Guest guest Posted June 25, 2005 Report Share Posted June 25, 2005 The young lady who expects to be my daughter in law some day has sent me some hints through a mutual friend that she would like to get closer to me and spend more time with me but the last 2 times that I have been in her company she has been trying some misguided attempt to convert me to meat eating and is beginning to get right up my nose. She is coming out with statements like " would'nt you love a nice juicy burger " . Last night she was nagging me (in company) to go fishing with her and suggesting that I would love that as well. I attempted to counter with Fraggle's argument and said that I was willing to bet her that she had more wrinkles on her face and higher blood pressure than I have. But she simply said that that was caused by dating my son. I can't win. I am very surprised at how misguided she is. She thinks that I am so deprived and that she is doing me some good. I am very sorry that I did not raise my son as a veggi but was not as aware then and was a little fearfull that I may cause him some damage. I know better now. I have vowed to myself today that that girl will never never never be served meat in my house. She will be getting pasta for Christmas Dinner. Mary Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 25, 2005 Report Share Posted June 25, 2005 Mary, Mary, She sounds quite contrary. It doesnt look as though she has any genuine concern for you and your beliefs/lifestyle. I suspect that she sees you as some sort of threat for your sons affection and as some sort of competition, and is trying ( and possibly succeding) to push your buttons. Just tell her straight, either she understands you beliefs and will compensate for them, in the name of family harmony, or to keep the hell away from you. Just make sure that your son knows the score with her games. Easy For Me To Say,I know...... The Valley Vegan..........Mary Minihane <minih wrote: The young lady who expects to be my daughter in law some day has sent me some hints through a mutual friend that she would like to get closer to me and spend more time with me but the last 2 times that I have been in her company she has been trying some misguided attempt to convert me to meat eating and is beginning to get right up my nose. She is coming out with statements like "would'nt you love a nice juicy burger". Last night she was nagging me (in company) to go fishing with her and suggesting that I would love that as well. I attempted to counter with Fraggle's argument and said that I was willing to bet her that she had more wrinkles on her face and higher blood pressure than I have. But she simply said that that was caused by dating my son. I can't win. I am very surprised at how misguided she is. She thinks that I am so deprived and that she is doing me some good. I am very sorry that I did not raise my son as a veggi but was not as aware then and was a little fearfull that I may cause him some damage. I know better now. I have vowed to myself today that that girl will never never never be served meat in my house. She will be getting pasta for Christmas Dinner.MaryTo send an email to - Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 25, 2005 Report Share Posted June 25, 2005 I guess that I will have to take that attitude but I think that I was taken by surprise and was a bit dissapointed. I was being told that she wanted to be better friends with me and I was feeling guilty for not including her in my life more. I even arranged a dinner party a few weeks ago(ladies only) mostly for her benifit. Anyway, you can't win them all. Mary , peter hurd <swpgh01@t...> wrote: > Mary, Mary, > She sounds quite contrary. > It doesnt look as though she has any genuine concern for you and your beliefs/lifestyle. I suspect that she sees you as some sort of threat for your sons affection and as some sort of competition, and is trying ( and possibly succeding) to push your buttons. > Just tell her straight, either she understands you beliefs and will compensate for them, in the name of family harmony, or to keep the hell away from you. Just make sure that your son knows the score with her games. > > Easy For Me To Say,I know...... > > The Valley Vegan.......... > > Mary Minihane <minih@g...> wrote: > The young lady who expects to be my daughter in law some day has sent > me some hints through a mutual friend that she would like to get > closer to me and spend more time with me but the last 2 times that I > have been in her company she has been trying some misguided attempt to > convert me to meat eating and is beginning to get right up my nose. > She is coming out with statements like " would'nt you love a nice juicy > burger " . Last night she was nagging me (in company) to go fishing with > her and suggesting that I would love that as well. I attempted to > counter with Fraggle's argument and said that I was willing to bet her > that she had more wrinkles on her face and higher blood pressure than > I have. But she simply said that that was caused by dating my