Anti-Cats Stuff

[Guest guest]

Hi Karen,

I'm a cat lover, but have a few friends that believe they are only good

as wall art or in a barn catching mice. Ii keep our guest room 'animal

free', for them, and friends who stay that might be allergic. I have

duct taped the cat door to our basement, where the bedroom is, to help

support thier issues. I just move the food/litter box up to my

bathroom during their visit.

If your friend really cares for you, she should be comfortable in

supporting this for you. If not,find out what is her ick, bring it

with you, and keep it next to you to let her see how it feels. Just

kidding, but sometimes people not meaning to are really ignorant of

others major no no's.

Good Luck,

Lynn

[Guest guest]

Karen,

 

I know you didn't say she was abusive nor a tyrant, but her attitude

as you described it sounded indifferent to you and your needs, and

that to me seems abusive. And insisting on you staying in her home

without being willing to make her home comforable for you is a bit

tyranical in my view. But it seems that she was not as intransigent

as you initially portrayed her. But I did mean " bore " , and

not " boor " . Someone who is so enamoured with their animals that they

believe that everyone " should " love them as much as they do strikes

ME as boring. I don't enjoy the company of that type of individual.

My main point I was trying to make, even if I was off in regards to

your feelings about your friendship over all is that trying to

persuade others to our point of view can be a futile endeavor when it

comes to our personal preferences and sensitivities. From your

original post, there didn't seem to be any room for compromise, so my

point was to stop trying to persuade and just state your

position/decision and be done with it. Not having the full scope of

your history with this person, I was just going with my gut, but I

certianly agree that you don't just write off a friend because they

have " quirks " that we find annoying. I certainly have quirks that

annoy others, of that I'm sure. There are just certain attitudes

that would keep me from forming a strong, close bond with an

individual as you initially described her. But I'm glad you have

resolved your dilemna and that your friend was able to make

consessions to accomodate your needs. My reading of your original

post seemed to preclude such a possibility.

 

Blessings,

Robin

, " Karen M Chan " <kmchan

wrote:

>

> WHOA! Easy there, honey.

>

> I never said she was abusive. She is not a tyrant, nor is she a

boor

> (which I think is the word you meant). She simply has these " I know

> everyone in the world loves my cats as much as I do " blinders on.