Support for a beginner

[Guest guest]

Dear Monte,

 

I second Niz's commendations to you on your honesty and williingness

to tell us " the good, the bad, and the ugly. " I wanted to add myself

to the list of your supporters among us and share with you what I

think may help you out. I'm glad you ask for help, because it gives

us a chance to be helpful, which is what _we_ want (just like

everyone).

 

For me, what has been most powerful in assisting me to keep walking

the raw path, is participating in the community. I have heard many

others attest similarly. I go to every single potluck, unless I'm

out of town or have some other pressing engagement. From the time I

walked in the door at my first potluck two years ago, Raw Seattle has

been my main social group, my chosen family, as opposed to my

biological family. I'm sure you've heard that people generally take

after who they spend the most time with. So my advice is to spend as

much time as possible in company with us and other raw foodists.

[No, we're not a cult, although Raw Seattle does have a supreme

leader--me of course! JK :-)]

 

I would also tell you to be easy on yourself. Don't beat yourself up

for not eating raw. Don't beat yourself up for beating yourself up

either. :-) Concentrate more on where you've decided on going and

how good that is, rather than on where you are now and how bad that

is, not that what you're doing now is bad, but I can see how you

could get caught up in thinking about what " wrong " choices you might

be making. What you focus on expands, so focus on your supportive

thoughts, choices, and actions. The more you do this, the more

momentum you'll build.

 

One comment you made was a little perplexing. You seemed to be

saying that if you eat raw, it's not fair to your family or friends.

If that's what you were saying, I couldn't disagree with you more.

You _are_ right when you say you need to be true to yourself. Others

might not like it, but remember, a lot of people didn't like Martin

Luther King, Jr.; a lot of people didn't like Jesus; a lot of people

don't like Osama Bin Laden...JK! :-) I don't like him either...well,

actually, I ABSOLUTELY LOVE him, I just don't like his BEHAVIORS, a

crucial difference. Many times when you " do the right thing, " you

will be opposed, sometimes fiercely (in my example persons, the first

two were assassinated). What might help is to view such opposition

as a test of your commitment, and then viewing your handling of it as

your feedback/ " score " on the test. (A high or low " score " wouldn't

mean that how you acted was good or bad, it just assists you by

letting you know " where you're at. " ) Whenever you do something

that's really the right thing for you, it's impossible for it to be

wrong for any other. The opposition energy is always the other

person's " baggage " at work, not the real person. (Co-counseling is

one theory/practice system that will help you understand this.)

 

Can't wait to see you at the next potluck! ;-)

Eric

[Guest guest]

I appreciate the kind words Eric, you guys are awesome! About the

whole eating/not eating raw and family/friends thing.

 

What I meant is, if I don't eat raw (which I know and feel I should)

I am not being true to myself, and that is unfair to those that care

about me, because I am not beiing the best, truest me I can be.

 

I am pretty hard on my self when I fail, that is the bottom line.

Sometimes to the point that I won't do anything for fear of failure.

If I do nothing I can't fail. But I am learning, that if I do nothing

I also can't succeed. I am way to old to finally be 'getting' this

lesson.

 

Anyway, potlucks, I have thought about it, but I don't want to just

show up with a bowl of lettuce or fruit. I have been avoiding it

until I can make something 'cool' and unusual. But I may just show up

with that bowl of lettuce and/or fruit, who knows I may learn to make

something cool or unusual while there, now there is a thought.

 

Anyway, thanks again!

 

Monte@Fremonte

[Guest guest]

Don't worry about making something fancy, we've all been there and understand

perfectly what you're going through. Come to Linda's potluck, bring your bowl

of greens and I'll help you make a dressing for it.

 

Socorro

--- " mavalkyrie <mavalkyrie " <mavalkyrie wrote:

>I appreciate the kind words Eric, you guys are awesome! About the

>whole eating/not eating raw and family/friends thing.

>

>What I meant is, if I don't eat raw (which I know and feel I should)

>I am not being true to myself, and that is unfair to those that care

>about me, because I am not beiing the best, truest me I can be.

>

>I am pretty hard on my self when I fail, that is the bottom line.

>Sometimes to the point that I won't do anything for fear of failure.

>If I do nothing I can't fail. But I am learning, that if I do nothing

>I also can't succeed. I am way to old to finally be 'getting' this

>lesson.

>

>Anyway, potlucks, I have thought about it, but I don't want to just

>show up with a bowl of lettuce or fruit. I have been avoiding it

>until I can make something 'cool' and unusual. But I may just show up

>with that bowl of lettuce and/or fruit, who knows I may learn to make

>something cool or unusual while there, now there is a thought.

>

>Anyway, thanks again!

>

>Monte@Fremonte

>

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[Guest guest]

Thanks Soccoro, your offer means a lot to me, you are very kind. I

may just see you there.

 

Monte

 

RawSeattle , Socorro Maia <smaia@r...> wrote:

>

> Don't worry about making something fancy, we've all been there and

understand perfectly what you're going through. Come to Linda's

potluck, bring your bowl of greens and I'll help you make a dressing

for it.

>

> Socorro