Guest guest Posted March 21, 2002 Report Share Posted March 21, 2002 Hi there...I'm a single mom. Vegetarian for 7 years, my 2yo son is vegan. If I ever get married, I would of course rather my husband be vegetarian. My question is, since it is really hard to meet other vegetarians, what if I meet the perfect man, and he eats meat? Do any of you have carnivore spouses? How do you handle that? I'm going to raise my son with the values that it's wrong and cruel to kill animals. If your spouse doesn't agree with that, how is it handled when the child is old enough to ask questions? I would never allow dead animals into my home, and would hate to even watch someone I was in love with eat meat, so I find it hard to believe I'd ever marry a meat-eater. But I'm just curious how any of you deal with that issue. Thanks, Keara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 22, 2002 Report Share Posted March 22, 2002 > what if I meet the perfect man, and he eats meat? Do > any of you have carnivore spouses? How do you handle that? Keara, My husband of now 10 yrs. was meat eating when we met. I was very clear about my eithics and rules of my house when we were dating. When we discussed living in the same space, I was very clear that there are no animal products in the house. Luckily, he was/is very considerate and was fine with that. He wanted to start to learn to eat veg.. Since he had been a cook in several restaurants, he picked up my cookbooks and started on his vegan journey. He ate some meat out of the house when I wasn't there, but then got sick when he did. Now he's vegan for the last 9 yrs. Our son is vegan and understands why we don't eat animals. Yes, you can gently inform and guide non-vegans toward a gentler lifestyle. Peace, Laura Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 22, 2002 Report Share Posted March 22, 2002 Hi, I was vegetarian several years before marrying my meat-eating husband. He is fully convinced that a vegan diet is the best diet but doesn't have the will power/desire to convert over. From day one of our marriage, I had no problems with buying and preparing meat (chicken, fish, and turkey - he never brought other meats in the house) for him if he wanted me too. I never took the initiative to do this for him but offered vegan meals to him instead. It " kills " me to watch him slowly killing himself with his diet. Miraculously, when our only son was born 18 months ago after 10 years of marriage, my husband agreed to raise him fully as a vegan!!! I know that it can be confusing to a child to see double standards - Daddy eats meat, Mommy eats no meat - but I'm praying that one day my husband will be " converted. " I've already started telling my son that Daddy eats meat and we need to pray that one day he'll stop. - " shantris2000 " <shantris2000 Thursday, March 21, 2002 6:11 PM meat-eating spouses?? > Hi there...I'm a single mom. Vegetarian for 7 years, my 2yo son is > vegan. If I ever get married, I would of course rather my husband be > vegetarian. My question is, since it is really hard to meet other > vegetarians, what if I meet the perfect man, and he eats meat? Do > any of you have carnivore spouses? How do you handle that? I'm going > to raise my son with the values that it's wrong and cruel to kill > animals. If your spouse doesn't agree with that, how is it handled > when the child is old enough to ask questions? > > I would never allow dead animals into my home, and would hate to even > watch someone I was in love with eat meat, so I find it hard to > believe I'd ever marry a meat-eater. But I'm just curious how any of > you deal with that issue. > > Thanks, > Keara > > > > > For more information about vegetarianism, please visit the VRG website at http://www.vrg.org and for materials especially useful for families go to http://www.vrg.org/family. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 22, 2002 Report Share Posted March 22, 2002 I'm new to the list. I have been a vegetarian for 7 years and my 20 month old daughter has been vegetarian from birth (so far), but my husband eats seafood (fish, squid, jellyfish, etc). Our rule is that he can eat whatever he wants outside of the house, but cannot cook it in the house. I found that this has worked out very well for us in our 7 years of marriage. Tracey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 25, 2002 Report Share Posted March 25, 2002 HI! I'm new to the list and grateful that I found it! Regarding the meat-eating spouse thing - I was lacto-ovo veg when I met my husband and he is an omnivore (I call him a carnivore). He was raised with the belief that calcium and protein are only avail through animal products. Well, he's the love of my life and the best thing that ever happened to me. He eats my vegan dishes on the side of the meat he cooks for himself. He respects my position. He is also in favor of raising our baby vegan or lacto-ovo. It is my opinion that I wouldn't be able to expect him to support/respect my dietary choice if I did not do the same for him. Also, if you are against having animal products in your home, then you probably wouldn't ever find a meat eater to be the " perfect match " for you, so I don't think you should worry about it. Just my humble opinion. - Sonia In a message dated 3/23/02 3:40:13 AM Eastern Standard Time, writes: > meat-eating spouses?? > > Hi there...I'm a single mom. Vegetarian for 7 years, my 2yo son is > vegan. If I ever get married, I would of course rather my husband be > vegetarian. My question is, since it is really hard to meet other > vegetarians, what if I meet the perfect man, and he eats meat? Do > any of you have carnivore spouses? How do you handle that? I'm going > to raise my son with the values that it's wrong and cruel to kill > animals. If your spouse doesn't agree with that, how is it handled > when the child is old enough to ask questions? > > I would never allow dead animals into my home, and would hate to even > watch someone I was in love with eat meat, so I find it hard to > believe I'd ever marry a meat-eater. But I'm just curious how any of > you deal with that issue. > > Thanks, > Keara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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