Guest guest Posted January 4, 2008 Report Share Posted January 4, 2008 Last week one of the ebay groups I am on lost a member (43 y. o. who having her first kids) due to complications delivering her twins at the hospital. The dad is left trying to figure out how to take raise these kids. He is is in the military and out of town lots so a nanny is option for him when he is gone. I can't believe the military is not granting him extra time to be off during this sudden crisis. I don't know if there is a milk bank (thinking breast milk) that could provide milk for these babies. If not, alternative suggestions for formula helpful. He can afford to buy what is needed. I am going to offer him homemade baby food suggestions but he's got a little ways to go. Is a food saver necessary or just freezing? Kind? Thanks bunches. I do know there is a group for parents of multiples and there is a sub group for " single fathers " which he is hooking into--24x7 partner who is there for you all the time by a phone call. Sounds like great support and is local for him. carolg Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2008 Report Share Posted January 4, 2008 I know a mother who just lost a child who born prematurely. She is still nursing a toddler, and would love to share excess breastmilk. Even more symmetry: her husband is in the army. Can I help to get these parties in touch with each other? This mother is in San Antonio, TX Take the Amazon Herb Trail to Health. Shaman Approved, Doctor Tested. http://wildhealing.net Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2008 Report Share Posted January 5, 2008 > I know a mother who just lost a child who born prematurely. She is still nursing a toddler, and would love to share excess > breastmilk. > Even more symmetry: her husband is in the army. > Can I help to get these parties in touch with each other? This mother is in San Antonio, TX I am very close to SA, and know a mom in Poteet (close) who's been on a constant search for breastmilk, as she was born without milk ducts, but desperately wanted to nurse. Banked breastmilk is extremely expensive, and is pasteurized, but it's still a better option than formula. Email me offline and I can put you in touch. Also, Austin (a little over an hour away) has a milk bank. She can also freeze it for later use. Her body should soon adjust to its current demands. One of they many miracles within the world of breastfeeding is how the body adapts to the need of the nursling(s). Chances are, the toddler will pick up the slack. Sending her loads of healing energy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2008 Report Share Posted January 5, 2008 Wow. I guess we're lucky that stories like this are such a rarity these days. There are milk banks, but he needs to be cautious b/c there are some that are operated strictly for-profit, and prices are outrageous. There are some that are on-the-level, like in Austin, TX. I think he could get some good advice from La Leche League (1-800-LALECHE). He won't need baby food for six months to a year if he's able to get enough breastmilk. Dr. Sears' " The Baby Book " has great nutritional advice for breastfeeding and formula feeding. Also, " The Nutrition Book " by the same author. I hope this father is getting counselling. I can't imaging what he's feeling. Where is this family located? , " cgiambri " <cgiambri wrote: > > Last week one of the ebay groups I am on lost a member (43 y. o. who > having her first kids) due to complications delivering her twins at > the hospital. The dad is left trying to figure out how to take > raise these kids. He is is in the military and out of town lots so > a nanny is option for him when he is gone. I can't believe the > military is not granting him extra time to be off during this sudden > crisis. > > I don't know if there is a milk bank (thinking breast milk) that > could provide milk for these babies. If not, alternative > suggestions for formula helpful. He can afford to buy what is > needed. > > I am going to offer him homemade baby food suggestions but he's got > a little ways to go. Is a food saver necessary or just freezing? > Kind? > > Thanks bunches. I do know there is a group for parents of multiples > and there is a sub group for " single fathers " which he is hooking > into--24x7 partner who is there for you all the time by a phone > call. Sounds like great support and is local for him. > > carolg > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2008 Report Share Posted January 5, 2008 Stephanie, Thanks for response and will pass on. He's in the service, think nurse, probably medical model, and already had to fly out for his duty. He said, and I need verity, that nanny services for the 24 hour care will run $1650 per WEEK. I asked him to verify that and haven't heard back. He's going to need a helper for the nanny too. There is a group that will offer some free assistance too, but still there are sometimes 5 weeks to a month. He hasn't talked about counseling, but does have some guilt about her death. She supposedly went up to over 200 pounds, but that's family guilt it sounds like and they are not local for help either. Think they are out of state. I am the counseling type so suggested that already, as well as massage, maybe a massage chair down the road, infared in chair. He took his first bath last night and he enjoyed it, slept well and now suggested some essential oil such as lavender or he can check with health food store. It is not sounding like breast need is going to be an option, but he hasn't come forth and said no. He is overwhelmed with her sudden death. If she had been sick, different story, but not the case for t his 43 year old lady. He's in Freehold, NJ. Thanks again and surely will pass on to him. I can't imagine what he is going through, but the multiple of twins group seems to have great assistance or support he should be able to tap into especially the single mens of twins support group he is now connected with. I remind him to give himself a daily hug and right now he needs the support so I don't mind giving that to him. It's just me being a support to another human being and that's where it ends. I love sharing information so glad to pass it on to him. I noticed today lots of organic cereals for kids when it gets to that point, but the books you mentioned may be helpful too. Do they cover childhood colds, fevers, teething issues too? I suggested " no vaccinations " and read more about it. Any particular book or online suggestions will pass on to him. Thanks again. carolg , " Stephanie Jackson " <SMc42TX wrote: > > Wow. I guess we're lucky that stories like this are such a rarity > these days. > > There are milk banks, but he needs to be cautious b/c there are some > that are operated strictly for-profit, and