How Billy passed away: what doctors don't tell you about metastatic liver cancer

[Guest guest]

[Metastatic liver cancer treatments needed to prevent all this...]

 

Diapers, heartbreaking, suffering, pain, confusion, fluid accumulation

.... All but " quality " of life. Be warned: this is a sad and dirty

secondary liver cancer story...

 

 

 

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Doctors wont tell you how utterly disgusting dying from metastatic liver

cancer can be. Diapers, heartbreaking, suffering, pain, confusion ... :

our father experienced these secondary cancer side effects as well as

Billy did.

 

 

 

Dying from metastatic liver cancer:

 

 

 

* doesn't look as heroic as surviving cancer, nor as any movie tries

to depict

 

* is much more difficult than what the doctors say: " keep the pain

medication at bay "

 

 

 

Dying from metastatic liver cancer means that

 

 

 

your next day will be less as it was today.

 

 

 

Less communication, less orientation, less fun, less appetite...

 

 

 

" Less anything human " father would call it after he was diagnosed with

metastatic liver cancer.

 

 

 

And diapers aren't even the worst, because each parent knows how to

change diapers. All the other end stage symptoms you most likely will

experience hands on for the very first time.

 

 

Cancer treatments

 

 

Sadly but true, there are no real cancer treatments when you are in

palliative care.

 

 

 

So called treatments for liver cancer in the end stage are aimed to:

 

 

 

* reduce the pain with pain medication and

 

* counter the side effect of pain medication: constipation

 

 

 

Just imagine:

 

 

 

* your liver is growing because your cancer is growing,

 

* there is less space in your belly and

 

* then your stools also keep inside your belly...

 

 

 

This is the hard reality, unlike the term " quality of life " used by the

doctors, quality is surely a misleading word.

 

 

 

The hardest part starts when the brain starts messing up the cancer

patient.

 

 

 

Especially when communication with words begins to fail.

 

 

 

We just have no words to describe this, so read Billy's last days with

metastatic liver cancer to get an idea.

 

 

 

For Kistan2: we have seen similar eyes like Kistan2 describes of Billy's

last moment. We feel that Billy just like our father was communicating

that:

 

 

 

* he was ready to go,

 

* he loves us all...

 

 

 

but he just didn't manage

to put that in words you could hear

 

 

Billy's end stage metastatic liver cancer story

 

 

Billy's wife Kistan2 left her cancer story at :

 

 

 

* Metastatic liver cancer end symptoms

<http://www.metastaticlivercancer.org/2008-07-24-cancer-treatment/metast\

atic-liver-cancer-end-symptoms/>

 

* Introduction to alternative cancer treatments

<http://www.metastaticlivercancer.org/2008-04-21-cancer-treatment/introd\

uction-to-alternative-cancer-treatments/>

 

 

 

Well, this is Kistan2. I just came back into this site after being away

for a while. My husband eventually succumbed to his liver cancer - he

lived a little over 2 months after he was first diagnosed which was a

month more than what his prognosis was.

 

 

 

I watched this brave man die before my eyes in our bedroom and there

wasn't anything I could do for him except to be with him in his last

moments.

 

 

 

The look he gave me just before he passed will stay with me for the rest

of my life.

 

 

 

I'm not sure whether he was looking at me and saying with his eyes

why I wasn't helping him or whether he knew it was time and was

saying goodbye.

 

 

 

I keep replaying that moment in my mind over and over. Although the kids

and I miss him terribly we are relieved that he is no longer suffering.

 

 

 

Seeing a loved one suffer from liver cancer was horrible and he did

suffer.

 

 

 

I just want to let everyone know what an incredible person he was - we

miss you so much Billy!

 

 

 

Yes - one of the things my husband enjoyed in life was his food.

 

 

 

Once the cancer took over his enjoyment was severely diminished as he

could no longer tolerate the after-effects of eating.

 

 

 

He was plagued with major gas and stomach pain. After every meal he

would retreat to the bedroom and wait for the gas & pain that eventually

came.

 

 

 

As for the confusion - as Billy reached the last weeks of his life, he

became so loopy. And this was from a man who would pore over things in a

methodical and logical way.

 

 

 

It was heartbreaking to see his mind become muddled and he would repeat

things over and over again. I tried to break into his confused state of

mind by trying to get him to focus but he would just keep saying things

over and over again.

 

 

 

I think his pain medication contributed to his poor mental state too.

 

 

 

The hardest part of this all was that my husband eventually had to use

diapers because of his erratic bowel movements.

 

 

 

Towards the end, I would help him to the bathroom, wait while he

struggled to move his bowels and then help him put another diaper back

on.

 

 

 

He also had ascites (fluid in the abdomen) which caused him the shakes

and tremors. All in all, it was not pleasant for him.

 

 

 

Thanks Kistan2 to " say it like it is " . All our love and hugs to you and

your family!

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

But isn't this true for all people dying from metatastic cancer?

My mother suffered hell before dying of breast cancer.

In fact, she died the moment she started chemotherapy and suffered for

2 years before her physical death.

 

Maria

 

 

, " weeseekim888 "

<weeseekim888 wrote:

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> [Metastatic liver cancer treatments needed to prevent all this...]

>

> Diapers, heartbreaking, suffering, pain, confusion, fluid accumulation

> ... All but " quality " of life. Be warned: this is a sad and dirty

> secondary liver cancer story...