Politeness? What to serve?

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In a message dated 5/20/2008 7:40:38 AM Pacific Daylight Time,

thelilacflower writes:

 

I don't know why but this is so common. What are they afraid of? They

might enjoy those veg burgers? LOL

 

 

I don't get it either....

 

 

 

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In a message dated 5/20/2008 7:29:36 AM Pacific Daylight Time,

roxy87cabriolet writes:

 

he bean and spinach burgers? They were GREAT! My neighbor's son, 15 months,

never eats anything and gobbled them up!

 

 

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No, they respect you being vegetarian and wouldn't expect you to cook meat. Are

you making appetizers? Hot meal? You could serve a nice dip like the avocado

pie or a 7 layer dip in the files, or a quiche, how about enchiladas? They are

easy. A crockpot of spaghetti? If it's finger foods you could make a good

sandwich wrap or the pinwheels from stuffed tortillas rolled and cut in round

pinwheels.

Donna

 

--- On Tue, 5/20/08, clothnneedle <clothnneedle wrote:

 

clothnneedle <clothnneedle

Politeness?

 

Tuesday, May 20, 2008, 5:28 AM

 

I have been following the " Polite " thread with great interest and

would like to expand on this a bit further.

 

I belong to a card playing group which meets every Sunday for

several hours at a different member's house each week. This week is my

turn and I don't know what would be considered polite.

 

I am the only vegetarian in the group of meat eaters but each one

has made sure to accomodate me with something I would eat while the

others are eating meat. Since each member has given consideration to

my diet, does that mean I need to serve some kind of meat for them this

week?

 

Thanks

 

Lynda

[Guest guest]

Each week at other members house's, they have done a cookout on the

grill with the usual meat fare, dogs, burgers, chicken, etc. It is a

sit down meal with several sides, potato salad, macaroni salad, baked

beans, etc and is considered " dinner " .

 

This is where I am at a loss as to what to serve them. I know I can

make all the salads and they will be vegetarian, but what to serve in

place of the meat that would be satisfying to a carnivore?

 

I brought some bean burgers to the party on Sunday to see if they

would like them and if so I would make that but no one even tried

them, just said " I'll eat the REAL stuff, thank you " .

 

Lynda

 

 

 

 

 

 

, Donnalilacflower

<thelilacflower wrote:

>

> No, they respect you being vegetarian and wouldn't expect you to

cook meat. Are you making appetizers? Hot meal? You could serve a

nice dip like the avocado pie or a 7 layer dip in the files, or a

quiche, how about enchiladas? They are easy. A crockpot of

spaghetti? If it's finger foods you could make a good sandwich wrap

or the pinwheels from stuffed tortillas rolled and cut in round

pinwheels.

> Donna

>

> --- On Tue, 5/20/08, clothnneedle <clothnneedle wrote:

>

> clothnneedle <clothnneedle

> Politeness?

>

> Tuesday, May 20, 2008, 5:28 AM

>

> I have been following the " Polite " thread with great interest and

> would like to expand on this a bit further.

>

> I belong to a card playing group which meets every Sunday for

> several hours at a different member's house each week. This week is

my

> turn and I don't know what would be considered polite.

>

> I am the only vegetarian in the group of meat eaters but each one

> has made sure to accomodate me with something I would eat while the

> others are eating meat. Since each member has given consideration

to

> my diet, does that mean I need to serve some kind of meat for them

this

> week?

>

> Thanks

>

> Lynda

>

[Guest guest]

Make them baked pasta with a coleslaw or something like that from the

files. They won't even notice it's vegetarian, it will taste so good.

 

GeGee

 

, " clothnneedle "

<clothnneedle wrote:

>

> I have been following the " Polite " thread with great interest

and

> would like to expand on this a bit further.

>

> I belong to a card playing group which meets every Sunday for

> several hours at a different member's house each week. This week

is my

> turn and I don't know what would be considered polite.

>

> I am the only vegetarian in the group of meat eaters but each

one

> has made sure to accomodate me with something I would eat while the

> others are eating meat. Since each member has given consideration

to

> my diet, does that mean I need to serve some kind of meat for them

this

> week?