son. I > can't win. I am very surprised at how misguided she is. She thinks > that I am so deprived and that she is doing me some good. I am very > sorry that I did not raise my son as a veggi but was not as aware then > and was a little fearfull that I may cause him some damage. I know > better now. I have vowed to myself today that that girl will never > never never be served meat in my house. She will be getting pasta for > Christmas Dinner. > Mary > > > > > To send an email to - > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 25, 2005 Report Share Posted June 25, 2005 Actually I think that my problem here goes deeper than that. I think that I am surprised and dissapointed that anyone would consider me deprived and misguided just because I am vegan and had expected that people had got over that attitude. I suddenly said to myself " is this how people realy see me " . I have been leading a sheltered life lately and when you accept something as normal then it becomes normal to you and it comes as a shock to again find out that others do not see it that way. I am going to have to once again remind myself that I am not normal. I am special. Mary , " Mary Minihane " <minih@g...> wrote: > I guess that I will have to take that attitude but I think that I > was taken by surprise and was a bit dissapointed. I was being told > that she wanted to be better friends with me and I was feeling > guilty for not including her in my life more. I even arranged a > dinner party a few weeks ago(ladies only) mostly for her benifit. > Anyway, you can't win them all. > Mary > , peter hurd <swpgh01@t...> wrote: > > Mary, Mary, > > She sounds quite contrary. > > It doesnt look as though she has any genuine concern for you and > your beliefs/lifestyle. I suspect that she sees you as some sort of > threat for your sons affection and as some sort of competition, and > is trying ( and possibly succeding) to push your buttons. > > Just tell her straight, either she understands you beliefs and > will compensate for them, in the name of family harmony, or to keep > the hell away from you. Just make sure that your son knows the score > with her games. > > > > Easy For Me To Say,I know...... > > > > The Valley Vegan.......... > > > > Mary Minihane <minih@g...> wrote: > > The young lady who expects to be my daughter in law some day has > sent > > me some hints through a mutual friend that she would like to get > > closer to me and spend more time with me but the last 2 times that > I > > have been in her company she has been trying some misguided > attempt to > > convert me to meat eating and is beginning to get right up my > nose. > > She is coming out with statements like " would'nt you love a nice > juicy > > burger " . Last night she was nagging me (in company) to go fishing > with > > her and suggesting that I would love that as well. I attempted to > > counter with Fraggle's argument and said that I was willing to bet > her > > that she had more wrinkles on her face and higher blood pressure > than > > I have. But she simply said that that was caused by dating my son. > I > > can't win. I am very surprised at how misguided she is. She thinks > > that I am so deprived and that she is doing me some good. I am > very > > sorry that I did not raise my son as a veggi but was not as aware > then > > and was a little fearfull that I may cause him some damage. I know > > better now. I have vowed to myself today that that girl will never > > never never be served meat in my house. She will be getting pasta > for > > Christmas Dinner. > > Mary > > > > > > > > > > To send an email to - > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 25, 2005 Report Share Posted June 25, 2005 Its natural that you would be dissapointed, not a lot surprises me any more. Does sound like mind games to me though. I dont usually play those.You have nothing to feel guilty about, you hold the moral high ground here. The Valley Vegan..........Agony Aunt?Mary Minihane <minih wrote: I guess that I will have to take that attitude but I think that I was taken by surprise and was a bit dissapointed. I was being told that she wanted to be better friends with me and I was feeling guilty for not including her in my life more. I even arranged a dinner party a few weeks ago(ladies only) mostly for her benifit. Anyway, you can't win them all.Mary , peter hurd wrote:> Mary, Mary,> She sounds quite contrary.> It doesnt look as though she has any genuine concern for you and your beliefs/lifestyle. I suspect that she sees you as some sort of threat for your sons affection and as some sort of competition, and is trying ( and possibly succeding) to push your buttons.> Just tell her straight, either she understands you beliefs and will compensate for them, in the name of family harmony, or to keep the hell away from you. Just make sure that your son knows the score with her games.> > Easy For Me To Say,I know......> > The Valley Vegan..........