Guest guest Posted April 1, 2004 Report Share Posted April 1, 2004 Hello, all! Hope everyone is well! :-) I am writing for input and advice on a new dilemma I am facing.... After years of having a cruelty-free and vegan home (especially the kitchen), I am now involved in a relationship with a meat eater. We will be moving in together shortly and I am wondering how to incorporate my veganism with her eating habits...Luckily my partner is willing to make any accommodations necessary (different pans, utensils, fridges, etc.). I am just not sure at this point what will be necessary, what I will be comfortable with and how not to make her uncomfortable in her own kitchen, too! Has anyone had any experience with incorporating our very different eating/lifestyles together? I would greatly appreciate any words of wisdom, cautions, suggestions or anything else. Thank you all in advance for your input. Take care. Renae Small Business $15K Web Design Giveaway - Enter today Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2004 Report Share Posted April 1, 2004 Let your meat-eating sweetie prepare her meat dishes and you prepare your vegan things. The beauty is, it sounds like ya'll are really close to be moving in... it's not biggy for a meat-eater to eat some vegan dishes so maybe a vegan meal now and then... or you have a veggie burger and she has a " regular " one and ya'll share the side dishes. It's not hard to do. Just get her a few pans and skillets for her meat. Tuck the lunch meat & cheeses into the rotter and put your veggies out on the shelf, share the door space and you got it made. peace and best wishes nikki Hello, all! Hope everyone is well! :-) I am writing for input and advice on a new dilemma I am facing.... After years of having a cruelty-free and vegan home (especially the kitchen), I am now involved in a relationship with a meat eater. We will be moving in together shortly and I am wondering how to incorporate my veganism with her eating habits...Luckily my partner is willing to make any accommodations necessary (different pans, utensils, fridges, etc.). I am just not sure at this point what will be necessary, what I will be comfortable with and how not to make her uncomfortable in her own kitchen, too! Has anyone had any experience with incorporating our very different eating/lifestyles together? I would greatly appreciate any words of wisdom, cautions, suggestions or anything else. Thank you all in advance for your input. Take care. Renae --- Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.618 / Virus Database: 397 - Release 3/9/2004 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2004 Report Share Posted April 1, 2004 I am vegan and I live with my mom, brother and roommate. All of them eat meat so I am the minority. I have my own cabinets for the specifically vegan foods and a seperate drawer in the fridge for all my stuff and seperate section of the freezer just for me. As far as pans and utensils, I can not afford that and I don't really think it is necessary. It is all washed throughly or put through the dishwasher before I will use it. I really haven't run into any real problems because they are all aware of my veganism. They understand that I am not going to want my food on the same plate that was holding meat, I wont use their fork to try something that is vegan if it has been used and not washed to eat meat or something. As long as your partner is supportive and understanding, you really shouldn't run into any major problems. Good luck. Noelle - renaerokicki Thursday, April 01, 2004 12:57 PM Vegan falls in love with meat eater! Hello, all! Hope everyone is well! :-) I am writing for input and advice on a new dilemma I am facing.... After years of having a cruelty-free and vegan home (especially the kitchen), I am now involved in a relationship with a meat eater. We will be moving in together shortly and I am wondering how to incorporate my veganism with her eating habits...Luckily my partner is willing to make any accommodations necessary (different pans, utensils, fridges, etc.). I am just not sure at this point what will be necessary, what I will be comfortable with and how not to make her uncomfortable in her own kitchen, too! Has anyone had any experience with incorporating our very different eating/lifestyles together? I would greatly appreciate any words of wisdom, cautions, suggestions or anything else. Thank you all in advance for your input. Take care. Renae Small Business $15K Web Design Giveaway - Enter today Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 2, 2004 Report Share Posted April 2, 2004 Hi Renae: Well, good luck, for starters! My partner of 13 years, whom I have lived with for 12, is very sympathetic to AR issues, but still insists on being an omnivore, though she admires my commitment, and does not eat fish, seafood, veal or lamb. My advice is to make sure that you have very clear ground rules set up in advance , and that you are confident that your partner will adhere to them. If the rules are too