Time keeping was RE: Hate (was tibetans vegan?) [OT]

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What about a person who is consistently late? I had a relationship with a

man who almost never turned up on time. Sometimes it was because the trains

were late, other times he was delayed at work etc, but he always had an

" excuse " . What he didn't acknowledge was that I just wasn't important enough

to him to make the effort to be on time.

 

Cheers

 

Viv

 

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Oliver Slay [oliver]

Tuesday, March 26, 2002 12:25 PM

 

Re: Hate (was tibetans vegan?) [OT]

 

 

if your friend is late to meet you ... and you get angry with them that is

fine ... but if you carry that anger on after they have explained why they

are late then you are in the wrong... if a person is late they have a good

reason... it does not make them a 'bad' person ... it is the circumstances

which cause that person to be late... and your emotions arise because you

do not know the circumstances which make that person late... if you

imagine whilst waiting that there could be a million things that could keep

your friend from being on time ... then you will find that you do not get

angry ... (except perhaps with the circumstances you have imagined....)

[Guest guest]

then the issue is about how important he sees you ... you either get out of

the relationship or go out on your own ... get rid of the guy (which you

have) ... or make him think ...

 

did you end up hating him tho?

 

Z

 

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" Viv " <Viv

 

Wednesday, March 27, 2002 1:35 AM

Time keeping was RE: Hate (was tibetans vegan?) [OT]

 

 

> What about a person who is consistently late? I had a relationship with a

> man who almost never turned up on time. Sometimes it was because the

trains

> were late, other times he was delayed at work etc, but he always had an

> " excuse " . What he didn't acknowledge was that I just wasn't important

enough

> to him to make the effort to be on time.

>

> Cheers

>

> Viv

>

> " You'll Never Walk Alone with a Basenji "

> www.veganvillage.co.uk

> www.vegansociety.com

> http://VEGAN-info.com/index.htm

>

>

>

> Oliver Slay [oliver]

> Tuesday, March 26, 2002 12:25 PM

>

> Re: Hate (was tibetans vegan?) [OT]

>

>

> if your friend is late to meet you ... and you get angry with them that is

> fine ... but if you carry that anger on after they have explained why they

> are late then you are in the wrong... if a person is late they have a

good

> reason... it does not make them a 'bad' person ... it is the circumstances

> which cause that person to be late... and your emotions arise because you

> do not know the circumstances which make that person late... if you

> imagine whilst waiting that there could be a million things that could

keep

> your friend from being on time ... then you will find that you do not get

> angry ... (except perhaps with the circumstances you have imagined....)

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

No. He was a prat. My own fault for going out with him in the first place.

 

Cheers

 

Viv

 

" You'll Never Walk Alone with a Basenji "

www.veganvillage.co.uk

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http://VEGAN-info.com/index.htm

 

 

 

Oliver Slay [oliver]

Wednesday, March 27, 2002 2:04 AM

 

Re: Time keeping was RE: Hate (was tibetans vegan?)

[OT]

 

 

then the issue is about how important he sees you ... you either get out of

the relationship or go out on your own ... get rid of the guy (which you

have) ... or make him think ...

 

did you end up hating him tho?

 

Z

 

-

" Viv " <Viv

 

Wednesday, March 27, 2002 1:35 AM

Time keeping was RE: Hate (was tibetans vegan?) [OT]

 

 

> What about a person who is consistently late? I had a relationship with a

> man who almost never turned up on time. Sometimes it was because the

trains

> were late, other times he was delayed at work etc, but he always had an

> " excuse " . What he didn't acknowledge was that I just wasn't important

enough

> to him to make the effort to be on time.

>

> Cheers

>

> Viv

>

> " You'll Never Walk Alone with a Basenji "

> www.veganvillage.co.uk

> www.vegansociety.com

> http://VEGAN-info.com/index.htm

>

>

>

> Oliver Slay [oliver]

> Tuesday, March 26, 2002 12:25 PM

>

> Re: Hate (was tibetans vegan?) [OT]

>

>

> if your friend is late to meet you ... and you get angry with them that is

> fine ... but if you carry that anger on after they have explained why they

> are late then you are in the wrong... if a person is late they have a

good

> reason... it does not make them a 'bad' person ... it is the circumstances

> which cause that person to be late... and your emotions arise because you

> do not know the circumstances which make that person late... if you

> imagine whilst waiting that there could be a million things that could

keep

> your friend from being on time ... then you will find that you do not get

> angry ... (except perhaps with the circumstances you have imagined....)

>

>

>

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This wasn't the man who was married with a small child, was it?

 

Lesley

 

 

 

Viv [Viv]

27 March 2002 18:20

 

RE: Time keeping was RE: Hate (was tibetans vegan?)

[OT]

 

 

No. He was a prat. My own fault for going out with him in the first place.

 

Cheers

 

Viv

 

" You'll Never Walk Alone with a Basenji "

www.veganvillage.co.uk

www.vegansociety.com

http://VEGAN-info.com/index.htm

 

 

 

Oliver Slay [oliver]

Wednesday, March 27, 2002 2:04 AM

 

Re: Time keeping was RE: Hate (was tibetans vegan?)

[OT]

 

 

then the issue is about how important he sees you ... you either get out of

the relationship or go out on your own ... get rid of the guy (which you

have) ... or make him think ...

 

did you end up hating him tho?

 

Z

 

-

" Viv " <Viv

 

Wednesday, March 27, 2002 1:35 AM

Time keeping was RE: Hate (was tibetans vegan?) [OT]

 

 

> What about a person who is consistently late? I had a relationship with a

> man who almost never turned up on time. Sometimes it was because the

trains

> were late, other times he was delayed at work etc, but he always had an

> " excuse " . What he didn't acknowledge was that I just wasn't important

enough

> to him to make the effort to be on time.

>

> Cheers

>

> Viv

>

> " You'll Never Walk Alone with a Basenji "

> www.veganvillage.co.uk

> www.vegansociety.com

> http://VEGAN-info.com/index.htm

>

>

>

> Oliver Slay [oliver]

> Tuesday, March 26, 2002 12:25 PM

>

> Re: Hate (was tibetans vegan?) [OT]

>

>

> if your friend is late to meet you ... and you get angry with them that is

> fine ... but if you carry that anger on after they have explained why they

> are late then you are in the wrong... if a person is late they have a

good

> reason... it does not make them a 'bad' person ... it is the circumstances

> which cause that person to be late... and your emotions arise because you

> do not know the circumstances which make that person late... if you

> imagine whilst waiting that there could be a million things that could

keep

> your friend from being on time ... then you will find that you do not get

> angry ... (except perhaps with the circumstances you have imagined....)

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

No. He was the previous one. The married one is still married, daughter's 3rd

birthday end of next month. With a bit of luck he'll be getting some (expert)

help with his problems now as he's been to the doc & has got a couple of

referrals.

Keep everything crossed for him!

 

Viv

 

>

> " Lesley Dove " <Lesley

> Wed 27/Mar/2002 19:40 CET

>

> RE: Time keeping was RE: Hate (was tibetans vegan?) [OT]

>

>

> This wasn't the man who was married with a small child, was it?

>

> Lesley

>

>

>

> Viv [Viv]

> 27 March 2002 18:20

>

> RE: Time keeping was RE: Hate (was tibetans vegan?)

> [OT]

>

>

> No. He was a prat. My own fault for going out with him in the first place.

>

> Cheers

>

> Viv

>

> " You'll Never Walk Alone with a Basenji "

> www.veganvillage.co.uk

> www.vegansociety.com

> http://VEGAN-info.com/index.htm

>

 

 

Cheers