Purification/renee

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Renee

sounds like you understand the situation that the

" hummer " does it as s sort of self soothing and is not

aware she is doing it. If I was the project manager I

would talk to the woman in a positive light and let

her know that in a shared office space it is part of

the office ediquiette to refrain from music or other

repetitive sounds that impact others. I would get

permission from her for others to " remind " her when

she is humming in a kind generous and slightly playful

way with the expectation that those reminders are a

clue for her to put effort in being mindfull and to

not hum. Maybe a substitute for her is that she could

wear some earphones and listen to music! (but only if

she didn't sing along! lol)

Anyway as a manager i tended to be pretty forthright

with compassion and it generally worked.

I have some empathy for her as a child I was a

" singer " especially when I got nervous or afraid and

it drove my parents crazy, they told me " only addle

(and oldtime word for crazy) people sing all the time,

and it REALLY pissed them off when I would do

something like leave my purse in a restaurant and then

notice it half way home, meaning they had to turn the

car around and go back to get it, all the time i am

singing in the back seat.

 

One thing if it doesnt stop and you want to try and

make a practice out of it, I have done this practice

with annoying sound forms for several years is that I

work on attaching a different set of

reactions/pictures to the sound form. For example, my

partner is snoring and it drives me crazy, but i begin

subsituting all the mind chatter of that " I can't

stand one more minute " with " that sounds like waves

crashing in the ocean " it takes awhile, but now i hear

snoring as waves crashing on the ocean and that sound

is just fine with me and I can go to sleep. Another

example when my neighbor left each morning her dogs

would begin barking. Two of them incessently,

assaulting the beautiful quiet of the morning. I

decided to hear the sounds as different instruments in

an ochestra. This one took awhile but eventually my

mind just didnt even hear them anymore. I accepted

them as part of my environment and not as " something

that shouldn't be that way " and even got to where I

could make a joke of it. One morning when someone ask

me when time I wanted to leave, I said " oh about 30

minutes before barking dogs " with no resentment, just

as oh they are part of my life. (they always started

at 7:30 a. Car alarms that go off and then go on and

on before the owner gets up are another annoying sound

I have experimented with. Just to see the sounds as

sound sculputres,.

Anyway this all flows for me, from some buddhist

teachings by a favorite monk of mine, when he said if

something stinks, the stink is in you. lol

This practice doesnt mean to just be passive and never

try and be forthright or go to the person and see what

accomodation can be worked out. It just shows that the

ultimate resolution can as I know you are very aware

comes within

thanks for sharing the problem of the humming it was

interesting

georgeann

 

 

 

But if your manager is not able or willing to give

that kind but firm

 

 

 

--- reneedots <reneedots wrote:

 

> ....well.....we've briefly discussed this type of

> thing before,

> Chris.....I tend to attract deeply wounded people,

> as do you, as

> well. My tendency has been to automatically offer

> assistance in

> whatever way I intuit. However, in this case, what I

> " get " , is that

> this young woman plays the helpless, 'I need

> somebody to take care of

> me, so please feel sorry for me, card' to such a

> degree that what she

> is really expecting is for people to enable her. So,

> any " help " I

> give, in the way that she expects, will actually be

> contrary to what

> her spirit is needing......in other words, I need to

> Not help.

> Further enabling will not help her to grow.

> I ended up talking a bit with the project

> manager, who has an

> interest in seeing that I have enough peace and

> quiet to work. We'll

> see what he can do next Tuesday when everyone is

> back to work.

> You're right that people have been attracted to

> my energy, and for

> the most part, they don't seem to know why. Also, I

> think that they

> don't quite understand the nature of the attraction,

> and only realize

> that for whatever reason, they're attracted to the

> energy. That puts

> responsibility on me to create stronger boundaries.

> The K rushes have come back, to some degree,

> after the holidays.

> As long as I remember to direct them up my spine, I

> stay relatively

> peaceful. I feel that one of the reasons that

> Richard and I are

> there, on the job, is simply to Hold the energy

> there.....does that

> make sense? It's like we're an essential part of the

> grid for that

> location right now. I know that my time there will

> be limited.

> My vision has gone wacky again....traffic lights

> are not one red

> light, but one light surrounded by several lights.

> Things look like

> they have some sort of an outline or bright haze

> around them, but it

> doesn't seem to be very aura-ish to me.

> I have been really irritated that my cd player

> in my car will not

> play my cd's....I've been trying to listen to Tolle,

> and it skips so

> bad that I can't. Anyway, this afternoon I took off

> work and drove

> all the way into San Diego to a place that

> specializes in fixing suto

> cd players, and took the guy for a ride on the Hwy

> to listen to the

> cd's that had been skipping....and they wouldn't do

> it!!!!!! He

> ended up telling me to burn copies of them and see

> if my copies

> played better. What the heck is That all about??!!

> It's been driving

> me nuts for Weeks!! Is this related to the K

> energy??? Am I somehow

> disrupting the cd player electrical flow?

> Blessings, Renee

>

> \

> --- In

> ,

> chrism

> wrote:

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> > Perhaps your colleague is an opportunity for you

> to work with

> forgiveness and love and service and understanding.

> Have her hum some

> tunes that you enjoy! Start humming your self and if

> your good she

> will stop and listen to you. If not then she may get

> the hint in a

> different way. I see her attracted to your energy

> Renee, to your

> Kundalini. This is typical and to be expected.

> People do not know

> why, but they feel compelled to be near an activated

> person, it is

> common and you may have noticed this outside work as

> well. -

> blessings to you Renee and Steve and Sel, - chrism

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