Guest guest Posted March 29, 2002 Report Share Posted March 29, 2002 > Vegetarian parents SHOULD join an e-mail list designed for vegetarian parents. > These can be found by searching at http://Groups..com or at > www.Topica.com > > Also, if these parents are married (and I'd hope they are), there is the > Vegetarian-Marriage list. > > Maynard Call me overly sensitive, but I fould this post somewhat offensive. I'm not really keen on anyone being told what they *should* do, especially when shouted. But even more so, what were you implying by saying you hope the vegetarian parents are married? I think that when people seek suggestions, respondants might want to keep in mind that telling them what they think " should " happen sounds more like a directive than a suggestion. (from a linguistics point of view, " should " is a power word which implies guilt in non-compliance: are they " bad " parents if they don't join such a group list?) And personally, coming from a non-traditional family style myself and being in a non-traditional family, I would think one's opinion on matters of marriage are entirely irrelevant on this baord, unless that opinion is specifically sought. Being veg*n parents and raising veg*n kids are hard enough without other veg*ns offering their unsolicited views on family structure. Perhaps a better wording might have been " ... and I assume they are[married] ... " . I'm new to this list, so if I'm wrong here and this is typical of this list, let me know now so I can find another. Thanks for hearing me out. Doh 12-yr veg*n mom to nearly 3-yr veg*n son, single mother by choice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2002 Report Share Posted April 1, 2002 Doh - I agree with you. It seemed a bit judgemental to " hope that veg*n parents are married " - that is a personal matter. I happen to be happily married, but if I was not I would still be a great mom. Rachael , Doh! <dohdriver> wrote: > > > Vegetarian parents SHOULD join an e-mail list designed for vegetarian parents. > > These can be found by searching at http://Groups..com or at > > www.Topica.com > > > > Also, if these parents are married (and I'd hope they are), there is the > > Vegetarian-Marriage list. > > > > Maynard > > > Call me overly sensitive, but I fould this post somewhat offensive. I'm not > really keen on anyone being told what they *should* do, especially when > shouted. But even more so, what were you implying by saying you hope the > vegetarian parents are married? > > I think that when people seek suggestions, respondants might want to keep in > mind that telling them what they think " should " happen sounds more like a > directive than a suggestion. (from a linguistics point of view, " should " is > a power word which implies guilt in non-compliance: are they " bad " parents > if they don't join such a group list?) > > And personally, coming from a non-traditional family style myself and being > in a non-traditional family, I would think one's opinion on matters of > marriage are entirely irrelevant on this baord, unless that opinion is > specifically sought. Being veg*n parents and raising veg*n kids are hard > enough without other veg*ns offering their unsolicited views on family > structure. Perhaps a better wording might have been " ... and I assume they > are[married] ... " . > > I'm new to this list, so if I'm wrong here and this is typical of this list, > let me know now so I can find another. > Thanks for hearing me out. > Doh > 12-yr veg*n mom to nearly 3-yr veg*n son, single mother by choice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2002 Report Share Posted April 1, 2002 I couldn't have said it better myself... thank you! Karen > > Doh! [dohdriver] > Friday, March 29, 2002 12:20 PM > > morality and lists > > > > > Vegetarian parents SHOULD join an e-mail list designed for > vegetarian parents. > > These can be found by searching at http://Groups..com or at > > www.Topica.com > > > > Also, if these parents are married (and I'd hope they are), > there is the > > Vegetarian-Marriage list. > > > > Maynard > > > Call me overly sensitive, but I fould this post somewhat > offensive. I'm not > really keen on anyone being told what they *should* do, > especially when > shouted. But even more so, what were you implying by saying > you hope the > vegetarian parents are married? > > I think that when people seek suggestions, respondants might > want to keep in > mind that telling them what they think " should " happen sounds > more like a > directive than a suggestion. (from a linguistics point of > view, " should " is > a power word which implies guilt in non-compliance: are they > " bad " parents > if they don't join such a group list?) > > And personally, coming from a non-traditional family style > myself and being > in a non-traditional family, I would think one's opinion on matters of > marriage are entirely irrelevant on this baord, unless that opinion is > specifically sought. Being veg*n parents and raising veg*n > kids are hard > enough without other veg*ns offering their unsolicited views on family > structure. Perhaps a better wording might have been " ... > and I assume they > are[married] ... " . > > I'm new to this list, so if I'm wrong here and this is > typical of this list, > let me know now so I can find another. > Thanks for hearing me out. > Doh > 12-yr veg*n mom to nearly 3-yr veg*n son, single mother by choice. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 2, 2002 Report Share Posted April 2, 2002 Doh, I am also a single veggie mama, and was very offended at this comment. I even read it a couple times over, because I didn't really understand why such a thing would be written. You're not alone!! ~Keara --- Doh! <dohdriver wrote: > > Call me overly sensitive, but I fould this post > somewhat offensive. I'm not > really keen on anyone being told what they *should* > do, especially when > shouted. But even more so, what were you implying > by saying you hope the > vegetarian parents are married? > ===== Starring Me! Storybooks PERSONALIZED CHILDREN'S BOOKS! http://www.starringmestorybooks.com Tax Center - online filing with TurboTax http://http://taxes./ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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