>

> Thanks

>

> Lynda

>

[Guest guest]

Maybe a baked dish of some sort or another but you could substitute the

meat ingredients with a vegetarian equivalent. Such as a lasagna with the

Morning Star meat crumbles that are supposed to taste just like the real

thing. I know I " ve had the corn dogs that they offer, and they taste fairly

like the real thing but are vegan. Plus I served them at a local get

together of friends locally and they were a big hit. People couldn't

believe that they were vegetarian. It would serve as a way to introduce

them to the fact that just cause they think they are giving something up,

they won't notice it as much as they thought they would.

 

Dennis

 

 

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[Guest guest]

You are under no obligation to serve non-veg foods. I would not serve them

alternative meats, you saw how they wouldn't touch your bean burgers. I know

many non-vegs who won't try alternative products but they are satisfied with a

good veg crockpot dish or a pasta dish. I would consider enchiladas with

Mexican rice on the side, veg chile with nice rolls.

Donna

 

--- On Tue, 5/20/08, clothnneedle <clothnneedle wrote:

 

clothnneedle <clothnneedle

Re: Politeness? What to serve?

 

Tuesday, May 20, 2008, 6:36 AM

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Each week at other members house's, they have done a cookout on the

grill with the usual meat fare, dogs, burgers, chicken, etc. It is a

sit down meal with several sides, potato salad, macaroni salad, baked

beans, etc and is considered " dinner " .

 

This is where I am at a loss as to what to serve them. I know I can

make all the salads and they will be vegetarian, but what to serve in

place of the meat that would be satisfying to a carnivore?

 

I brought some bean burgers to the party on Sunday to see if they

would like them and if so I would make that but no one even tried

them, just said " I'll eat the REAL stuff, thank you " .

 

Lynda

 

, Donnalilacflower

<thelilacflower@ ...> wrote:

>

> No, they respect you being vegetarian and wouldn't expect you to

cook meat. Are you making appetizers? Hot meal? You could serve a

nice dip like the avocado pie or a 7 layer dip in the files, or a

quiche, how about enchiladas? They are easy. A crockpot of

spaghetti? If it's finger foods you could make a good sandwich wrap

or the pinwheels from stuffed tortillas rolled and cut in round

pinwheels.

> Donna

>

> --- On Tue, 5/20/08, clothnneedle <clothnneedle@ ...> wrote:

>

> clothnneedle <clothnneedle@ ...>

> [vegetarian_ group] Politeness?

>

> Tuesday, May 20, 2008, 5:28 AM

>

> I have been following the " Polite " thread with great interest and

> would like to expand on this a bit further.

>

> I belong to a card playing group which meets every Sunday for

> several hours at a different member's house each week. This week is

my

> turn and I don't know what would be considered polite.

>

> I am the only vegetarian in the group of meat eaters but each one

> has made sure to accomodate me with something I would eat while the

> others are eating meat. Since each member has given consideration

to

> my diet, does that mean I need to serve some kind of meat for them

this

> week?

>

> Thanks

>

> Lynda

>

[Guest guest]

The bean and spinach burgers? They were GREAT! My neighbor's son, 15 months,

never eats anything and gobbled them up!

I would try lasagne with the tofu crumbles, then they can't really pick it out

and have to eat the " real " tofu stuff! LOL

I really like making tex/mex food, so I make Mexican Lasagne, usually in a pie

dish, this recipe makes 2 dishes, usually

Tofu crumbles, tortillas, red or black beans, corn (optional) salsa, better than

sour cream, onions, olives (optional)

Layer the ingredients in any order and you can top with cheddar and bake at 350

for about 25 minutes. It is my husbands fav veggie thing I make.

Cassie

 

clothnneedle <clothnneedle wrote:

 

Each week at other members house's, they have done a cookout on the

grill with the usual meat fare, dogs, burgers, chicken, etc. It is a

sit down meal with several sides, potato salad, macaroni salad, baked

beans, etc and is considered " dinner " .

 

This is where I am at a loss as to what to serve them. I know I can

make all the salads and they will be vegetarian, but what to serve in

place of the meat that would be satisfying to a carnivore?

