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Hi Anne, Thank you for your warm welcome! 20 years, Anne?! Wow! I am 40 years old and had a full hysterecomy last May. I am still fighting with awful menopausal symptoms that are affecting me outside and inside my life. Shame on my doctor who didn't prepare me for the menopausal shock that followed immediately after the surgery. Personal bio: a single deaf mom to a set of 6 years old quadruplets which may be unique to others and don't know how to communicate with me due to my unique case. I also have a 3 year relationship...it went from wonderful to doubtful due to my emotional and mental issues thanks to the menopause. I also live with my mother and it is like oil and vinegar since the surgery. I am not sure if you wish to email in private or share what we know and have experienced with others. The menopausal symptoms that I have experienced

in the past year and still continue (not all): 1. Fractured bones (tailbone, toe, fingers-a few) and dislocated thumb and shoulder. 2. Body aches 3. Creepy crawlies (itchiness during the nights) 4. Forgetfulness (short term memory) 5. Cold/hot flashes (hot flashes now decreased but cold flashes increased for odd reasons) 6. Loss of skin elascity (sp?) 7. Break-outs like a teenager in odd areas 8. Rapid weight loss 9. Hair loss 10. Nail loss (feet) 11. Temper tantrums 12. Crying 13. Phantom limb (my missing uterus and ovaries) Hope this helps. I don't know how to do this way. This is my first time. Lisaannielovenlife

<annielovenlife wrote: Hello there,Welcome to the group, happy that you joined us.Yes I have gone through this menopause thing too, I had to have a hysterectomy at 36, and was put on hormone replacement for many years. When all the buzz was how bad they were for women, I asked my Doctor if I should stop taking them, he said no that he did not feel that was necessary. I later developed a lot of pain in my legs, aching and asked the same Doctor what it could be. He said well it is probably the

hormones that you are on. Then I started doing my own research to find out about these hormone replacement drugs, and could not believe that the Doctor had continued to give me a new script every year for them for almost 20 years. At this point I started looking for natural alternatives, the black cohosh, valerian, and omega 3 is things that I took to help me too. What symptoms are you still having, and about how old are you? Knowing what symptoms you are still having might help me to help you better. Menopause can be quite the challenge for sure.Annie> Greetings to you all! This is my first time to post something here. I > am not sure if I found the right site to ask questions or anyone who > has gone through an artificial menopause. It was a hard transition for > me because I had to change everything I eat, use and in my lifestyle > and I still continue to battle several

menopausal symptoms. I use > herbal tonics (black cohosh, valerian, etc...), Evening Primose oil > tablets, Omega 3 and gluocosamine daily. I could go on...but I would > like to wait before I make this a long bio. Hope to get some insights > and advices. Thank you>

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At 02:58 AM 4/1/2008, you wrote:

Lisa,

I had a complete hysterectomy when I was 24 - was my 4th surgery for

ovarian cysts and they couldn't save anything. They felt the rest would

turn cancerous, so out it came. Of course, that was 30+ years ago. (I'm

57, 58 in July) They didn't have the knowledge or the technology then

they do now. One thing I have to tell you, is that it took about a full

year from the date of my surgery before I felt " normal. " Things

had healed and all, but I believe it was the trauma a woman goes through

when she has a hysterectomy. Since then, I've talked with a lot of women

who've had the same surgery - some I told it would take a year, some told

me it had taken them a year. But, for some, it may take a little longer.

But, a year seems to often be the magic time. All of a sudden, you

realize you feel OK! Just like that - one day, you realize you feel

good......

I honestly don't think doctors, especially male doctors, understand

the trauma a woman goes through. They will tell you how long it

will be for you to physically heal, but a hysterectomy is a huge shock to

your system. But, at least you were able to have children before you lost

your parts..............I wasn't even able to do that. Don't know if you

lived away from your mother before, but it's difficult for two women to

live together when they've had their own households. Mother and daughter

especially, as you will never stop being her daughter......it's often

very difficult to get on an even footing with your mom - woman to woman,

regardless of how old you are, and how many children and/or marriages you

may have had.

I almost hate to ask, because I'm quite sure people on this group would

not feel it's a good idea, but did your doctor at least offer you some

hormones? Like Annie, I was on them for many years. Frankly, I was a bit

afraid of going off them, until I realized the potential dangers. Then,

one day, I just stopped. But, let me just say, that isn't always the best

way to go about things. I'm afraid I've learned the hard way, that

cold-turkey often isn't the optimal way of getting off one drug or

another. There are some natural methods that may help, if you haven't

already checked them out. Here is a link to an article that speaks to

many of them.

