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vegan-network, " Angie Wright " <angiewright@n...> wrote:

> I've thought about it ,but it seems expensive [ £100+ ].,and there

might not

> be many to choos from.I suppose I'm being a bit negative but I

always felt

> it was better to meet people on Demos or Veggie groups or

internet . Angie

>

I largely agree.

I joined VMM when I was not quite 20, it's a good idea because so

many veggies and vegans are isolated from any organised social groups

or AR activity, and it might have worked for me if I had given it a

proper chance but the timing for me was bad. I did correspond with

someone and we became good penfriends and ages later we met once, but

by the time he first wrote to me, I was back with my non-veggie

boyfriend but despite that fact he still wanted me as a friend. I had

also written to a couple of others off VMM before I was back with my

boyfriend, but one of them just didn't feel right when I spoke on the

phone to him, I felt he was slightly taking the mickey out of me, so

I decided not to bother with him even though he was the younger of

the two I wrote to and nearer my age, I think the feeling was mutual

anyway, and the other who should have been more mature (he was about

30) was offended when I wrote to him to say I was back with my

boyfriend (we hadn't even met or got close so he had no right to be

offended, and I had been honest and told him immediately that I was

back with my b/f, so he was a strange one too). A year or two later I

met him in person at a BUAV AGM (he was running for council I think

and I recognised his name, it was definitely him) and afterwards I

went up to him and apologised again over the whole VMM thing, I felt

we had ended the brief correspondence on a sour note, which I

regretted, and you know what? He didn't even remember corresponding

with me! I really felt a little bit insulted by that since he had

been really annoyed at the time, as if he thought I had joined VMM

just to mess men about.

I think these agencies are OK for some people, but I think the

pressure of meeting someone through an agency makes some people feel

uncomfortable and even makes them act odd and unnatural (I think I

would have felt a little uncomfortable if it had got as far as me

meeting anyone), and some of us do feel better just going to groups

and getting to know people there, less pressure and more of a natural

process, somehow felt more comfortable for me.

Despite the horror stories of love gone wrong over the internet,

statistically it is a highly successful way to meet people.

I saw a survey once which showed better results overall for

relationships started online than those started offline.

I think it's unfair the way it has been stigmatised.

Since I met husband number one at the BUAV where we were both doing

volunteer work, and husband number two through Young Vegetarians and

London Vegans, I heartily recommend veggie/AR groups as a way to meet

a partner if shared values and beliefs are a high priority for you.

Not looking for number three though!

 

Lesley