Guest guest Posted January 30, 2006 Report Share Posted January 30, 2006 A couple of weeks ago, my grandma made me some bean soup. When I went over to her house to do some stuff for her, she wanted me to try some before she added the beans. I asked her what the broth was made out of and she told me cabbage and noodles. But then she added that she had a soup bone in it originally. She saw the sad look on my face and I told her I was vegan, but she had worked so hard on making this soup for me that I told her it was OK and that I'd eat it! So.. I ate it. I felt bad, but I knew I would've felt even worse if I rejected her soup! Will anyone hold this against me? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 30, 2006 Report Share Posted January 30, 2006 personally... i don't think it matters if someone else will hold it against you.. the question is, how do you feel about it, and why? everyone is vegan fer different reasons.... how do you feel about eating something with some sort of animal product in it? cheers fraggle >Elyse <bobdylans_hippiegirl >Jan 30, 2006 6:46 AM > > Question involving good manners? > >A couple of weeks ago, my grandma made me some bean soup. When I went >over to her house to do some stuff for her, she wanted me to try some >before she added the beans. I asked her what the broth was made out of >and she told me cabbage and noodles. But then she added that she had a >soup bone in it originally. She saw the sad look on my face and I told >her I was vegan, but she had worked so hard on making this soup for me >that I told her it was OK and that I'd eat it! So.. I ate it. I felt >bad, but I knew I would've felt even worse if I rejected her soup! Will >anyone hold this against me? > > > > > >To send an email to - > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 30, 2006 Report Share Posted January 30, 2006 I don't think anyone will hold it against you - they may think it strange though. The choice is yours to make though.. Jo - " Elyse " <bobdylans_hippiegirl Monday, January 30, 2006 2:46 PM Question involving good manners? > A couple of weeks ago, my grandma made me some bean soup. When I went > over to her house to do some stuff for her, she wanted me to try some > before she added the beans. I asked her what the broth was made out of > and she told me cabbage and noodles. But then she added that she had a > soup bone in it originally. She saw the sad look on my face and I told > her I was vegan, but she had worked so hard on making this soup for me > that I told her it was OK and that I'd eat it! So.. I ate it. I felt > bad, but I knew I would've felt even worse if I rejected her soup! Will > anyone hold this against me? > > > > > > To send an email to - > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 30, 2006 Report Share Posted January 30, 2006 Hi~ Sounds like a horrible situation to be in, but I know how you feel. Personally I went through the same with my Grandma when she still lived in Chicago. I would take her grocery shopping every Saturday and her way of " paying me " would be to bake something for me. She wanted to do more, but I would not let her, so this made her feel good. Like as if I was doing her a favor, when I actually enjoyed being with her. When I became a Vegan, this was hard on her because I would no longer eat her bakery items. Luckily my son came with so he always took care of that part. But I knew it saddened my Grandma that she could do nothing for me, which of course hurt me in return. Then one day I brought over some vegan substitutes and together we made Vegan cookies. She joked that they were not quite as good as hers (and they weren't, she is an awesome baker), but she was happy to do it with me. Even tho every Sat afterwards she still wished she could do more for me, I think this one time of being together with the cookies helped out a ton. I do not hold it against you that you ate the soup. We all have to make our own decisions and though I would not have eaten it myself, I know why you did. Let it go, and move on. No need punishing yourself now. Just know how it made you feel and see if there is possibly something you and your gramma can do together that doesn't envolve soup bones. Or just sit and talk with her and explain why you don't eat that anymore. Offer to bring something over that you two can share. Let her know that it is her company you are there for and not the food, tho you do appreciate the love she puts into the items she makes you. You'll figure it out! Smiles, Nikki , " Elyse " <bobdylans_hippiegirl> wrote: > > A couple of weeks ago, my grandma made me some bean soup. When I went > over to her house to do some stuff for her, she wanted me to try some > before she added the beans. I asked her what the broth was made out of > and she told me cabbage and noodles. But then she added that she had a > soup bone in it originally. She saw the sad look on my face and I told > her I was vegan, but she had worked so hard on making this soup for me > that I told her it was OK and that I'd eat it! So.. I ate it. I felt > bad, but I knew I would've felt even worse if I rejected her soup! Will > anyone hold this against me? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 30, 2006 Report Share Posted January 30, 2006 Why would anyone hold it against you? You were being kind to someone who had your best interests at heart and did not know you were veganIt`s not as though you deliberately sought out non vegan food to scoff is it? My dear mother made me carrot cake for years before I discovered that she put honey in it! tough tity, I cant travel through time, but she has agreed to use maple syrup instead now. Incidentally, I hope anyone who is lucky enough to have a mother like mine who cooks for me now and again, that you buy all the ingredients for them, they can be expensive and hard to come by locally. Its the least you can do, right? The Valley Vegan..............Elyse <bobdylans_hippiegirl wrote: A couple of weeks ago, my grandma made me some bean soup. When I went over to her house to do some stuff for her, she wanted me to try some before she added the beans. I asked her what the broth was made out of and she told me cabbage and noodles. But then she added that she had a soup bone in it originally. She saw the sad look on my face and I told her I was vegan, but she had worked so hard on making this soup for me that I told her it was OK and that I'd eat it! So.. I ate it. I felt bad, but I knew I would've felt even worse if I rejected her soup! Will anyone hold this against me? :(To send an email to - Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 30, 2006 Report Share Posted January 30, 2006 she baking for all of us then? heck..i don't even know where me mum is.............. peter hurd Jan 30, 2006 2:30 PM Re: Question involving good manners? Why would anyone hold it against you? You were being kind to someone who had your best interests at heart and did not know you were veganIt`s not as though you deliberately