omnivore spouses

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Hi Keara, and everyone,

 

I'm also a single mom with a 2yo son. I've been veg*n for 12 years and

my son, all his life.

Keara, the problem is, you won't know how to handle this until you're in the

situation. Hopefully, you come to a compromise, if your mate is worth his

salt. What many " mixed " couples do, especially when the veg*n feels very

strongly about keeping the home meat-free, is have no meat in the house but

spouse is free to eat what he likes outside the home.

 

When you meet a new person and are in the getting-to-know-you phase, that's

when an issue like this gets sorted out. If you let him know from the

beginning that you'll never allow meat in your house, then you'll probably

either find he'll respect this part of you, or he's not worth dating (if he

can't respect your ethical choice, then what other choices of yours will he

disregard?). He may eventually come around to veg*n ways, but as you seem

to know, you can't force it! Leading by example is the best way to help

someone come around. And if not, if you love him you'll have to respect his

choices, too, even if it looks like he's a heart-attack waiting to happen

(my mom is dealing with this with her dh).

 

But again, you'll probably just have to see when you're in the situation.

FWIW, you may be able to increase your odds of finding a veggie to date by

hanging out in veg-friendly venues (restaurants, health foods stores) and

cgoing to veg*n events. Or you can start (in all that free time I'm sure

you have ! LOL ) a vegetarain group in your area. Also, you might place an

ad at veggiedate.com I had a lot of responses from this service, and I have

made some good friends. Unfortunately, about the time I started getting

responses from my ad on veggiedate, I met the man I'm dating, and he's an

omnivore! :-/ It does drive me nuts sometimes - I just try not to let my

mind fix on what he's eating.....

 

Oh, and the vegan message boards sometimes discuss this issue, vmb.com as

well as other advice for veg*n parents.

HTH.

Peace,

Doh

 

> meat-eating spouses??

>

> Hi there...I'm a single mom. Vegetarian for 7 years, my 2yo son is

> vegan. If I ever get married, I would of course rather my husband be

> vegetarian. My question is, since it is really hard to meet other

> vegetarians, what if I meet the perfect man, and he eats meat?

(snip)

> But I'm just curious how any of

> you deal with that issue.

>

> Thanks,

> Keara