> > Mary Minihane wrote:> The young lady who expects to be my daughter in law some day has sent > me some hints through a mutual friend that she would like to get > closer to me and spend more time with me but the last 2 times that I > have been in her company she has been trying some misguided attempt to > convert me to meat eating and is beginning to get right up my nose. > She is coming out with statements like "would'nt you love a nice juicy > burger". Last night she was nagging me (in company) to go fishing with > her and suggesting that I would love that as well. I attempted to > counter with Fraggle's argument and said that I was willing to bet her > that she had more wrinkles on her face and higher blood pressure than > I have. But she simply said that that was caused by dating my son. I > can't win. I am very surprised at how misguided she is. She thinks > that I am so deprived and that she is doing me some good. I am very > sorry that I did not raise my son as a veggi but was not as aware then > and was a little fearfull that I may cause him some damage. I know > better now. I have vowed to myself today that that girl will never > never never be served meat in my house. She will be getting pasta for > Christmas Dinner.> Mary> > > > > To send an email to - > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 25, 2005 Report Share Posted June 25, 2005 I always wanted my own personal agony aunt. Now I realy feel special Mary , peter hurd <swpgh01@t...> wrote: > Its natural that you would be dissapointed, not a lot surprises me any more. Does sound like mind games to me though. I dont usually play those.You have nothing to feel guilty about, you hold the moral high ground here. > > > The Valley Vegan..........Agony Aunt? > > Mary Minihane <minih@g...> wrote: > I guess that I will have to take that attitude but I think that I > was taken by surprise and was a bit dissapointed. I was being told > that she wanted to be better friends with me and I was feeling > guilty for not including her in my life more. I even arranged a > dinner party a few weeks ago(ladies only) mostly for her benifit. > Anyway, you can't win them all. > Mary > , peter hurd wrote: > > Mary, Mary, > > She sounds quite contrary. > > It doesnt look as though she has any genuine concern for you and > your beliefs/lifestyle. I suspect that she sees you as some sort of > threat for your sons affection and as some sort of competition, and > is trying ( and possibly succeding) to push your buttons. > > Just tell her straight, either she understands you beliefs and > will compensate for them, in the name of family harmony, or to keep > the hell away from you. Just make sure that your son knows the score > with her games. > > > > Easy For Me To Say,I know...... > > > > The Valley Vegan.......... > > > > Mary Minihane wrote: > > The young lady who expects to be my daughter in law some day has > sent > > me some hints through a mutual friend that she would like to get > > closer to me and spend more time with me but the last 2 times that > I > > have been in her company she has been trying some misguided > attempt to > > convert me to meat eating and is beginning to get right up my > nose. > > She is coming out with statements like " would'nt you love a nice > juicy > > burger " . Last night she was nagging me (in company) to go fishing > with > > her and suggesting that I would love that as well. I attempted to > > counter with Fraggle's argument and said that I was willing to bet > her > > that she had more wrinkles on her face and higher blood pressure > than > > I have. But she simply said that that was caused by dating my son. > I > > can't win. I am very surprised at how misguided she is. She thinks > > that I am so deprived and that she is doing me some good. I am > very > > sorry that I did not raise my son as a veggi but was not as aware > then > > and was a little fearfull that I may cause him some damage. I know > > better now. I have vowed to myself today that that girl will never > > never never be served meat in my house. She will be getting pasta > for > > Christmas Dinner. > > Mary > > > > > > > > > > To send an email to - > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 25, 2005 Report Share Posted June 25, 2005 Any time. And a vegan one at that! We are all friends here. The Valley Vegan........ If you are holding on to stones in your hands, your hands will not be free to take the diamonds and gold. - Sri Sri Ravi Shankar Mary Minihane <minih wrote: I always wanted my own personal agony aunt. Now I realy feel specialMary , peter hurd wrote:> Its natural that you would be dissapointed, not a lot surprises me any more. Does sound like mind games to me though. I dont usually play those.You have nothing to feel guilty about, you hold the moral high ground here.> > > The Valley Vegan..........Agony Aunt?> > Mary Minihane wrote:> I guess that I will have to take that attitude but I think that I > was taken by surprise and was a bit dissapointed. I was being told > that she wanted to be better friends with me and I was feeling > guilty for not including her in my life more. I even arranged a > dinner party a few weeks ago(ladies only) mostly for her benifit. > Anyway, you can't win them all.