Guest guest Posted March 2, 2002 Report Share Posted March 2, 2002 Hey there! First, welcome! I went throught that, and I'm still kinda going through that. But the way I handle it, I don't even let people get the chance to make me feel isolated, awkward or upset...I make it very clear that veganism is MY chosen lifestyle. My parents hated the idea at first, mainly because they were not used to having a vegan at the dinner table (and me rejecting 80% of the gifts they give me!) but I told them that if they love me, they should respect my decision and understand that any dispute over my decision is uncalled for. As for my friends, my best friend asked me, " How the hell are you going to survive you carnivorous, designer-craving shopaholic??? No more leather, no more down quilts, no more blah, blah, blah! " I told her that as my (best) friend, the last thing I needed was discouragement over my decision, I just needed her support, and if I couldn't get that from her, I would be utterly disappointed. I also encountered non-vegans asking me silly things like, " You know the soap you use contains animal fats, right? " And I go, " You know there's such a thing called vegetable glycerin that they can use in place of the animal ones, right? " People have tried this way and that to make a fool out of me for being vegan. I tried my best not to give them a chance, so it's great that you're already reading up on a lot about veganism! I know that not-telling-people-you're-vegan thing, I don't tell people I'm vegan until they get to know me better, so as to avoid prejudice, but I can only withold that info if I don't eat with them before they have gotten to know me better! Not telling people you're vegan works in some situations where you're just not in the mood for unnecessary debates over the issue, and this issue is one which meateaters tend to take SO personally that they completely miss the idea behind being vegan. Advice...hmmm...I would say... (ok, this may not sound like much advice but) take it easy and go with the flow. Educate your loved ones on the benefits of veganism and that it is NOT a personal attack on them! By going vegan, you did NOT announce that you have now turned against THEM. I'm sure your friends will adjust to your change, and that's what everyone around you needs to do - adjust. They really don't have another option. Try not to feel guilty should they begin to offer going to vegan-friendly restaurants, for example, because it would only work when THEY give in, not you. Don't let people make you feel selfish because others must give in to your needs, because non-vegans eat anything and everything, while vegans don't...they may make a point that you chose not to eat this and that, but if this occurs, lay before them your reasons for becoming a vegan AGAIN, sometimes people can become forgetful! By the way, start cooking! Vegan cooking is so much funner and grocery shopping - as long as you steer clear of the meat sections - cannot be any better! When I first went vegan, I began to see so many products that I had overlooked before because the attention was always on the meat. Don't worry, you'll be fine! You can always turn to us for EXTRA support! Good luck! And Have Fun! Honor Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 2, 2002 Report Share Posted March 2, 2002 hey if i had a boyfriend, and he didnt respect my decisions then i would wonder where the relationship was going. talk to him and tell him that this is something important to you and you would feel better about all the pressure if he would staqnd by you. and remember, YOURE the one whose in the right. theyre the ones slaughtering innocent animals, spreading diseases such as mad cow disease, foot and mouth, salmonella, e coli, etc... all out of convenience and profit. sometimes it makes me mad when people question my desicion, but i know that thats just what they have been trained to do. i usually dont take it personally and i hope you dont think that i am some elitist vegan. i dont think im better than anyone i just think theres been a lot of unfortunate agricultural practices that people are blind of. the problem i have is when people STILL dont accept it and make fun of me after i explain the reasons to them. those are the people that have no compassion. my definition of suffering just happens to include all creatures that suffer. does that really sound all that crazy? and if they try to make you think that it IS crazy then maybe you should hang out with someone else. nobody likes to feel bad about their decisions. i think its great that you are vegan! YAY!! spiggy -- Priscilla Pelkey spiggy - email (210) 576-2701 x5770 - voicemail/fax ---- " annis_seed " <shivapuri wrote: [Non text/plain message body suppressed] FREE voicemail, email, and fax...all in one place. Sign Up Now! http://www.onebox.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2002 Report Share Posted March 3, 2002 annis_seed wrote: > > I am a new vegan and have been able to find a lot of information > about diets/nutrition etc but I can find NO information about > social/family responses to veganism. They vary. > My problem is not what I eat, > the problem is my boyfriend doesn't like the " idea " of me being vegan > (despite the fact we mainly ate vego before my veganism). I need > coping mechanisms! You need coping mechanisms for your *boyfriend*? Well, it depends what their problem is: * " You're vegan, so you must be an extremist " * You'll waste away * It's so difficult If they have a genuine concern for your health, then get a copy of Vegan Nutrition, and take care of your Iron, Calcium, B12, and Iodine. And do take care - some vegans do get ill because they are not getting nutrients they miss because they're not taking any care at all. Overall, vegans live longer. Make sure