flexible, they will be bent! Think about how you will feel to have/see/smell non-vegan food in your home. Fortunately, I love to cook and my partner likes most of the dishes I make. So, she has more or less agreed not to cook in the house. However, she sometimes will bring in non-vegan food. If it involves meat, she uses plastic utensils and paper/special plates. If it involves dairy, she uses the regular dishes. This works for me since my dishes were vegetarian before I was vegan, so cheese etc on them doesn't bother me (much!). We do have dairy and some eggs in the house, which I can tolerate, though I am not thrilled about. However, I am never happy to see/smell it in my home. We have also had some disagreements about her desire to have a grill outside. As far as I am concerned, than involves the meat-tools and the smell of cooking meat in my home. Other considerations are when you share expenses, delineating whether you are paying for meat, eggs or dairy-milk. I am not happy about purchasing dairy milk for her, but I feel more strongly about paying for dead animal flesh ( I don't). The only undisputed carnivores in our home are our 4 felines. They eat some canned food, and I wash their dishes with a special sponge in one sink (i.e.: half of a double sink) reserved only for their dishes. They have china bowls which we hand wash, rather than put through the dishwasher, to keep it veg. as well. Please feel free to write me off-list, if you like. And once again, good luck! Shelley (Renae wrote: > I am writing for input and advice on a new dilemma I am facing.... > > After years of having a cruelty-free and vegan home (especially the kitchen), I am now involved in a relationship with a meat eater. We will be moving in together shortly and I am wondering how to incorporate my veganism with her eating habits...Luckily my partner is willing to make any accommodations necessary (different pans, utensils, fridges, etc.). I am just not sure at this point what will be necessary, what I will be comfortable with and how not to make her uncomfortable in her own kitchen, too! Has anyone had any experience with incorporating our very different eating/lifestyles together? I would greatly appreciate any words of wisdom, cautions, suggestions or anything else. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 3, 2004 Report Share Posted April 3, 2004 I must agree with what Shelley wrote. You can do it if you really love the person, but it is not always easy. I went vegan last year, but my husband did not. He cares very much about animals. We have close to 60 dogs that we have rescued. My husband picks up every stray he sees, takes it to the vet for shots and to be spayed / neutered, and we take care of those we can't find homes for. He has never hunted and doesn't care to associate with anyone that does. He has been supportive of my decision and thinks it is great that I am vegan, but he just doesn't believe he can do it. I hope that eventually he will become vegan. I have tried to explain to him that there are vegan alternatives to nearly everything. I did get him to try some Tofutti ice cream and he did like it, but he is not willing to even try most foods. It certainly would make life easier if he were vegan. Now that we have moved to the country and see our neighbor's cows, I am hoping he will have a hard time continuing to eat meat. There are a couple of the cows that come up to the gate at the edge of the property and will let us pet them. These neighbors only have a few cows and do not raise them for slaughter. It is very hard to watch my husband eat meat and to have to smell his food. At first, I would try to cook something for him and the vegan alternative for me. For example, I might make tacos one night. Mine would be made with fake meat crumbles and vegan cheese. I thought this would help he see that vegans can eat regular food. I rarely cook for him anymore. It just makes me sick having to cook animal flesh. Good luck and if you have any more questions, feel free to ask. Take care, Janet Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 4, 2004 Report Share Posted April 4, 2004 I've been vegan for 21 years, and my wife vegan for 6 years. Both our young children have been vegan from birth. While I have one or two meat-eating friends, I personally could never live in a relationship with a meat-eater, and, long-term, with a non-vegan. I love cooking vegan food (I do the cooking at my place - see some of my recipes at www.vegecentric.com.au), and the older I get the less I want to have to deal with food-related ethical issues in my own home. Also, it becomes even more problematic when raising children if only one parent is vegan/vegetarian, or different religion, or whatever. If you can put up with living with a meat eater and having a relationship with them, good luck to you! Hopefully your good example will convert them, and that would be better for everybody. Tom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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