> Mary> , peter hurd wrote:> > Mary, Mary,> > She sounds quite contrary.> > It doesnt look as though she has any genuine concern for you and > your beliefs/lifestyle. I suspect that she sees you as some sort of > threat for your sons affection and as some sort of competition, and > is trying ( and possibly succeding) to push your buttons.> > Just tell her straight, either she understands you beliefs and > will compensate for them, in the name of family harmony, or to keep > the hell away from you. Just make sure that your son knows the score > with her games.> > > > Easy For Me To Say,I know......> > > > The Valley Vegan..........> > > > Mary Minihane wrote:> > The young lady who expects to be my daughter in law some day has > sent > > me some hints through a mutual friend that she would like to get > > closer to me and spend more time with me but the last 2 times that > I > > have been in her company she has been trying some misguided > attempt to > > convert me to meat eating and is beginning to get right up my > nose. > > She is coming out with statements like "would'nt you love a nice > juicy > > burger". Last night she was nagging me (in company) to go fishing > with > > her and suggesting that I would love that as well. I attempted to > > counter with Fraggle's argument and said that I was willing to bet > her > > that she had more wrinkles on her face and higher blood pressure > than > > I have. But she simply said that that was caused by dating my son. > I > > can't win. I am very surprised at how misguided she is. She thinks > > that I am so deprived and that she is doing me some good. I am > very > > sorry that I did not raise my son as a veggi but was not as aware > then > > and was a little fearfull that I may cause him some damage. I know > > better now. I have vowed to myself today that that girl will never > > never never be served meat in my house. She will be getting pasta > for > > Christmas Dinner.> > Mary> > > > > > > > > > To send an email to -> > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 25, 2005 Report Share Posted June 25, 2005 that suxks..i'm sorry..... maybe its just time you strapped her down, and made her watch endless hours of PETA videos, with her eyes toothpicked open ala Clockwork Orange of course..at this point,..i might just be a complete a**, and any time she ate meat around you, make that animals noise and then scream... moooooooooo AAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! but..like i said..i'm an a** cheers fraggle Mary Minihane <minih Jun 25, 2005 7:31 AM Misguided The young lady who expects to be my daughter in law some day has sent me some hints through a mutual friend that she would like to get closer to me and spend more time with me but the last 2 times that I have been in her company she has been trying some misguided attempt to convert me to meat eating and is beginning to get right up my nose. She is coming out with statements like " would'nt you love a nice juicy burger " . Last night she was nagging me (in company) to go fishing with her and suggesting that I would love that as well. I attempted to counter with Fraggle's argument and said that I was willing to bet her that she had more wrinkles on her face and higher blood pressure than I have. But she simply said that that was caused by dating my son. I can't win. I am very surprised at how misguided she is. She thinks that I am so deprived and that she is doing me some good. I am very sorry that I did not raise my son as a veggi but was not as aware then and was a little fearfull that I may cause him some damage. I know better now. I have vowed to myself today that that girl will never never never be served meat in my house. She will be getting pasta for Christmas Dinner. Mary To send an email to - Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 25, 2005 Report Share Posted June 25, 2005 HI Mary Don't fight a losing battle. Your son loves this girl. You love your son. If you cannot be friends with her you will be the loser (of your sons affection and time) - tis the way it happens. You are older and wiser. Ignore her silliness towards your diet. You know what you want to eat so carry on eating it. I'm sure you don't need to feed her meat, unless, of course, you feed your son meat when he comes to see you. Have you accepted your sons girlfriend into the family or has there always been friction. Jo > The young lady who expects to be my daughter in law some day has sent > me some hints through a mutual friend that she would like to get > closer to me and spend more time with me but the last 2 times that I > have been in her company she has been trying some misguided attempt to > convert me to meat eating and is beginning to get right up my nose. > She is coming out with statements like " would'nt you love a nice juicy > burger " . Last night she was nagging me (in company) to go fishing with > her and suggesting that I would love that as well. I attempted to > counter with Fraggle's argument and said that I was willing to bet her > that she had more wrinkles on her face and higher blood pressure than > I have. But she simply said that that was caused by dating my son. I > can't win. I am very surprised at how misguided she is. She thinks > that I am so deprived and that she is doing me some good. I am very > sorry that I did not raise my son as a veggi but was not as aware then > and was a little fearfull that I may cause him some damage. I know > better now. I have vowed to myself today that that girl will never > never never be served meat in my house. She will be getting pasta for > Christmas Dinner. > Mary > > > > > To send an email to - > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 25, 2005 Report Share Posted June 25, 2005 Also make sure that you want your son to stay the hell away from you - if not - ride the tide! Jo Mary, Mary, She sounds quite contrary. It doesnt look as though she has any genuine concern for you and your beliefs/lifestyle. I suspect that she sees you as some sort of threat for your sons affection and as some sort of competition, and is trying ( and possibly succeding) to push your buttons. Just tell her straight, either she understands you beliefs and will compensate for them, in the name of family harmony, or to keep the hell away from you. Just make sure that your son knows the score with her games. Easy For Me To Say,I know...... The Valley Vegan..........Mary Minihane <minih wrote: The young lady who expects to be my daughter in law some day has sent me some hints through a mutual friend that she would like to get closer to me and spend more time with me but the last 2 times that I have been in her company she has been trying some misguided attempt to convert me to meat eating and is beginning to get right up my nose. She is coming out with statements like "would'nt you love a nice juicy burger". Last night she was nagging me (in company) to go fishing with her and suggesting that I would love that as well. I attempted to counter with Fraggle's argument and said that I was willing to bet her that she had more wrinkles on her face and higher blood pressure than I have. But she simply said that that was caused by dating my son. I can't win. I am very surprised at how misguided she is. She thinks that I am so deprived and that she is doing me some good. I am very sorry that I did not raise my son as a veggi but was not as aware then and was a little fearfull that I may cause him some damage. I know better now. I have vowed to myself today that that girl will never never never be served meat in my house. She will be getting pasta for Christmas Dinner.MaryTo send an email to - Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 25, 2005 Report Share Posted June 25, 2005 tofurky? <g> And, I would think that deep down inside she is one of those that is scared spitless that if everyone doesn't do the same as she that there is something wrong with her. If one is confident within one's self, one doesn't need to have everyone else do the same they are. Lynda - Mary Minihane <minih Saturday, June 25, 2005 7:31 AM Misguided > The young lady who expects to be my daughter in law some day has sent > me some hints through a mutual friend that she would like to get > closer to me and spend more time with me but the last 2 times that I > have been in her company she has been trying some misguided attempt to > convert me to meat eating and is beginning to get right up my nose. > She is coming out with statements like " would'nt you love a nice juicy > burger " . Last night she was nagging me (in company) to go fishing with > her and suggesting that I would love that as well. I attempted to > counter with Fraggle's argument and said that I was willing to bet her > that she had more wrinkles on her face and higher blood pressure than > I have. But she simply said that that was caused by dating my son. I > can't win. I am very surprised at how misguided she is. She thinks > that I am so deprived and that she is doing me some good. I am very > sorry that I did not raise my son as a veggi but was not as aware then > and was a little fearfull that I may cause him some damage. I know > better now. I have vowed to myself today that that girl will never > never never be served meat in my house. She will be getting pasta for > Christmas Dinner. > Mary > > > > > To send an email to - > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 25, 2005 Report Share Posted June 25, 2005 Thanks Jo. I have gotten over it. I shall give her the benifit of my maturity and wisdom (joke). There will be no confrontation and I will just see it as it is and look forward to the next Joust. Mary , " Jo Cwazy " <heartwork@c...