they know that. Consider getting the colourful vitamin and mineral wallchart to stick on your wall where genuinely concerned people can see it. Personally, I don't feel that veganism is extreme. It's just living off plants. Locking 30,000 hens in a shed, on wire they can't stand on, with a A4-sized area each, and not cleaning their shit and corpses out so that people need breathing apparatus to enter ... that's extreme. > And it is not only my boyfriend - my best friend > thinks I'm crazy, " how are we going to eat out? " etc. I find myself > not telling anyone I am vegan just to avoid the backlash. Any advice? > Eating out is more difficult, because you have to trust other people to respect your profoundly held beliefs. Trust is based on knowing someone, and restaurants are run by strangers. Veggie restaurants tend to be okay. Learning to cook vegan is a great alternative. And tends to convince people that vegan food is good. Alex (author of Vegan London) has a good comment " Being vegan is dead easy when you know how " . I'd suggest reading a couple of books, and not worrying if you get something non-vegan by accident, or there's something you can't cut out. -- Ian McDonald http://www.mcdonald.me.uk/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2002 Report Share Posted March 3, 2002 In a message dated 3/3/02 6:20:39 AM Pacific Standard Time, ian writes: << If they have a genuine concern for your health, then get a copy of Vegan Nutrition, and take care of your Iron, Calcium, B12, and Iodine. And do take care - some vegans do get ill because they are not getting nutrients they miss because they're not taking any care at all. Overall, vegans live longer. Make sure they know that. Consider getting the colourful vitamin and mineral wallchart to stick on your wall where genuinely concerned people can see it. >> sorry...i still feel that the " normal " population has a bigger problem with nutrition then the average vegan.........everything except B!2 is readily available to a vegan diet, as long as you ain't eatin crap...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 4, 2002 Report Share Posted March 4, 2002 yeah most vitamins are shite anyway. they either arent the natural form of the vatamin and thus are not absorbed or they have a ridiculous amount of things you dont need. like if you go into holland and barrett for example, probably 99% of their vitamins arent vegan in the first place, and delving further into the daily value, youll see that theres usually more than 100% of all the B vitamins. i think its B6 that accumulates in the body and can become toxic in high levels. otehr things such as 'tocopherols' (vitamin E) yeah but which one it is? there are two forms of tocopheral, and one of them is completely useless to the human body. i want to know if its going to be absorbed!! what a waste of money. spiggy -- Priscilla Pelkey spiggy - email (210) 576-2701 x5770 - voicemail/fax ---- EBbrewpunx wrote: [Non text/plain message body suppressed] FREE voicemail, email, and fax...all in one place. Sign Up Now! http://www.onebox.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 4, 2002 Report Share Posted March 4, 2002 EBbrewpunx wrote: > > In a message dated 3/3/02 6:20:39 AM Pacific Standard Time, > ian writes: > > << If they have a genuine concern for your health, then get a copy of Vegan > Nutrition, and take care of your Iron, Calcium, B12, and Iodine. And do > take care - some vegans do get ill because they are not getting > nutrients they miss because they're not taking any care at all. Overall, > vegans live longer. Make sure they know that. Consider getting the > colourful vitamin and mineral wallchart to stick on your wall where > genuinely concerned people can see it. >> > > sorry...i still feel that the " normal " population has a bigger problem with > nutrition then the average vegan.........everything except B!2 is readily > available to a vegan diet, as long as you ain't eatin crap...... > Well, actually, if you are eating crap, then all the micronutrients are available, including B12. -- Ian McDonald http://www.mcdonald.me.uk/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 6, 2002 Report Share Posted March 6, 2002 not advocating that wot i'm saying is, as long as you eat a balanced vegan diet, wot is to worry about? non-vegans make such a damn issue of vegan nutritions, as they belly up to the local taco bell and soak up some fat..its silly face it..with a good balanced vegan diet, you will not have problems... i am gettin sick of hearin about " where do you get yer protein? " all the dang ol time.... silly silly silly fraggle Dr Ian McDonald <ian wrote: > > >EBbrewpunx wrote: >> >> In a message dated 3/3/02 6:20:39 AM Pacific Standard Time, >> ian writes: >> >> << If they have a genuine concern for your health, then get a copy of Vegan >> Nutrition, and take care of your Iron, Calcium, B12, and Iodine. And do >> take care - some vegans do get ill because they are not getting >> nutrients they miss because they're not taking any care at all. Overall, >> vegans live longer. Make sure they know that. Consider getting the >> colourful vitamin and mineral wallchart to stick on your wall where >> genuinely concerned people can see it. >> >> >> sorry...i still feel that the " normal " population has a bigger problem with >> nutrition then the average vegan.........everything except B!2 is readily >> available to a vegan diet, as long as you ain't eatin crap...... > >Simply because omnis and veggies tend to be overweight doesn't mean we >should take our eye off the ball. > >-- >Ian McDonald > >http://www.mcdonald.me.uk/ > > >To to the Digest Mode [ recommended ], send an email to: vegan-network-digest > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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