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I have a friend at work who lost her mother suddenly a couple of weeks

ago (Mom had played golf in the morning and apparently had a massive

heart attack later sometime that night). It's made worse by the fact

that her Mom lived in Phoenix (we're in San Diego) and wasn't

discovered for a couple of days (they think she passed on Tuesday night

and was discovered on Friday morning). Apparently her Mom's friends

realized they hadn't seen her for a couple of days and they got someone

to go into her condo where they found her. Debra (my friend) had been

calling her and leaving messages and at first thought she was just busy

and hadn't had a chance to get back to her but then started to get more

concerned when she hadn't heard from her. She's having a really hard

time dealing with it, especially now the " executor stuff " is wrapping

up. I've given her aromatherapy candles in the past which she has

really liked. I was wondering if someone could suggest (1) some

good " smells " for this kinid of stuff and (2) where I could buy some.

 

thx so much

 

Mary Ann

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Dear Mary Ann,

Rose essential oil is the main oil for grief and loss as well as to

help with the depression that usually follows the loss of a parent. I used

it extensively after my Mother died last year and it helped me greatly work

through my grief and loss. I hope that this helps. There are many dealers

on this list who sell rose oil. Just do a search for rose oil.

Good luck in your search.

Rhavda

Scents of Success (http://www.scentsofsuccess.com)

Texas Grown - American Made Rose Oil Products

 

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Wed, 06 Dec 2006 00:29:05 -0000

 

SUDDEN LOSS/GRIEF

 

 

I have a friend at work who lost her mother suddenly a couple of weeks

ago (Mom had played golf in the morning and apparently had a massive

heart attack later sometime that night). It's made worse by the fact

that her Mom lived in Phoenix (we're in San Diego) and wasn't

discovered for a couple of days (they think she passed on Tuesday night

and was discovered on Friday morning). Apparently her Mom's friends

realized they hadn't seen her for a couple of days and they got someone

to go into her condo where they found her. Debra (my friend) had been

calling her and leaving messages and at first thought she was just busy

and hadn't had a chance to get back to her but then started to get more

concerned when she hadn't heard from her. She's having a really hard

time dealing with it, especially now the " executor stuff " is wrapping

up. I've given her aromatherapy candles in the past which she has

really liked. I was wondering if someone could suggest (1) some

good " smells " for this kinid of stuff and (2) where I could buy some.

 

thx so much

 

Mary Ann

 

 

 

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>It's made worse by the fact that her Mom lived in Phoenix (we're in

San Diego) and wasn't discovered for a couple of days (they think she

passed on Tuesday night and was discovered on Friday morning).<

 

How awful! When my mom passed away last year, and when my Dad was

suddenly hospitalized in June, my sister and I could not have made it

through without Bach Rescue Remedy. You can find it in any health food

store. Best wishes, Sue

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Hi Mary Ann,

Sorry to hear of your friends loss. In selecting an oil I would

first speak to your friend to see what oil she likes, what has made

her feel good in the past. Nothing like a good old friend to help you

through a troubled time and a good old aroma of good feelings works

much the same way. Yes, there is much more to it but this is a good

start. I could start to name a number of oils like Lavandin abrialis,

Lavender, Patchouli, Frankincense, Clary Sage, Rose but what will

work for your friend...start by asking her what she really likes.

 

I am one of those who do sell oils on this list and I would be happy

to speak with you. Please feel free to call. The number is on the

web site.

 

Sincerely,

John

http://www.ancienthealingoils.com

 

, " crochet.mama35 "

<crochet.mama35 wrote:

>

> I have a friend at work who lost her mother suddenly a couple of

weeks

> ago (Mom had played golf in the morning and apparently had a

massive

> heart attack later sometime that night). It's made worse by the

fact

> that her Mom lived in Phoenix (we're in San Diego) and wasn't

> discovered for a couple of days (they think she passed on Tuesday

night

> and was discovered on Friday morning). Apparently her Mom's

friends

> realized they hadn't seen her for a couple of days and they got

someone

> to go into her condo where they found her. Debra (my friend) had

been

> calling her and leaving messages and at first thought she was just

busy

> and hadn't had a chance to get back to her but then started to get

more

> concerned when she hadn't heard from her. She's having a really

hard

> time dealing with it, especially now the " executor stuff " is

wrapping

> up. I've given her aromatherapy candles in the past which she has

> really liked. I was wondering if someone could suggest (1) some

> good " smells " for this kinid of stuff and (2) where I could buy

some.

>

> thx so much

>

> Mary Ann

>

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Hi Mary Ann,

 

I am sorry to hear about your friends loss :(

 

You've gotten some good advice between homeopathy, Flower Essences and

also the AT suggestion of working with scents your friend likes.

Traditionally speaking Rose is associated with aiding a grieving heart.

If she has bad associations with rose, or just hates roses that

obviously wouldn't be a good choice, otherwise, it may be a good choice

to toss into the mix of whatever you decide on putting together for her.

 

Several folks on this list, including myself, carry some nice rosy

things including Rose Otto & Rose Hydrosol, which are my personal first

AT choices for grief.

 

*Smile*

Chris (list mom)

http://www.alittleolfactory.com

 

, " crochet.mama35 " wrote:

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> I have a friend at work who lost her mother suddenly a couple of

> weeks ago ... She's having a really hard time dealing with it ...

> I was wondering if someone could suggest (1) some

> good " smells " for this kinid of stuff and (2) where I could buy

> some.

> Mary Ann

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Hi Everyone,

 

thx so much for all your input/suggestions. Debra has definitely been

running the gambit of emotions - relief that it was so quick

(especially since her father went through a long, painful battle with

cancer before he died) but definitely shock and disbelief because her

Mom was so active and had no major health complaints as well as guilt

from not being there when it happened. I appreciate all the info,

espeically the homeopathic/bach info since my knowledge is very limited

in those areas. You've reinforced my initial gut feeling to go with

rose which is one of my personal favorites and luckily I have right

some right now, but since this is for someone else I wanted to get some

other opinions.

 

Again, thx so much for you help and willingness to share your

knowledge/expertise and I'll say it again, YOU GUYS ARE THE BEST!!!

 

Mary Ann

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