I think this is the bottom line....and mine

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reneedots <reneedots wrote: Chris....not everything is a

conspiracy. When you presume to know

what is in the mind of another, you are most often mistaken. We are all

narcissistic little bubbles, concerned first with ourselves. What was

your assumption, that I was trying to figure out the truth of someone

else's fantasies....or my Own?

 

Hello Renee,

My presumed assumption was your outing of the other person, the

" True Love " , using this list as a vehicle for your venting anger at not being

appreciated by that person romantically. Then couching your statements in

rhetoric that is condemnatory and judgmental, and projected towards others whom

you leak information too but only just so much as to support your point of view

at the expense of the truth of the other person. Whom I know could read this

list. This puts me in an uncomfortable position. I will stay neutral, as I love

and appreciate both of you.

 

You have an issue about not being appreciated by your beloved. You feel

betrayed, and angry. So you bring this before us for what purpose Renee? That we

take your side on it? Woe unto those who do not. You reward those who agree or

are friendly to your position then condemn others who are not. In this case me.

Which is fine. Have a ball. I do not have a stake in your creation. This is you

and your beloved, your story, your agreements and your resolution.

 

The only reference here to the Kundalini is the syndrome nature of your, imho,

condition. I'm sure beloved is aware of this aswell. That you choose to do

nothing about the source of your discontent is once again your choice, your free

choice. The only person who allows ourselves to be hurt is ourselves, trite

perhaps but truthful. No fantasy there.

 

You have the choice to change or not, stay or go, forgive or not. You have a

universe of choice. If you wish to be coaxed and coddled, sympathized with and a

large heaping portion of compassion on the side well you've got it! I do feel

sorry and compassionate for you! I sympathize but not at the expense of the

truth as I see it. I send you love and healing as you may or may not wish to

accept it. K syndrome is tough!

 

If it wasn't so important for you to make your own choices, and if you gave a

fart about any of my suggestions LIKE, forgiveness and changing agreements and

being flexible with beloved. UNCONDITIONAL love is a two way street and some

take longer than others to learn so the unconditional lover is patient and

understanding and so on.... If beloved is still important to you.

 

I do not see this as a conspiracy. I see this situation as someone going

through a painful realization. That we age. We lose the blush of youth and are

not seen by others as we once were. Regardless of who sees us differently,

beloved or stranger. Back that up with issues of abandonment and other betrayals

then amplify it a thousand times with Kundalini and yes, you've got pain. Alot

of it. The stone is being polished and it hurts. That's the bottom line as I see

it Renee. As you scream in agony I will scream with you, as will most of your

friends here on the list. Please don't flit and flirt about what you think

fantasy is, as you push those darts into your beloved. I wont cause him pain or

you unless you use this list as a battle ground. So please be here in peace.

Pain is a constant companion to us all as we learn to tread the Kundalyn waters,

if you learn to swim the pain will pass. If you don't it will last. There it is

again .....your choice.-blessings and love to you both

- chrism