No meat in my kitchen WAS Dining out-rant

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Whatever works for you is best.

 

I am the only one with a paid salary in my house. DH stays home and

works just as hard if not harder on household duties and taking care

of our son while I work. As far as I am concerned, whatever money I

earn is his too. Just because it is my name on the paycheck, doesn;t

mean it is solely mine. That isn't a fair partnership.

 

He has supported my decision to be Vegan and has helped me every

step of the way. Who am I to tell him or anyone else how to live

their lives?

 

If they are accepting me for who I am, I should accept them. It does

not mean I have to like it or agree with it. But I cannot tell

another how to live their lives. That's part of the reason we have

so little of immediate family in our lives. Because they tried to

stop me from being Vegan amongst other things. And neither my

carnivore hubby nor I would accept that. Who were they to tell me

not to be Vegan? And who are they to judge?

 

So my hubby can cook whatever he wants in this house. I HATE it. It

kills my senses and hurts my heart. But I have accepted his

decisions as he has accepted mine.

 

And my family and their ideals and choices I accept as well. That is

not to say that they do not know how I feel or why I am Vegan, but

who am I to say what they can or cannot do? That would not be very

open nor caring of me. You are welcome in my house as long as you

change your standards while you are here??? That would be like my

family saying, you can come over only if you eat meat!

 

The hubby prepares the majority of the meals here and that includes

my Vegan ones. Should he too then say " Because I am the cook, you

eat what I serve? " . Doesn't sound like a good marraige nor

friendship to me.

 

I am not judging you at all. You are free to do and choose and you

may. I am simply giving another view. Mine.

 

Nikki

 

, " herbvalerian "

<herbvalerian> wrote:

>

> My rules in my house go like this:

> I will cook no meat for anyone.

> I will not allow meat to be serveed in my house. I pay the rent

and I control the kitchen!

> However if someone wants cheese with their meal, they can bring

their own cheese and I

> will serve it for them. But no meat. If they want to eat meat with

me, they can cook a meat

> meal at their house and and some vegan food for me. If they can't

do it, I cook at home

> and take it over there. Or we will eat out at a place where we can

all get what we want. My

> other half's family are meat eaters and my parents aren't vegans.

We have vegan, veggie

> and omnivorous friends. They don't think its odd.

> Those are my rules which work for me and my other half, other

vegans can have their own

> rules. But as far as I can see, if a householder is the main cook

in the kitchen, he or she

> decides what gets cooked there, meat, dairy or whatnot, they

choose. Its only fair.

[Guest guest]

My life is somewhat like yours-I am the sahm and my hubby is the sole bread winner and its OUR money not his,and he is the meat eater,we respect one anothers life decisions,he has changed a few of his bad eating habits to be healthier but I would never expect him to adopt my lifestyle.In the begining of our dating soooo many people wondered how can we even be w/ each other he likes beer(I haven't had alcohol in over 15yrs.),me a veg.(for over 16yrs.),me w/ tattoos+piercings/crazy hair colors,when love is present you can get through anythingearthstrm <earthstorm wrote: Whatever works for you is best.I am the only one with a paid salary in my house. DH stays home and works just as hard if not harder on household duties and taking care of our son while I work. As far as I am concerned, whatever money I

earn is his too. Just because it is my name on the paycheck, doesn;t mean it is solely mine. That isn't a fair partnership.He has supported my decision to be Vegan and has helped me every step of the way. Who am I to tell him or anyone else how to live their lives?If they are accepting me for who I am, I should accept them. It does not mean I have to like it or agree with it. But I cannot tell another how to live their lives. That's part of the reason we have so little of immediate family in our lives. Because they tried to stop me from being Vegan amongst other things. And neither my carnivore hubby nor I would accept that. Who were they to tell me not to be Vegan? And who are they to judge?So my hubby can cook whatever he wants in this house. I HATE it. It kills my senses and hurts my heart. But I have accepted his decisions as he has accepted mine.And my family and their ideals and choices I accept as