prices are outrageous. > There are some that are on-the-level, like in Austin, TX. I think he > could get some good advice from La Leche League (1-800-LALECHE). > > He won't need baby food for six months to a year if he's able to get > enough breastmilk. Dr. Sears' " The Baby Book " has great nutritional > advice for breastfeeding and formula feeding. Also, " The Nutrition > Book " by the same author. > > I hope this father is getting counselling. I can't imaging what he's > feeling. > > Where is this family located? > > , " cgiambri " <cgiambri@> > wrote: > > > > Last week one of the ebay groups I am on lost a member (43 y. o. > who > > having her first kids) due to complications delivering her twins at > > the hospital. The dad is left trying to figure out how to take > > raise these kids. He is is in the military and out of town lots so > > a nanny is option for him when he is gone. I can't believe the > > military is not granting him extra time to be off during this > sudden > > crisis. > > > > I don't know if there is a milk bank (thinking breast milk) that > > could provide milk for these babies. If not, alternative > > suggestions for formula helpful. He can afford to buy what is > > needed. > > > > I am going to offer him homemade baby food suggestions but he's got > > a little ways to go. Is a food saver necessary or just freezing? > > Kind? > > > > Thanks bunches. I do know there is a group for parents of > multiples > > and there is a sub group for " single fathers " which he is hooking > > into--24x7 partner who is there for you all the time by a phone > > call. Sounds like great support and is local for him. > > > > carolg > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2008 Report Share Posted January 5, 2008 T newborn twins dad lives in Freehold, NJ, and also in military. I don't know branch. He will be continuing his job and travel as part of his duties. I am sorry to read of the mother who lost her child. What a pity. Thanks for sharing always. carolg , " Stephanie Jackson " <SMc42TX wrote: > > > I know a mother who just lost a child who born prematurely. She is > still nursing a toddler, and would love to share excess > > breastmilk. > > Even more symmetry: her husband is in the army. > > Can I help to get these parties in touch with each other? This mother > is in San Antonio, TX > > I am very close to SA, and know a mom in Poteet (close) who's been on a > constant search for breastmilk, as she was born without milk ducts, but > desperately wanted to nurse. Banked breastmilk is extremely expensive, > and is pasteurized, but it's still a better option than formula. Email > me offline and I can put you in touch. Also, Austin (a little over an > hour away) has a milk bank. She can also freeze it for later use. Her > body should soon adjust to its current demands. One of they many > miracles within the world of breastfeeding is how the body adapts to > the need of the nursling(s). Chances are, the toddler will pick up the > slack. > > Sending her loads of healing energy. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 6, 2008 Report Share Posted January 6, 2008 >He's in Freehold, NJ. >I noticed today > lots of organic cereals for kids when it gets to that point, but the > books you mentioned may be helpful too. There are organic formulas & baby foods available much more readily than even a couple of years ago. > Do they cover childhood colds, fevers, teething issues too? > > I suggested " no vaccinations " and read more about it. I think the easiest, most comprehensive, non-overwhelming book is Dr. Sears' Baby Book. It does cover all those issues. WRT to vaccinations, PROVE (Parents Requesting Open Vaccination Information) and NVIC (National Vaccine Information Center) are great resources. I have personally not vaxed my kids & don't intend to unless we travel internationally, and maybe not even then. Since he's travelling in the military, if he's exposed to foreign germs, it may be best to do limited vax (later), but ONLY after much research. All these decisions can be overwhelming for couples with one child. He's one guy with two kids who can't even be present. I hope he has some kind of faith to fall back on right now and realizes that he can't possibly do it alone. If he can trust in some divine resource, he may just find it bearable. I hope that he finds a way to alter his work arrangement and is offered financial assistance. Ugh. My heart hurts for him, and for the babies. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 6, 2008 Report Share Posted January 6, 2008 Stephanie, Your continued resources are great. I am passing them all on. I know for self just learning all this stuff over the years took lots of time, but with a crash course from your resources it will save him lots of time. The military is not very flexible from what I understand. Fianncially I know this dad of twins was doing very well even on his own, but not sure how this large chunk of $ for the 24x7 nanny and a helper affects the $ picture now. Thanks for continued support. You are an angel. Not sure where his faith level is myself. Sure needs all the strength he can pull from. (daughter outside Dallas, but never get to Austin area...isn't that your area?). carolg , " Stephanie Jackson " <SMc42TX wrote: > > >He's in Freehold, NJ. > >I noticed today > > lots of organic cereals for kids when it gets to that point, but > the > > books you mentioned may be helpful too. > > There are organic formulas & baby foods available much more readily > than even a couple of years ago. > > > Do they cover childhood colds, fevers, teething issues too? > > > > I suggested " no vaccinations " and read more about it. > > I think the easiest, most comprehensive, non-overwhelming book is Dr. > Sears' Baby Book. It does cover all those issues. > > WRT to vaccinations, PROVE (Parents Requesting Open Vaccination > Information) and NVIC (National Vaccine Information Center) are great > resources. I have personally not vaxed my kids & don't intend to > unless we travel internationally, and maybe not even then. Since > he's travelling in the military, if he's exposed to foreign germs, it > may be best to do limited vax (later), but ONLY after much research. > > All these decisions can be overwhelming for couples with one child. > He's one guy with two kids who can't even be present. I hope he has > some kind of faith to fall back on right now and realizes that he > can't possibly do it alone. If he can trust in some divine resource, > he may just find it bearable. > > I hope that he finds a way to alter his work arrangement and is > offered financial assistance. > > Ugh. My heart hurts for him, and for the babies. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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