 

http://nutrition.about.com/od/dietsformedicaldisorders/f/naturalhrt.htm

I've known a number of women who have had good success with

some of the things mentioned in that article. There also is a cream you

can rub on, but I don't remember the name. Perhaps someone in the group

will know what it is. But, you're not going to do yourself or anyone else

any favors by just trying to tough it out, without some assistance. There

are some things people just need help with.

I'm almost a little afraid to ask, but why can't your children

communicate with you? Haven't you taught them? I would have thought it

would come very naturally to them, with you being deaf. Although, now

that I think about it, since there are so many of them, all at the same

age, they would have had each other to communicate with. I don't know if

you go to church, but there are some denominations who work a lot with

the deaf. I wouldn't be surprised if you could use some help, with so

many children.

To be totally honest, all of your symptoms don't sound like menopause to

me. Sure, some things may have been triggered by it, but it sounds as

though they would have happened anyway. Like the bones breaking. Doesn't

sound as though your bones are very strong. Are you at least taking any

supplements for that? Have you had a bone density test, so you can at

least know what you're dealing with? Bones usually don't get weak

overnight. And, that's what a hysterectomy does, is basically, overnight

no more hormones. Not the natural, gradual decline that most women

experience. It sounds to me, as though your system is in dire need of

repair....*smile* Dire need of help. Which, I'm guessing, is

probably one of the reasons you came to this

group..........*smile*

If you feel some things are too personal to discuss in group, and would

like to talk about some of them off-list, I'd be happy to, if you like. I

do have to tell you, though, most of the men in this group are pretty

understanding - and some of them really know quite a bit about various

things. Even so, some things are peculiar to women, and sometimes

difficult to talk about with men. There are some things about being

a woman, that it is almost impossible to explain - but other women know

what you're talking about.

Lynn

 

Hi Anne,

 

Thank you for your warm welcome! 20 years, Anne?! Wow!

I am 40 years old and had a full hysterecomy last May. I am still

fighting with awful menopausal symptoms that are affecting me outside and

inside my life. Shame on my doctor who didn't prepare me for the

menopausal shock that followed immediately after the surgery.

Personal bio: a single deaf mom to a set of 6 years old quadruplets

which may be unique to others and don't know how to communicate with me

due to my unique case. I also have a 3 year relationship...it went

from wonderful to doubtful due to my emotional and mental issues thanks

to the menopause. I also live with my mother and it is like oil and

vinegar since the surgery. I am not sure if you wish to email in

private or share what we know and have experienced with others.

 

The menopausal symptoms that I have experienced in the past year and

still continue (not all):

 

1. Fractured bones (tailbone, toe, fingers-a few) and dislocated

thumb and shoulder.

2. Body aches

3. Creepy crawlies (itchiness during the nights)

4. Forgetfulness (short term memory)

5. Cold/hot flashes (hot flashes now decreased but cold flashes

increased for odd reasons)

6. Loss of skin elascity (sp?)

7. Break-outs like a teenager in odd areas

8. Rapid weight loss

9. Hair loss

10. Nail loss (feet)

11. Temper tantrums

12. Crying

13. Phantom limb (my missing uterus and ovaries)

 

Hope this helps. I don't know how to do this way. This is my

first time.

 

Lisa

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Hi Lisa,

 

Some of the problems you mention are on the list of gluten sensitivity symptoms.

 

http://www.members.cox.net:80/harold.kraus/gluten/longlist.htm

 

Do you have GI or digestive problems?

 

All the best,

Yannic

On Wed, Apr 2, 2008 at 4:35 AM, Lynn Ward <lynnward wrote:

 

 

 

 

 

At 02:58 AM 4/1/2008, you wrote:Lisa,I had a complete hysterectomy when I was 24 - was my 4th surgery for ovarian cysts and they couldn't save anything. They felt the rest would turn cancerous, so out it came. Of course, that was 30+ years ago. (I'm 57, 58 in July) They didn't have the knowledge or the technology then they do now. One thing I have to tell you, is that it took about a full year from the date of my surgery before I felt " normal. " Things had healed and all, but I .

 

 

 

 

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