well. That is not to say that they do not know how I feel or why I am Vegan, but who am I to say what they can or cannot do? That would not be very open nor caring of me. You are welcome in my house as long as you change your standards while you are here??? That would be like my family saying, you can come over only if you eat meat!The hubby prepares the majority of the meals here and that includes my Vegan ones. Should he too then say "Because I am the cook, you eat what I serve?". Doesn't sound like a good marraige nor friendship to me.I am not judging you at all. You are free to do and choose and you may. I am simply giving another view. Mine.Nikki , "herbvalerian" <herbvalerian> wrote:>> My rules in my house go like this:> I will cook no meat for anyone.> I will not allow meat to be serveed in my house. I pay the rent and I control

the kitchen!> However if someone wants cheese with their meal, they can bring their own cheese and I > will serve it for them. But no meat. If they want to eat meat with me, they can cook a meat > meal at their house and and some vegan food for me. If they can't do it, I cook at home > and take it over there. Or we will eat out at a place where we can all get what we want. My > other half's family are meat eaters and my parents aren't vegans. We have vegan, veggie > and omnivorous friends. They don't think its odd.> Those are my rules which work for me and my other half, other vegans can have their own > rules. But as far as I can see, if a householder is the main cook in the kitchen, he or she > decides what gets cooked there, meat, dairy or whatnot, they choose. Its only fair.

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I don't actually have these problems as I don't live with meat eaters.

Also I am the person who does most of the shopping and cooking (and household

tasks).

 

 

 

, " earthstrm " <earthstorm@c...> wrote:

>

> Whatever works for you is best.

>

> I am the only one with a paid salary in my house. DH stays home and

> works just as hard if not harder on household duties and taking care

> of our son while I work. As far as I am concerned, whatever money I

> earn is his too. Just because it is my name on the paycheck, doesn;t

> mean it is solely mine. That isn't a fair partnership.

>

> He has supported my decision to be Vegan and has helped me every

> step of the way. Who am I to tell him or anyone else how to live

> their lives?

>

> If they are accepting me for who I am, I should accept them. It does

> not mean I have to like it or agree with it. But I cannot tell

> another how to live their lives. That's part of the reason we have

> so little of immediate family in our lives. Because they tried to

> stop me from being Vegan amongst other things. And neither my

> carnivore hubby nor I would accept that. Who were they to tell me

> not to be Vegan? And who are they to judge?

>

> So my hubby can cook whatever he wants in this house. I HATE it. It

> kills my senses and hurts my heart. But I have accepted his

> decisions as he has accepted mine.

>

> And my family and their ideals and choices I accept as well. That is

> not to say that they do not know how I feel or why I am Vegan, but

> who am I to say what they can or cannot do? That would not be very

> open nor caring of me. You are welcome in my house as long as you

> change your standards while you are here??? That would be like my

> family saying, you can come over only if you eat meat!

>

> The hubby prepares the majority of the meals here and that includes

> my Vegan ones. Should he too then say " Because I am the cook, you

> eat what I serve? " . Doesn't sound like a good marraige nor

> friendship to me.

>

> I am not judging you at all. You are free to do and choose and you

> may. I am simply giving another view. Mine.

>

> Nikki

>

> , " herbvalerian "

> <herbvalerian> wrote:

> >

> > My rules in my house go like this:

> > I will cook no meat for anyone.

> > I will not allow meat to be serveed in my house. I pay the rent

> and I control the kitchen!

> > However if someone wants cheese with their meal, they can bring

> their own cheese and I

> > will serve it for them. But no meat. If they want to eat meat with

> me, they can cook a meat

> > meal at their house and and some vegan food for me. If they can't

> do it, I cook at home

> > and take it over there. Or we will eat out at a place where we can

> all get what we want. My

> > other half's family are meat eaters and my parents aren't vegans.

> We have vegan, veggie

> > and omnivorous friends. They don't think its odd.