 

I brought some bean burgers to the party on Sunday to see if they

would like them and if so I would make that but no one even tried

them, just said " I'll eat the REAL stuff, thank you " .

 

Lynda

 

, Donnalilacflower

<thelilacflower wrote:

>

> No, they respect you being vegetarian and wouldn't expect you to

cook meat. Are you making appetizers? Hot meal? You could serve a

nice dip like the avocado pie or a 7 layer dip in the files, or a

quiche, how about enchiladas? They are easy. A crockpot of

spaghetti? If it's finger foods you could make a good sandwich wrap

or the pinwheels from stuffed tortillas rolled and cut in round

pinwheels.

> Donna

>

> --- On Tue, 5/20/08, clothnneedle <clothnneedle wrote:

>

> clothnneedle <clothnneedle

> Politeness?

>

> Tuesday, May 20, 2008, 5:28 AM

>

> I have been following the " Polite " thread with great interest and

> would like to expand on this a bit further.

>

> I belong to a card playing group which meets every Sunday for

> several hours at a different member's house each week. This week is

my

> turn and I don't know what would be considered polite.

>

> I am the only vegetarian in the group of meat eaters but each one

> has made sure to accomodate me with something I would eat while the

> others are eating meat. Since each member has given consideration

to

> my diet, does that mean I need to serve some kind of meat for them

this

> week?

>

> Thanks

>

> Lynda

>

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

No fake meats for them. They won't accept it according to your bean

burgers incident. The main dish should be something like lasagna and

then add a few sides like dips and salad.

Jeff

 

, " clothnneedle "

<clothnneedle wrote:

>

>

>

> Each week at other members house's, they have done a cookout on

the

> grill with the usual meat fare, dogs, burgers, chicken, etc. It is

a

> sit down meal with several sides, potato salad, macaroni salad,

baked

> beans, etc and is considered " dinner " .

>

> This is where I am at a loss as to what to serve them. I know I

can

> make all the salads and they will be vegetarian, but what to serve

in

> place of the meat that would be satisfying to a carnivore?

>

> I brought some bean burgers to the party on Sunday to see if they

> would like them and if so I would make that but no one even tried

> them, just said " I'll eat the REAL stuff, thank you " .

>

> Lynda

, Donnalilacflower

> <thelilacflower@> wrote:

> >

> > No, they respect you being vegetarian and wouldn't expect you to

> cook meat. Are you making appetizers? Hot meal? You could serve a

> nice dip like the avocado pie or a 7 layer dip in the files, or a

> quiche, how about enchiladas? They are easy. A crockpot of

> spaghetti? If it's finger foods you could make a good sandwich

wrap

> or the pinwheels from stuffed tortillas rolled and cut in round

> pinwheels.

> > Donna

> >

> > --- On Tue, 5/20/08, clothnneedle <clothnneedle@> wrote:

> >

> > clothnneedle <clothnneedle@>

> > Politeness?

> >

> > Tuesday, May 20, 2008, 5:28 AM

> >

> > I have been following the " Polite " thread with great interest and

> > would like to expand on this a bit further.

> >

> > I belong to a card playing group which meets every Sunday for

> > several hours at a different member's house each week. This week

is

> my

> > turn and I don't know what would be considered polite.

> >

> > I am the only vegetarian in the group of meat eaters but each one

> > has made sure to accomodate me with something I would eat while

the

> > others are eating meat. Since each member has given consideration

> to

> > my diet, does that mean I need to serve some kind of meat for

them

> this

> > week?

> >

> > Thanks

> >

> > Lynda

> >

>

[Guest guest]

have a spaghetti dinner. or baked ziti. salad, rolls, bla bla bla.

 

clothnneedle <clothnneedle wrote:

 

Each week at other members house's, they have done a cookout on the

grill with the usual meat fare, dogs, burgers, chicken, etc. It is a

sit down meal with several sides, potato salad, macaroni salad, baked

beans, etc and is considered " dinner " .

 

This is where I am at a loss as to what to serve them. I know I can

make all the salads and they will be vegetarian, but what to serve in

place of the meat that would be satisfying to a carnivore?

