Advise

[Guest guest]

Hi Chris,

Just wanted to ask your opinion on something. Last week I went into

the soccer office at my school to tell the coaches that I no longer

have the passion I once had for soccer and therefore do not want to

be on the team anymore. For a long time I have not wanted to play

the game. Since high school playing soccer has been more like a job

than a hobby. My parents had invested a lot of money so that I could

play soccer on the state and national level for my age group and

therefore be marketable for colleges. It was great because I had a

lot of colleges that were interested in me because of soccer and my

grades. At the same time however I was carrying this disdain for the

sport. Not that I didn't like the sport in and of itself, it was

just that I no longer enjoyed it but I couldn't just give it up when

it was going to seriously help me get into college. These days good

grades alone don't guarantee anything. Colleges are looking for the

well rounded student. So it's my second semester as a freshman in

college and I finally feel comfortable enough to let soccer go

because I'm not on an athletic scholarship and not bound to play

here. The thing is I know soccer helped me get in to this school so

I feel obligated to play. I understand that this is trivial and

doesn't matter what so ever in the grand scheme of life but it would

just be nice to hear some unbiased advise.

Sorry my story's so long

~Yasha

[Guest guest]

Hi Yasha-

 

Did you make an agreement with anyone or any institution to play soccer

for the school team for a certain period of time? If you did when that

time is up so is your obligation. If you didn't you made no commitment

to and are so not obliged. I am sure most colleges expect this sort of

attrition. There may be some peer pressure, or even coaching pressure,

to keep on, but that doesn't represent an obligation either. That you

have a sense of obligation is good and in other situations where your

commitment is clear this will come out as a strength and be a positive

influence on others.

 

Bret

 

On Feb 7, 2006, at 10:31 AM, shay_39_pisces wrote:

 

> Hi Chris,

> Just wanted to ask your opinion on something. Last week I went into

> the soccer office at my school to tell the coaches that I no longer

> have the passion I once had for soccer and therefore do not want to

> be on the team anymore. For a long time I have not wanted to play

> the game. Since high school playing soccer has been more like a job

> than a hobby. My parents had invested a lot of money so that I could

> play soccer on the state and national level for my age group and

> therefore be marketable for colleges. It was great because I had a

> lot of colleges that were interested in me because of soccer and my

> grades. At the same time however I was carrying this disdain for the

> sport. Not that I didn't like the sport in and of itself, it was

> just that I no longer enjoyed it but I couldn't just give it up when

> it was going to seriously help me get into college. These days good

> grades alone don't guarantee anything. Colleges are looking for the

> well rounded student. So it's my second semester as a freshman in

> college and I finally feel comfortable enough to let soccer go

> because I'm not on an athletic scholarship and not bound to play

> here. The thing is I know soccer helped me get in to this school so

> I feel obligated to play. I understand that this is trivial and

> doesn't matter what so ever in the grand scheme of life but it would

> just be nice to hear some unbiased advise.

> Sorry my story's so long

> ~Yasha

>

 

[Guest guest]

Thanks Bret, I am not bound by contract to play here and that's one

of the reasons I wanted to come to this school. I knew before

applying that the athletic department couldn't own me because there

are no athletic scholarships given here. Thank you for letting me

know your thoughts. Most of the people around me are sort of biased

towards my situation.

~Yasha

, Bret Arenson

<bretarenson wrote:

>

> Hi Yasha-

>

> Did you make an agreement with anyone or any institution to play

soccer

> for the school team for a certain period of time? If you did when

that

> time is up so is your obligation. If you didn't you made no

commitment

> to and are so not obliged. I am sure most colleges expect this

sort of

> attrition. There may be some peer pressure, or even coaching

pressure,

> to keep on, but that doesn't represent an obligation either. That

you

> have a sense of obligation is good and in other situations where

your

> commitment is clear this will come out as a strength and be a

positive

> influence on others.

>

> Bret

>

> On Feb 7, 2006, at 10:31 AM, shay_39_pisces wrote:

>

> > Hi Chris,

> > Just wanted to ask your opinion on something. Last week I went

into

> > the soccer office at my school to tell the coaches that I no

longer

> > have the passion I once had for soccer and therefore do not want

to

> > be on the team anymore. For a long time I have not wanted to play

> > the game. Since high school playing soccer has been more like a

job

> > than a hobby. My parents had invested a lot of money so that I

could

> > play soccer on the state and national level for my age group and

> > therefore be marketable for colleges. It was great because I had

a

> > lot of colleges that were interested in me because of soccer and

my

> > grades. At the same time however I was carrying this disdain for

the

> > sport. Not that I didn't like the sport in and of itself, it was

> > just that I no longer enjoyed it but I couldn't just give it up

when

> > it was going to seriously help me get into college. These days

good

> > grades alone don't guarantee anything. Colleges are looking for

the

> > well rounded student. So it's my second semester as a freshman in

> > college and I finally feel comfortable enough to let soccer go

> > because I'm not on an athletic scholarship and not bound to play

> > here. The thing is I know soccer helped me get in to this

school so

> > I feel obligated to play. I understand that this is trivial and

> > doesn't matter what so ever in the grand scheme of life but it

would

> > just be nice to hear some unbiased advise.

> > Sorry my story's so long

> > ~Yasha

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

No worries Yasha. This is your life and though I see your concern, regarding the

integrity of your reasons for being there, as we grow things will change and

honesty with yourself and the coaches is the right course - good decision - c

 

 

shay_39_pisces <yoi1 wrote:

Hi Chris,

Just wanted to ask your opinion on something. Last week I went into

the soccer office at my school to tell the coaches that I no longer

have the passion I once had for soccer and therefore do not want to

be on the team anymore. For a long time I have not wanted to play

the game. Since high school playing soccer has been more like a job

than a hobby. My parents had invested a lot of money so that I could

play soccer on the state and national level for my age group and

therefore be marketable for colleges. It was great because I had a

lot of colleges that were interested in me because of soccer and my

grades. At the same time however I was carrying this disdain for the

sport. Not that I didn't like the sport in and of itself, it was

just that I no longer enjoyed it but I couldn't just give it up when

it was going to seriously help me get into college. These days good

grades alone don't guarantee anything. Colleges are looking for the

well rounded student. So it's my second semester as a freshman in

college and I finally feel comfortable enough to let soccer go

because I'm not on an athletic scholarship and not bound to play

here. The thing is I know soccer helped me get in to this school so

I feel obligated to play. I understand that this is trivial and

doesn't matter what so ever in the grand scheme of life but it would

just be nice to hear some unbiased advise.

Sorry my story's so long

~Yasha