Guest guest Posted December 19, 2002 Report Share Posted December 19, 2002 In a message dated 12/19/02 1:28:08 PM Pacific Standard Time, sseric57 writes: Any ideas and experiences will be appreciated. Okay, but I don't think you're going to care for my or Miss Manners' answer. It is the duty of the host to make her guests comfortable, within reason. An invitation to dinner is not really about food, but companionship. Dinner is the excuse. The duty of the guest is to be as non-disruptive as possible. Imagine the scenario: One meat and potatoes indulger, one fruitarian, one vegan but honey okay, one vegan/strict, a vegetarian, one fish-okay vegetarian, a no gluten, etc., etc. Is the hostess really required to behave as a restaurant, specializing in deletions and alterations to the menu? No. If a hostess inquires about a diet, that's an entirely different deal and you're free to let your preferences be known. Otherwise, you must eat around the offered dinner selection, taking what you can. Because that might mean sparse pickings, eat before you go just in case. Personally, I'd change the venue and invite them to YOUR house. ~Storm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 19, 2002 Report Share Posted December 19, 2002 If you are invited to someone's home for dinner who doesn't know you at all (yes, our first meeting is dinner at their home), how do you inform them you do not eat animal products without seeming rude or intrusive. People understand vegetarian, for the most part, but not many think about butter, egg white, etc. It seems a careful balance between seeming picky and outrageous. It's hard enough explaining to family. Any ideas and experiences will be appreciated. The best of the season to everyone! Eric Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 19, 2002 Report Share Posted December 19, 2002 Eric, truth is always best, but the problem is that the longer you wait, the worse it will be for all. Perhaps, allowing them a way out? Offer to come after dinner and you'll bring an after dinner vegan desert for everyone...something like that. Rose Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 2, 2009 Report Share Posted April 2, 2009 I'm new to the group and have been watching to see how things are done before jumping in, but this intrigued me. We have a rule of thumb that we go by, in that we never leave the house hungry or without going to the restroom. You never know when somebody else is entertaining what their agenda is and have to be sure that you don't need to depend on them. It is unusual to order pizza and not order cheese pizza for children. As a rule, younger children prefer non-meat menus and require more carbs. Bye-the-bye, thank you for allowing me in your group and I will post a recipe soon. --- On Thu, 4/2/09, Susan Roubidoux <susanroubidoux wrote: Susan Roubidoux <susanroubidoux Question of Etiquette Thursday, April 2, 2009, 4:48 PM Hi! We were just invited to a birthday party for our friends' kids. It was at a local restaurant in a party room and they ordered pizza for everyone. The party was great, but the problem is that ALL 10 pizzas had meat on them so my dh and I couldn't eat. I know that it was simply an oversight on my friend's part (we've only been vegetarian for about 6 months and don't often eat with them...although she knows we are veggie) but should we have said something to them? We contemplated ordering our own food but didn't want to be rude (luckily it was a short party and we were able to wait until we got home to eat). What have you all done in situations like that? -- Susan Roubidoux Check out my book: 101 Ways to make Studying Easier and Faster for College Students: What Every Students Needs to Know Explained Simply http://tiny. cc/101StudyTips Check out my blog " Because I'm the Mommy " http://noyoucanthav eicecreamforbrea kfast.blogspot. com/ SMR Writing Services FLCW - Freelance Commercial Writing Services www.smrwritingservi ces.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 2, 2009 Report Share Posted April 2, 2009 Bring it up before you go. They will then order a cheese pizza and if another vegetarian attends there is something for them to eat too. Someone might bring a friend, date or partner that is a vegetarian and how grateful they will be to see a cheese pizza sitting there. Brad Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 2, 2009 Report Share Posted April 2, 2009 I end up having to eat at steak or BBQ places quite a bit (unless I'm the one picking the restaurant!) -- that's Kansas City! I don't think there's any such thing as a " vegetarian restaurant " for miles and miles and miles! I'm always very happy with a salad and a baked potato at a steakhouse, they really make great baked potatoes, but I always have to remember to tell them no bacon. BBQ places are sometimes harder -- I just don't go to the little hole-in-the-wall places that have only fries, coleslaw, or beans (always with meat) as sides. At one of the sit-down, waiter-serves-you places in town, they do grilled marinated veggies which are awesome, I get those and a potato. Audrey S. On Thu, Apr 2, 2009 at 6:36 PM, Jeanne B <treazured wrote: > Every time we are invited to a command dinner at some of my husband's > relatives, they put meat in everything. I put a tiny bit of things on my > plate and stir it around and make believe I'm eating it. Ugh. Not like I'm > missing anything, KWIM? > > When we're invited out to dinner, the others usually pick out a meat place, > like a bbq or fish restaurant. I order a salad and eat a lot of biscuits or > rolls. Jeanne in GA > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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