RE: depression question, my 2 cents worth, warning its kinda long

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I have been following this post, and after reading this, I have a few

questions and comments:

 

Teresea, you wrote:

 

" Because she as an anxiety disorder that, prior to her pregnancy,

she has been masking (covering up, ignorning, denying, turning the other

cheek, whatever). Her pregnancy is now forcing her to deal with her anxiety

issues

because her dosage has been lowered. "

 

***My question is, Do you know this woman personally to make these comments?

What makes you think that anything is being masked ?. Hormones do crazy

things to your body, when I was pregnant I was soo tired that I was an

emotional wreck.

 

Depression is an illness, I have suffered from it for years, depression hits

different people different ways, I have lashed out at my husband and kids

and I have spent weeks in my room wanting to die. I have researched it

intensively; I know that some depression is caused by a chemical imbalance

in the brain. I know that MY depression came about from the birth of my

first child. I have spent many years trying to " explore my inner life " for

answers that are just NOT there.

 

 

I found this remark mind boggling:

 

" We take things (emotional energies) on while in utero. She will pass her

anxiety disorder on to her baby if she doesn't figure it out. "

 

***What makes you say this?? My children are all well adjusted happy kids,

they show no signs of my illness ( I have been classified as being depressed

and having anxiety issues), and if this was comment made it's way back to

the mother, well, I would HATE to think what that would do to her.

Depression is hard enough without thinking that you may pass it or your

anxieties onto your child, if this had been said to me in my depressed

state, when I was suicidal, then It may have been just the final straw to

make me end it all.

 

I am sorry if I am on a rant, but this email just got my back up.I would

sincerely hope that you would NEVER say this sort of thing to a depressed

person. Have you ever been depressed? When you are depressed, it's the worst

feeling in the world, nothing you do seems right, your self esteem is at an

all time low, you feel responsible for the lack of world peace. Depression

is a very dark and dangerous place to be, and swaying to the other side (

death) can seem very very inviting almost a relief. I am sorry I found your

comment to be completely irresponsible and dangerous as well as HOGWASH.

 

 

As for the depressed mom to be, if she finds sniffing essential oils helps

her then give her any oil that she likes to smell, if she finds that she

likes the smell of catnip (ok, bad example, no-one likes the smell of

catnip), then let her sniff it.

Have Mom to be take long hot baths before bed and no caffeine after 7pm, see

if this helps her to get more sleep.

 

Ok, that's my two cents on all of this, Have the mom talk to the doctor

again and again if she needs it, talking does help. Also see if there are

any outlook programs in the area that can help for after the baby is born. I

had a nurse come visit once a week and I also attended a mom and baby weekly

morning coffee, now would be a good time to get these things in place just

incase she suffers from the depression again ( or it continues) after the

baby is born.

 

Now, back to sitting quietly and smiling at my medications.

 

Carol