sought out non vegan food to scoff is it? My dear mother made me carrot cake for years before I discovered that she put honey in it! tough tity, I cant travel through time, but she has agreed to use maple syrup instead now. Incidentally, I hope anyone who is lucky enough to have a mother like mine who cooks for me now and again, that you buy all the ingredients for them, they can be expensive and hard to come by locally. Its the least you can do, right? The Valley Vegan..............Elyse <bobdylans_hippiegirl wrote: A couple of weeks ago, my grandma made me some bean soup. When I went over to her house to do some stuff for her, she wanted me to try some before she added the beans. I asked her what the broth was made out of and she told me cabbage and noodles. But then she added that she had a soup bone in it originally. She saw the sad look on my face and I told her I was vegan, but she had worked so hard on making this soup for me that I told her it was OK and that I'd eat it! So.. I ate it. I felt bad, but I knew I would've felt even worse if I rejected her soup! Will anyone hold this against me? :(To send an email to - Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 31, 2006 Report Share Posted January 31, 2006 Yeah I guess you all are right. I do enjoy being a vegan and I HATE to eat food that contains animal products, but I will eat food with animal products only for certain things; like if someone is treating me to dinner, etc. I guess I will talk to my grandma! Thanks for everyones input! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 31, 2006 Report Share Posted January 31, 2006 I agree, I would not hold it against you. My own mother (grandparents all gone now) does try hard to do vegan food when we visit but it is not very easy for her to get the ingredients as she lives in a small ex mining village, I try to provide her with ingredients, I always phone before we visit and ask if there is anything she would like me to bring. I have also given her some recipe books and offer to cook when I visit. I agree about sitting down with her and explaining, kindly and gently of course, also you could provide her with some vegan stock powder if it may happen again. I recommend Marigold Swiss Vegetable Bouillon. Its the best stock powder. I had a similar thing, my neighbour would do vegetable dolmades for me fairly often out of neighbourly generosity and I found out she was cooking them in the same pot as the meat dolmades she made for her family. I was quite diplomatic as I was very grateful she bothered to cook for me but I explained it was " not vegan " to do them in the ame pot as the meat and as she gets the comparison between things not being vegan and not being halal, she now does 2 separate pots. , peter hurd <swpgh01@t...> wrote: > > Why would anyone hold it against you? You were being kind to someone who had your best interests at heart and did not know you were vegan > It`s not as though you deliberately sought out non vegan food to scoff is it? > My dear mother made me carrot cake for years before I discovered that she put honey in it! tough tity, I cant travel through time, but she has agreed to use maple syrup instead now. > Incidentally, I hope anyone who is lucky enough to have a mother like mine who cooks for me now and again, that you buy all the ingredients for them, they can be expensive and hard to come by locally. Its the least you can do, right? > > The Valley Vegan.............. > Elyse <bobdylans_hippiegirl> wrote: > A couple of weeks ago, my grandma made me some bean soup. When I went > over to her house to do some stuff for her, she wanted me to try some > before she added the beans. I asked her what the broth was made out of > and she told me cabbage and noodles. But then she added that she had a > soup bone in it originally. She saw the sad look on my face and I told > her I was vegan, but she had worked so hard on making this soup for me > that I told her it was OK and that I'd eat it! So.. I ate it. I felt > bad, but I knew I would've felt even worse if I rejected her soup! Will > anyone hold this against me? > > > > > > To send an email to - > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 31, 2006 Report Share Posted January 31, 2006 She would bake for anyone, she has a good heart and lives by her beliefs ( what she calls good christian values )... so if you ever in the area, call on by......... The Valley Vegan....................fraggle <EBbrewpunx wrote: she baking for all of us then? heck..i don't even know where me mum is.............. peter hurd Jan 30, 2006 2:30 PM Re: Question involving good manners? Why would anyone hold it against you? You were being kind to someone who had your best interests at heart and did not know you were veganIt`s not as though you deliberately sought out non vegan food to scoff is it? My dear mother made me carrot cake for years before I discovered that she put honey in it! tough tity, I cant travel through time, but she has agreed to use maple syrup instead now. Incidentally, I hope anyone who is lucky enough to have a mother like mine who cooks for me now and again, that you buy all the ingredients for them, they can be expensive and hard to come by locally. Its the least you can do, right? The Valley Vegan..............Elyse <bobdylans_hippiegirl wrote: A couple of weeks ago, my grandma made me some bean soup. When I went over to her house to do some stuff for her, she wanted me to try some before she added the beans. I asked her what the broth was made out of and she told me cabbage and noodles. But then she added that she had a soup bone in it originally. She saw the sad look on my face and I told her I was vegan, but she had worked so hard on making this soup for me that I told her it was OK and that I'd eat it! So.. I ate it. I felt bad, but I knew I would've felt even worse if I rejected her soup! Will anyone hold this against me? :(To send an email to - Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 31, 2006 Report Share Posted January 31, 2006 This is a joke, right ????? Why would it be bad manners to reject eating slaughtered animals when this is your conviction, your forever lifestyle and principle you hold dear ???? DeniseElyse <bobdylans_hippiegirl wrote: A couple of weeks ago, my grandma made me some bean soup. When I went over to her house to do some stuff for her, she wanted me to try some before she added the beans. I asked her what the broth was made out of and she told me cabbage and noodles. But then she added that she had a soup bone in it originally. She saw the sad look on my face and I told her I was vegan, but she had worked so hard on making this soup for me that I told her it was OK and that I'd eat it! So.. I ate it. I felt bad, but I knew I would've felt even worse if I rejected her soup! Will anyone hold this against me? What are the most popular cars? Find out at Autos Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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