mixed relationships

[Guest guest]

Hello ~ I'm curious about the members of this group that might be in " mixed

relationships " i.e. veg and not and how they go about living their lives. I'm

vegan, my partner eats dairy, eggs, chicken. We had known each other a few years

before

we became involved and we went into the relationship knowing our differences.

Now that

we are living together we're in the process of working out how to live together

under

the circumstances. Thoughts?

 

 

metta,

 

George

[Guest guest]

There was a forum discussion on this topic a while back:

http://www.bayareaveg.org/forum/viewtopic.php?t=43

 

Also, you might want to check out the new book " Your Diet is Driving Me

Crazy " :

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/156924474X/

 

-Kim

 

 

George wrote:

 

> Hello ~ I'm curious about the members of this group that might be in

> " mixed

> relationships " i.e. veg and not and how they go about living their

> lives. I'm

> vegan, my partner eats dairy, eggs, chicken. We had known each other a

> few years before

> we became involved and we went into the relationship knowing our

> differences. Now that

> we are living together we're in the process of working out how to live

> together under

> the circumstances. Thoughts?

>

>

> metta,

>

> George

[Guest guest]

I have been very lucky. My husband and I have been together for almost 30 years (we met in high school). I was not vegetarian then, but became one about 19 years ago, and vegan about 5 years ago. Dave has always been very supportive, so we have not had any meat, fish, etc. in the house for years. We have also raised our children (now college age) vegetarian, and they both continue to be vegetarian.

 

We have also visited the Farm Sanctuary a number of times, and eat mostly at vegetarian restaurants. Although Dave does eat dairy, he has chosen not to eat meat or fish for the past 2 years or so.

 

I believe by being true to yourself and helping others realize the importance of the choices we make, they eventually come around!

 

Good luck!

 

Elaine

[Guest guest]

Hi George:

 

My partner, while sympathetic and supportive, was not anywhere near veg when we

met. We have lived together for 12 years, with a vegetarian kitchen and

cooking of meat/fish/poultry prohibited. Occasionally she would have pizza with

pepperoni or something from outside, which she ate on disposable paper plates.

And, fortunately she loves my cooking, as I am the main cook.

 

So--my advice : make rules, and make sure your partner makes a serious

commitment to them, so that you don't walk in one day and find a dead creature

in your fridge.

 

However, there is hope, if you persevere and are patient, rather than pushy and

proselytizing. Last year we went to a Farm Sanctuary event (coincidentally on

my birthday), which included visiting the animals, vegan dinner and a screening

of Peaceable Kingdom (the recent Tribe of the heart film). My partner, a

steak-lover, had a powerful conversation with a huge steer named Hank. At the

end of the evening she informed me that she now realized she had to be

vegetarian; effective immediately. (one of the best birthday presents I ever

got!)

 

One year later, she is still firmly committed to vegetarianism, and getting used

to people's questions, doubts and concerns.

 

So, do not give up , and good luck!

 

Shelley

 

 

(George wrote:

 

Hello ~ I'm curious about the members of this group that might be in " mixed

relationships " i.e. veg and not and how they go about living their lives. I'm

vegan, my partner eats dairy, eggs, chicken. We had known each other a few years

before

we became involved and we went into the relationship knowing our differences.

Now that

we are living together we're in the process of working out how to live together

under

the circumstances. Thoughts?)

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 9/13/2005 8:24:17 PM Pacific Daylight Time, ERKS410 writes:

I believe by being true to yourself and helping others realize the importance of the choices we make, they eventually come around!

but that it were so. my otherwise wonderful husband did give up eating cows and pigs after visiting farm sanctuary and otherwise being exposed to the truth about how farmed animals are treated, but he just will not give up chickens, chicken eggs or cheese. he does try to buy "free range" , for what little that is worth.

he feels he "needs" animal protein, and is unsatisfied even after what most vegans would consider a feast.

he respects my choices and supports me in helping animals in other ways and so it goes for us.

Stephanie