomit, or

literally dragging him home from where he passed out in a snow drift, you might

start to think that addiction is something more than something society tells

you you have. Especially when you find yourself confronting these behaviors

on a daily basis. The man had a serious problem, and I dare say that people

who think that addiction is just something society tells

people they have has never actually witnessed addiction.

I go to Al Anon learn and recognise my behavioral patterns that lead me into

relationships with addicts, so that I hopefully will never bring another

addict into my child's life. I go to Al Anon to be reminded that the

Alcoholic's

addiction is not my fault, nor is it my responsibility. I go to Al Anon to

help me heal emotionally from the abuse I suffered at the hands of my

alcoholic. I do not think that many people on this forum even know what Al Anon

is.

Al Anon is not AA. Al Anon is a support group for the loved ones of

Alcoholics. My ex does not go to AA. He does not have a job. He does not, for

all I

know, even have a home anymore, since I stopped providing one for him. He does

not do anything but drink. When drinking becomes more important to you than

putting food in your mouth and a roof over your head, that is an addiction. I

don't care what society says.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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