Top Ten Series: Tips For Creating Confidence

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Top Ten Series: Tips For Creating Confidence

 

It is our right to be a confident and assured person. It is our

greatest gift and is often the one thing we find most elusive. Our

confidence levels are always changing. Especially when we are out of

our comfort zone. We tend to only be aware of our lack of confidence

when we are placed in an awkward situation. Here are 10 tips for

creating and keeping confidence around for the long haul.

 

1.Visualization and guided imagery: Picturing yourself as the person

who is confident, successful and admired can be a very powerful tool.

Energy follows thought. When you program your thoughts to reflect

your wishes, you tend to put your energy into making it so. The mind

can be the most helpful tool in the way we desire to live our lives

and be who we want to be. If you can believe it, you can achieve it.

 

2. Music: Music is the great motivator. Music empowers our spirit and

can give us the confidence to grow, realize who we are and even give

us strength when we need it most. Music as a confidence tool is as

individual as we are. Find the music that gives you passion. The

passion to grow, as a budding flower, into the person you wish to

become. Let music inspire you, lift you up and find your voice. Music

works on the Entrainment Theory. The beat of the music aligns with

our heart and body rhythm. Slower music gives us time for reflection,

inspiration and introspection. Faster music moves us, motivates us

and pushes us forward. Use music to create more confidence in your

life.

 

3. Positive affirmations: These are words or statements that we say

to ourselves and out loud to train the mind into positive

thinking. " I am a strong and confident person " . I will walk with my

chin up and be proud today " . Saying it out loud, affirms the truth.

Saying to a mirror is also a great tool, for it makes us look at

ourselves in a re-affirming way.

 

4. Learning to love yourself more: This is a lesson we can always use

and should constantly be working on. Who doesn't need to love

themselves more. Love yourself more by talking to yourself in a

positive, self affirming and loving way. Give yourself a confident

pat on the back. Treat yourself well by taking care of yourself.

Learn that belittling and berating yourself is not only done through

words but through our actions, as well.

 

5. Take care of your physical appearance: When we take care of

ourselves, we empower ourselves. Learn how to care for yourself by

eating right, exercising, getting good, quality sleep and have

meaningful social interactions with others. Get a hair cut, take care

of your skin, find a style that you like to dress in and that makes

you feel good about yourself.

 

6. Give a boost to your self esteem: We all need a good kick in our

self esteem now and then. It is to be expected. When we are down, the

first thing we do is doubt who we are and what we are doing. Self-

esteem issues are different in different people. Although you may

feel great about yourself in one area of your life, you may be

extremely down on yourself in another. Welcome to the world. We can

all seek to improve ourselves. It is time you became committed to

truly loving and appreciating yourself and who you are.

 

7. Learn who YOU are: Learning how to love and respect yourself for

the unique individual you are, can be the best confidence builder. No

two individuals are alike. Cloning to one type of a look, a certain

way of thinking or doing what everyone else is doing, will never give

you confidence. Only a mask to hide behind. Celebrating our

individualism is not only greatly liberating but it is secretly what

everyone wishes for. Learn to be yourself and honor who YOU are!

 

8. Conquer your fears: Fear can hold us back, stop us in our tracts

and not allow us to live our lives to the fullest. One of the

greatest obstacles in living a fuller more confident life is the fear

of failure. The fear of not being good enough. There is no perfection

in the world. There is only the ability to reach for and gain the

most balance we can achieve at one time. This is all anyone can ask

for.

 

9. Reset your belief system: Lack of confidence is often due to the

fact that we have such deeply ingrained conditioning of self hate and

loathing that we do not know how to appreciate ourselves or enjoy our

lives. By taking a look at our belief system, we can often see what

is holding us back, what is creating blocks in moving forward and the

reasons behind our lack of love for ourselves. Are you at a cross

roads due to the fact that your beliefs are negative, self

destructive or evasive? You can change these beliefs.

 

10. Appreciate the gift of life: Those who truly do not appreciate

their lives are missing out on it! We all have problems. We all have

situations we would rather not deal with. We all have bad times. By

concentrating your thoughts on these negative problems, you run the

risk of getting caught up in the swell of down trodding emotions.

These thought patterns pull you down like a whirlpool making it even

more difficult to get up and get out! Learn to appreciate what you DO

have. Be thankful. There are always those who are worse off than you

are. When you work from a place of appreciation, it is easier to

build a better life from there. Without a doubt, you can gain

confidence by loving and accepting the gifts life has afforded you,

no matter how small.

 

 

" As I change my inner attitudes, my outer experiences begin to mirror

the change. "

 

 

Andrew Pacholyk MS, L.Ac

http://www.peacefulmind.com/confidence.htm

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