Guest guest Posted March 23, 2006 Report Share Posted March 23, 2006 Hi There, I remember I had a terrible time with being pregnant. The hormonal imbalance and not being able to do the things I use to (go out partying with my friends at the bar) while my husband was making no concessions with his life really sucked. I started taking long walks with my dog and I tried a pregnancy yoga tape. I also got massages and that really helped me. I allowed myself 1 glass of wine on the weekend. Perhaps is she tried to busy herself with taking a class to learn something new and something she is interested in- might help her focus on other things besides what she can't do during her pregnancy. I don't know maybe candle or soap making, maybe a gardening class. Just letting you know about my experience with pregnancy & depression. Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2006 Report Share Posted March 23, 2006 OOOOOHHH.. My pregnancies sucked. I got depressed because I was tired all the time and couldn't wake up but for maybe 6 hrs a day... I couldn't do half of what I used to with out getting extremely over worked and not to mention the pain that comes along with pregnancy every time something shifted I felt pain.. Now what I can say for that is... If this is a wanted pregnancy.. Enjoy the down time... Yeah your hormones are in flux... (You're making a human) I've been there and ohhhh lordy was I emotional (even being on anti-depressants) didn't help.. I couldn't finish sentences (aphasia) I couldn't finish a thought I was either crying all the time Or sleeping. Remember to Love yourself during this time... and in order to focus on something else... pick up a new hobby.. and if you're really angry.. Go beat up a pillow... Jennifer On Behalf Of Sharon Switzer Thursday, March 23, 2006 5:18 AM pregnant & depressed Hi There, I remember I had a terrible time with being pregnant. The hormonal imbalance and not being able to do the things I use to (go out partying with my friends at the bar) while my husband was making no concessions with his life really sucked. I started taking long walks with my dog and I tried a pregnancy yoga tape. I also got massages and that really helped me. I allowed myself 1 glass of wine on the weekend. Perhaps is she tried to busy herself with taking a class to learn something new and something she is interested in- might help her focus on other things besides what she can't do during her pregnancy. I don't know maybe candle or soap making, maybe a gardening class. Just letting you know about my experience with pregnancy & depression. Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2006 Report Share Posted March 23, 2006 Hi, I hated being pregnant. I'd have rathered laid an egg and hatched it. It was especially bad with the last one. Massage therapy helped A LOT and so did someone to express my feelings to. Trying to keep my nutrition intake balanced, sniffing sweet orange oil here and there, baths helped, too. It literally vanished once my tenants were evicted and I made it through the post-partum adjustment period. Fortunately, I come from a culture where indulging almost every whim and desire of a pregnant woman is considered an absolute must, so my family put up with me even though I was very difficult to live with. As for arguing, well...it can be even more difficult to get your partner to understand what is happening...especially since this is the first time for them. It's an atmosphere ripe for potential conflict because of the new ground they're standing on. Pregnancy is not always that 'rosy and vibrant glow'...that mess can be a real myth for some.! My heart goes out to your daughter. She's not to blame at all--she feels what she feels. I'm glad she has you to support her--that will be one of the BIGGEST aids she will be able to get. I also hope her doctor is willing to work with her...they can be a real PITA during pregnancy because of potential legal entanglements. Sounds like she's getting good care, though. One more things, it would be really good to have a doula to help her during pregnancy, at the birth, and for postpartum care. I don't know if you can afford it but the doula I had was going through her certification so she volunteered her services w/out charging me. She was absolutely terrific, too. They are more than worth having!!! They have all kinds of forgotten tricks to help women out. Your daughter may also be at risk for post-partum depression and needs to be watched for signs of that. Not to be making predictions of gloom but it can happen and it needs to be treated immediately. I'm sure you and her doctor will be there to help her through. It will seem like forever but it WILL pass! PS. Depression and anxiety are real illnesses!! The is more than enough proof through MRI and PET scans to show changes in blood flow and neurochemical activity responsible for this. To blame it own the person for having 'emotional issues' is really ____________________...I can't say what I want to say without it hearing form Chris. I'm sure this woman feels bad enough without being blamed for her difficulties. It's true that we don't understand all the complexities of how our brains work but we DO know that biological changes CAN and DO show up in behavior. It's REAL!!! I will admit that if depression or anxiety exists for a while that there is a good chance of some maladaptive behaviors that are adopted during times of illness becoming ingrained but a good therapist ALONG with medical therapy and loving support is the key to taking care of this. What sets off fighting? Gee, it might be this intense nausea, not being able to fight off this intense need for sleep, bloating, having to pee so friggin' much, thinking about the profound change this baby will cause, cutting back on my coffee, wishing to turn off this intensely keen sense of smell...I know all of you that have carried a baby inside of you know what I'm talking about! Some snapping, and snarling? Normal, normal, normal... May not have to do with reduced medication at all, how about a simple, " Oh, good gravy! I'm going to have a baby!!!!!!!!!! " Okay, I've had my time on the stage. Drae Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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