> wrote: > HI Mary > > Don't fight a losing battle. Your son loves this girl. You love your son. > If you cannot be friends with her you will be the loser (of your sons > affection and time) - tis the way it happens. You are older and wiser. > Ignore her silliness towards your diet. You know what you want to eat so > carry on eating it. I'm sure you don't need to feed her meat, unless, of > course, you feed your son meat when he comes to see you. > > Have you accepted your sons girlfriend into the family or has there always > been friction. > > Jo > > > The young lady who expects to be my daughter in law some day has sent > > me some hints through a mutual friend that she would like to get > > closer to me and spend more time with me but the last 2 times that I > > have been in her company she has been trying some misguided attempt to > > convert me to meat eating and is beginning to get right up my nose. > > She is coming out with statements like " would'nt you love a nice juicy > > burger " . Last night she was nagging me (in company) to go fishing with > > her and suggesting that I would love that as well. I attempted to > > counter with Fraggle's argument and said that I was willing to bet her > > that she had more wrinkles on her face and higher blood pressure than > > I have. But she simply said that that was caused by dating my son. I > > can't win. I am very surprised at how misguided she is. She thinks > > that I am so deprived and that she is doing me some good. I am very > > sorry that I did not raise my son as a veggi but was not as aware then > > and was a little fearfull that I may cause him some damage. I know > > better now. I have vowed to myself today that that girl will never > > never never be served meat in my house. She will be getting pasta for > > Christmas Dinner. > > Mary > > > > > > > > > > To send an email to - > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 27, 2005 Report Share Posted June 27, 2005 Sounds like a strange way to get into a future mom-in-laws good graces! Nikki , " Mary Minihane " <minih@g...> wrote: > The young lady who expects to be my daughter in law some day has sent > me some hints through a mutual friend that she would like to get > closer to me and spend more time with me but the last 2 times that I > have been in her company she has been trying some misguided attempt to > convert me to meat eating and is beginning to get right up my nose. > She is coming out with statements like " would'nt you love a nice juicy > burger " . Last night she was nagging me (in company) to go fishing with > her and suggesting that I would love that as well. I attempted to > counter with Fraggle's argument and said that I was willing to bet her > that she had more wrinkles on her face and higher blood pressure than > I have. But she simply said that that was caused by dating my son. I > can't win. I am very surprised at how misguided she is. She thinks > that I am so deprived and that she is doing me some good. I am very > sorry that I did not raise my son as a veggi but was not as aware then > and was a little fearfull that I may cause him some damage. I know > better now. I have vowed to myself today that that girl will never > never never be served meat in my house. She will be getting pasta for > Christmas Dinner. > Mary Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 27, 2005 Report Share Posted June 27, 2005 Mary, it's probably for the best. I would just let her know that you love her and are so happy that your son has found her and how happy she makes him. Then I would also explain to her that while you respect her choices in her beliefs and what she eats, in turn you would hope that she respects yours. You are always open to a discussion on each others views, because it is the only way to learn from one another, but you hope that she will discontinue trying to force her views upon you. And then hope for the best! Nikki , " Mary Minihane " <minih@g...> wrote: > Thanks Jo. I have gotten over it. I shall give her the benifit of my > maturity and wisdom (joke). There will be no confrontation and I > will just see it as it is and look forward to the next Joust. > Mary > , " Jo Cwazy " <heartwork@c...> wrote: > > HI Mary > > > > Don't fight a losing battle. Your son loves this girl. You love > your son. > > If you cannot be friends with her you will be the loser (of your > sons > > affection and time) - tis the way it happens. You are older and > wiser. > > Ignore her silliness towards your diet. You know what you want to > eat so > > carry on eating it. I'm sure you don't need to feed her meat, > unless, of > > course, you feed your son meat when he comes to see you. > > > > Have you accepted your sons girlfriend into the family or has > there always > > been friction. > > > > Jo > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 27, 2005 Report Share Posted June 27, 2005 The problem that I have with you is that you are too nice but you have turned me around. I had been ready to give up on her but I know that I would regret it in the long run. I have known this girl for at least 10 years and we were very good friends when she was dating one of his mates and they even moved in with us for a year when my son went to Australia. I will show the tolerance that you suggest but I can not go as far as to let her know that I love her because that would be out of caracter for me and they would probably have me locked up because they would question my sanity. I am not as nice as you. Mary , " nikki_mackovitch " <nikkimack@m...