depression question, my 2 cents worth, warning its kinda long

[Guest guest]

Drae and Carol,

Thank you for your kind words and I have

to tell you, you said what I didn't dare to

even start with. As you know, there is not just one

answer to any question that will help everyone.

I am glad she isn't on this group or your are right it might push

her or anyone over the edge.

Sad really. Mind boggling is an understatement!!!

I totally agree with the doula. Such a good idea, I will look into

if her doctor will

let her have one with her. I know for sure she will have a c-

section.....

don't know enough about that.

We are a very close family so we will keep our

eyes open, and get her the attention she needs for sure if I can't

do it myself.

Depression is a hard thing but she is working it out and her husband

is starting

to understand it more too.

I do think a little orange (or orange like) oil might perk her up a

bit but I was

wondering if there was anything better so thanks.

So like I said, thank you to both of you for your help, I appreciate

your

kind thoughts and words. Your 2 cents were helpful thank you!!

Cheers

Candi

 

Drae wrote: One more things, it would be really good to have a doula

to help her during

pregnancy, at the birth, and for postpartum care. !

PS. Depression and anxiety are real illnesses!!

Carol Wrote.

I found this remark mind boggling:

" We take things (emotional energies) on while in utero. She will

pass her

anxiety disorder on to her baby if she doesn't figure it out. "

***What makes you say this??

[Guest guest]

I do think a little orange (or orange like) oil might perk her up a

bit but I was

wondering if there was anything better so thanks.

 

 

 

I am pregnant as well, ready to go any day now. I can tell you that I have

suffered depression in the past and it took a very holistic approach for me

to get better. I didn't know about herbs and such at that time in my life. I

did take the meds, but I also walked allot, and got as much sun as I could.

I live in PA, and that just isn't always possible, with our grey skies.

 

This pregnancy, I have added tangerine oil. I just LOVE the smell of it now

that I am pregnant. I am and always have been partial to the smells of

citrus though. I have made a nice little roller ball full of jojoba and

tangerine oil. I think I added just a little lavender to that as well, I don

t remember exactly (I am suffering a bit of pregnancy brain at the moment.)

Either way, the smell cheers me right up, then I go for a walk to raise my

endorphin levels. I also find that if I force myself to get up and clean, I

feel better. It clears my mind, and I feel better when my house is clean. I

also have a dear friend that I can talk to about anything, and she doesn't

judge me, even when I am being crazy.

 

I also have a small GoLite. It is a blue light that acts like the sun for

your bodies chemistry sake. I have found over the years that the things

mentioned above are what helped me over the need for meds. HOWEVER, I don't

think I would ever have gotten to the point of not needing meds if I hadn't

taken them in the first place. They helped me up the hill and eased me a

little way down the other side, getting me to the point where my mind could

heal itself. I know others that most likely will never be ok without their

meds. It is a very individual thing. I think you are well on your way to

helping your daughter, just by getting different things for her to try. It

is really hit and miss for most of us. I still suffer at times, but now I

know how to recognize it, and approach it with things I have found that work

for me, BEFORE it gets out of hand.

 

I also find that there are triggers for me. One of the major ones, and easy

things to do while pregnant, is overeating. If I overeat, I get depressed.

If I eat really fatty foods, it can also trigger it. If I stay sitting when

I feel the anxiety building up in me, I am going to get depressed. I have to

say at least half of the battle for me is to pay attention to what is going

on in my body and mind (there are almost always physical manifestations,

however subtle, for me) and DO something before it gets bad. It has taken me

over 20 years to get to the point where I am now, so I would have to say it

can be a long and tedious task. I am healthy now, but was once so sick that

I didn't even know that I could be better. Best of luck to your daughter.

 

Jumps off her soap box, and back into her quiet little hole.

 

Theresa G.

[Guest guest]

Candi,

You are welcome. There is no reason why her doctor shouldn't let her have

one in there--it is her right to have whoever she wants to at her birth.

You can look for a doula in your area by going to:

 

http://www.childbirth.org/

 

It has links to find doulas in your area. Much of the information is

about childbirth being a natural phenomenom, not a medical proceedure (it

has a balanced view, though--sometimes intervention is needed and is a

MUST). It also has links, articles, book reviews, etc., to about

everything that concerns the realm of birthing a baby. It also has birth

plans that you can fill out and present to the OB/GYN and take to the

hospital. I love to research and this is one of the best sites I've found

in my travels. I hope it is useful to your daughter, ok? Keep us posted

and both of you are in my thoughts.

 

Drae

 

 

> Drae and Carol,

> Thank you for your kind words and I have

> to tell you, you said what I didn't dare to

> even start with. As you know, there is not just one

> answer to any question that will help everyone.

> I am glad she isn't on this group or your are right it might push

> her or anyone over the edge.

> Sad really. Mind boggling is an understatement!!!

> I totally agree with the doula. Such a good idea, I will look into

> if her doctor will

> let her have one with her. I know for sure she will have a c-

> section.....

> don't know enough about that.

> We are a very close family so we will keep our

> eyes open, and get her the attention she needs for sure if I can't

> do it myself.

> Depression is a hard thing but she is working it out and her husband

> is starting

> to understand it more too.

> I do think a little orange (or orange like) oil might perk her up a

> bit but I was

> wondering if there was anything better so thanks.

> So like I said, thank you to both of you for your help, I appreciate

> your

> kind thoughts and words. Your 2 cents were helpful thank you!!

> Cheers

> Candi