> > Those are my rules which work for me and my other half, other

> vegans can have their own

> > rules. But as far as I can see, if a householder is the main cook

> in the kitchen, he or she

> > decides what gets cooked there, meat, dairy or whatnot, they

> choose. Its only fair.

>

[Guest guest]

Nikki, Sounds like we have the same but reversed situation.......................um does that make sense? wot was I sayin? Sounds like you have a partnership just like mine with my carnie other half. The Valley Vegan................ One can have a dream, babyTwo can make that dream so realOne can talk about bein' in loveTwo can say how it really feelsOne can wish upon a starTwo can make that wish come true, yeahOne can stand alone in the darkTwo can make the light shine through earthstrm <earthstorm wrote: Whatever works for you is best.I am the only one with a paid salary in my house. DH stays home and works just as hard if not harder on household duties and taking care of our son while I

work. As far as I am concerned, whatever money I earn is his too. Just because it is my name on the paycheck, doesn;t mean it is solely mine. That isn't a fair partnership.He has supported my decision to be Vegan and has helped me every step of the way. Who am I to tell him or anyone else how to live their lives?If they are accepting me for who I am, I should accept them. It does not mean I have to like it or agree with it. But I cannot tell another how to live their lives. That's part of the reason we have so little of immediate family in our lives. Because they tried to stop me from being Vegan amongst other things. And neither my carnivore hubby nor I would accept that. Who were they to tell me not to be Vegan? And who are they to judge?So my hubby can cook whatever he wants in this house. I HATE it. It kills my senses and hurts my heart. But I have accepted his decisions as he has accepted mine.And

my family and their ideals and choices I accept as well. That is not to say that they do not know how I feel or why I am Vegan, but who am I to say what they can or cannot do? That would not be very open nor caring of me. You are welcome in my house as long as you change your standards while you are here??? That would be like my family saying, you can come over only if you eat meat!The hubby prepares the majority of the meals here and that includes my Vegan ones. Should he too then say "Because I am the cook, you eat what I serve?". Doesn't sound like a good marraige nor friendship to me.I am not judging you at all. You are free to do and choose and you may. I am simply giving another view. Mine.Nikki , "herbvalerian" wrote:>> My rules in my house go like this:> I will cook no meat for anyone.> I will not allow meat to be serveed in

my house. I pay the rent and I control the kitchen!> However if someone wants cheese with their meal, they can bring their own cheese and I > will serve it for them. But no meat. If they want to eat meat with me, they can cook a meat > meal at their house and and some vegan food for me. If they can't do it, I cook at home > and take it over there. Or we will eat out at a place where we can all get what we want. My > other half's family are meat eaters and my parents aren't vegans. We have vegan, veggie > and omnivorous friends. They don't think its odd.> Those are my rules which work for me and my other half, other vegans can have their own > rules. But as far as I can see, if a householder is the main cook in the kitchen, he or she > decides what gets cooked there, meat, dairy or whatnot, they choose. Its only fair.

[Guest guest]

Hi Peter

 

> Sounds like you have a partnership just like mine with my carnie other half.

 

Are you sure you mean that??? Nikki is having a partnership with your other half? Chicago to Wales seems a fair old distance to go :-)

 

BB

Peter

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Its an out of body experiance............... The Valley Vegan............Peter <metalscarab wrote: Hi Peter > Sounds like you have a partnership just like mine with my carnie other half. Are you sure you mean that??? Nikki is having a partnership with your other half? Chicago to Wales seems a fair old distance to go :-) BB Peter Peter H

 

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Hi Peter

 

Some things are so enjoyable that they are well worth the trip!

 

BB

Nikki

 

, " Peter " <metalscarab@g...> wrote:

>

> Hi Peter

>

> > Sounds like you have a partnership just like mine with my carnie

other half.

>

> Are you sure you mean that??? Nikki is having a partnership with

your other half? Chicago to Wales seems a fair old distance to go :-)

>

> BB

> Peter

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Nikki

 

> Some things are so enjoyable that they are well worth the trip!

 

To *Wales* - it must be worth it! (only winding up Peter VV...)

 

BB

Peter