 

I brought some bean burgers to the party on Sunday to see if they

would like them and if so I would make that but no one even tried

them, just said " I'll eat the REAL stuff, thank you " .

 

Lynda

 

, Donnalilacflower

<thelilacflower wrote:

>

> No, they respect you being vegetarian and wouldn't expect you to

cook meat. Are you making appetizers? Hot meal? You could serve a

nice dip like the avocado pie or a 7 layer dip in the files, or a

quiche, how about enchiladas? They are easy. A crockpot of

spaghetti? If it's finger foods you could make a good sandwich wrap

or the pinwheels from stuffed tortillas rolled and cut in round

pinwheels.

> Donna

>

> --- On Tue, 5/20/08, clothnneedle <clothnneedle wrote:

>

> clothnneedle <clothnneedle

> Politeness?

>

> Tuesday, May 20, 2008, 5:28 AM

>

> I have been following the " Polite " thread with great interest and

> would like to expand on this a bit further.

>

> I belong to a card playing group which meets every Sunday for

> several hours at a different member's house each week. This week is

my

> turn and I don't know what would be considered polite.

>

> I am the only vegetarian in the group of meat eaters but each one

> has made sure to accomodate me with something I would eat while the

> others are eating meat. Since each member has given consideration

to

> my diet, does that mean I need to serve some kind of meat for them

this

> week?

>

> Thanks

>

> Lynda

>

 

 

 

 

 

 

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a nice big pan of homemade baked mac & cheese!

 

Donnalilacflower <thelilacflower wrote: You are under no

obligation to serve non-veg foods. I would not serve them alternative meats, you

saw how they wouldn't touch your bean burgers. I know many non-vegs who won't

try alternative products but they are satisfied with a good veg crockpot dish or

a pasta dish. I would consider enchiladas with Mexican rice on the side, veg

chile with nice rolls.

Donna

 

--- On Tue, 5/20/08, clothnneedle <clothnneedle wrote:

 

clothnneedle <clothnneedle

Re: Politeness? What to serve?

 

Tuesday, May 20, 2008, 6:36 AM

 

Each week at other members house's, they have done a cookout on the

grill with the usual meat fare, dogs, burgers, chicken, etc. It is a

sit down meal with several sides, potato salad, macaroni salad, baked

beans, etc and is considered " dinner " .

 

This is where I am at a loss as to what to serve them. I know I can

make all the salads and they will be vegetarian, but what to serve in

place of the meat that would be satisfying to a carnivore?

 

I brought some bean burgers to the party on Sunday to see if they

would like them and if so I would make that but no one even tried

them, just said " I'll eat the REAL stuff, thank you " .

 

Lynda

 

, Donnalilacflower

<thelilacflower@ ...> wrote:

>

> No, they respect you being vegetarian and wouldn't expect you to

cook meat. Are you making appetizers? Hot meal? You could serve a

nice dip like the avocado pie or a 7 layer dip in the files, or a

quiche, how about enchiladas? They are easy. A crockpot of

spaghetti? If it's finger foods you could make a good sandwich wrap

or the pinwheels from stuffed tortillas rolled and cut in round

pinwheels.

> Donna

>

> --- On Tue, 5/20/08, clothnneedle <clothnneedle@ ...> wrote:

>

> clothnneedle <clothnneedle@ ...>

> [vegetarian_ group] Politeness?

>

> Tuesday, May 20, 2008, 5:28 AM

>

> I have been following the " Polite " thread with great interest and

> would like to expand on this a bit further.

>

> I belong to a card playing group which meets every Sunday for

> several hours at a different member's house each week. This week is

my

> turn and I don't know what would be considered polite.

>

> I am the only vegetarian in the group of meat eaters but each one

> has made sure to accomodate me with something I would eat while the

> others are eating meat. Since each member has given consideration

to

> my diet, does that mean I need to serve some kind of meat for them

this

> week?

>

> Thanks

>

> Lynda

>

 

 

 

 

 

 

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[Guest guest]

You are talking about being polite. I find the comment I'll eat the " real "

stuff quite rude. It would have been polite for them to at least have tried

them. Just my .02.