> wrote: > Mary, it's probably for the best. > > I would just let her know that you love her and are so happy that > your son has found her and how happy she makes him. > > Then I would also explain to her that while you respect her choices > in her beliefs and what she eats, in turn you would hope that she > respects yours. You are always open to a discussion on each others > views, because it is the only way to learn from one another, but you > hope that she will discontinue trying to force her views upon you. > > And then hope for the best! > > Nikki > > > , " Mary Minihane " <minih@g...> > wrote: > > Thanks Jo. I have gotten over it. I shall give her the benifit of > my > > maturity and wisdom (joke). There will be no confrontation and I > > will just see it as it is and look forward to the next Joust. > > Mary > > , " Jo Cwazy " <heartwork@c...> > wrote: > > > HI Mary > > > > > > Don't fight a losing battle. Your son loves this girl. You > love > > your son. > > > If you cannot be friends with her you will be the loser (of your > > sons > > > affection and time) - tis the way it happens. You are older and > > wiser. > > > Ignore her silliness towards your diet. You know what you want > to > > eat so > > > carry on eating it. I'm sure you don't need to feed her meat, > > unless, of > > > course, you feed your son meat when he comes to see you. > > > > > > Have you accepted your sons girlfriend into the family or has > > there always > > > been friction. > > > > > > Jo > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2005 Report Share Posted June 28, 2005 *sigh* If that were my only problem! LOL Actually, I'm not. In fact some of my own advice I could not take with my hubby's family, though there are deeper issues than just my veganism with that. I look at it as " not losing the son " . If my son, or when my son decides to marry, I hope that I can love the woman (or man if applicable) that he loves. If not, I only hope that he is happy and I will have to make do. My hubby's parents just lost him, us, recently. I cannot imagine doing to my child what they have done. But then again, I cannot imagine the pain they have right now either. So that's where this comes from. My hopes that whatever happens in the future with my son, I can look the other way (if need be) and be happy if he is. But point blank, I would tell this person that I will respect their choices, but they must respect mine. I wish you luck and strength! Nikki , " Mary Minihane " <minih@g...> wrote: > The problem that I have with you is that you are too nice but you > have turned me around. I had been ready to give up on her but I know > that I would regret it in the long run. I have known this girl for > at least 10 years and we were very good friends when she was dating > one of his mates and they even moved in with us for a year when my > son went to Australia. I will show the tolerance that you suggest > but I can not go as far as to let her know that I love her because > that would be out of caracter for me and they would probably have me > locked up because they would question my sanity. I am not as nice as > you. > Mary > , " nikki_mackovitch " > <nikkimack@m...> wrote: > > Mary, it's probably for the best. > > > > I would just let her know that you love her and are so happy that > > your son has found her and how happy she makes him. > > > > Then I would also explain to her that while you respect her > choices > > in her beliefs and what she eats, in turn you would hope that she > > respects yours. You are always open to a discussion on each others > > views, because it is the only way to learn from one another, but > you > > hope that she will discontinue trying to force her views upon you. > > > > And then hope for the best! > > > > Nikki > > > > > > , " Mary Minihane " <minih@g...> > > wrote: > > > Thanks Jo. I have gotten over it. I shall give her the benifit > of > > my > > > maturity and wisdom (joke). There will be no confrontation and I > > > will just see it as it is and look forward to the next Joust. > > > Mary > > > , " Jo Cwazy " <heartwork@c...> > > wrote: > > > > HI Mary > > > > > > > > Don't fight a losing battle. Your son loves this girl. You > > love > > > your son. > > > > If you cannot be friends with her you will be the loser (of > your > > > sons > > > > affection and time) - tis the way it happens. You are older > and > > > wiser. > > > > Ignore her silliness towards your diet. You know what you > want > > to > > > eat so > > > > carry on eating it. I'm sure you don't need to feed her meat, > > > unless, of > > > > course, you feed your son meat when he comes to see you. > > > > > > > > Have you accepted your sons girlfriend into the family or has > > > there always > > > > been friction. > > > > > > > > Jo > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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