 

Stephanie Low

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" clothnneedle " <clothnneedle

 

Tuesday, May 20, 2008 6:36 AM

Re: Politeness? What to serve?

 

 

>

>

> Each week at other members house's, they have done a cookout on the

> grill with the usual meat fare, dogs, burgers, chicken, etc. It is a

> sit down meal with several sides, potato salad, macaroni salad, baked

> beans, etc and is considered " dinner " .

>

> This is where I am at a loss as to what to serve them. I know I can

> make all the salads and they will be vegetarian, but what to serve in

> place of the meat that would be satisfying to a carnivore?

>

> I brought some bean burgers to the party on Sunday to see if they

> would like them and if so I would make that but no one even tried

> them, just said " I'll eat the REAL stuff, thank you " .

>

> Lynda

, Donnalilacflower

> <thelilacflower wrote:

>>

>> No, they respect you being vegetarian and wouldn't expect you to

> cook meat. Are you making appetizers? Hot meal? You could serve a

> nice dip like the avocado pie or a 7 layer dip in the files, or a

> quiche, how about enchiladas? They are easy. A crockpot of

> spaghetti? If it's finger foods you could make a good sandwich wrap

> or the pinwheels from stuffed tortillas rolled and cut in round

> pinwheels.

>> Donna

>>

>> --- On Tue, 5/20/08, clothnneedle <clothnneedle wrote:

>>

>> clothnneedle <clothnneedle

>> Politeness?

>>

>> Tuesday, May 20, 2008, 5:28 AM

>>

>> I have been following the " Polite " thread with great interest and

>> would like to expand on this a bit further.

>>

>> I belong to a card playing group which meets every Sunday for

>> several hours at a different member's house each week. This week is

> my

>> turn and I don't know what would be considered polite.

>>

>> I am the only vegetarian in the group of meat eaters but each one

>> has made sure to accomodate me with something I would eat while the

>> others are eating meat. Since each member has given consideration

> to

>> my diet, does that mean I need to serve some kind of meat for them

> this

>> week?

>>

>> Thanks

>>

>> Lynda

>>

>

>

>

> ---

>

>

[Guest guest]

I don't know why but this is so common. What are they afraid of? They

might enjoy those veg burgers? LOL That's why I suggest not serving

anything with alternative products. Make a nice comfort food, like

Beth suggested Mac & Cheese would be a good dish to consider.

Donna

 

, <stephanielow wrote:

>

> You are talking about being polite. I find the comment I'll eat

the " real "

> stuff quite rude. It would have been polite for them to at least

have tried

> them. Just my .02.

>

> Stephanie Low

[Guest guest]

" No fake meats for them. They won't accept it according to your bean

burgers incident. " ---------

 

I would still try the ground hamburger subtitutes. As someone who cooks for

myself and also meat for my family, they don't like " bean burgers " , but didn't

notice at all when I substitued the meat crumbles into pasta. Plus, I wouldn't

put a lot of the meat substitute in. Kelly, FL

 

Oh, mac & cheese is always a hit with meat and non-meat eaters alike! I know

it's my famlies favorite!!

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

It might be a good idea to think in their shoes. They have been very good in

providing for you. Why not get something just for them and if there are

leftovers, they may take them home. In that way you are doing for them what

they have done for you.

You might also have some foods for them to try

Sharon

-

clothnneedle

Tuesday, May 20, 2008 6:36 AM

Re: Politeness? What to serve?

 

 

 

 

Each week at other members house's, they have done a cookout on the

grill with the usual meat fare, dogs, burgers, chicken, etc. It is a

sit down meal with several sides, potato salad, macaroni salad, baked

beans, etc and is considered " dinner " .

 

This is where I am at a loss as to what to serve them. I know I can

make all the salads and they will be vegetarian, but what to serve in

place of the meat that would be satisfying to a carnivore?

 

I brought some bean burgers to the party on Sunday to see if they

would like them and if so I would make that but no one even tried

them, just said " I'll eat the REAL stuff, thank you " .

 

Lynda

 

, Donnalilacflower

<thelilacflower wrote:

>

> No, they respect you being vegetarian and wouldn't expect you to

cook meat. Are you making appetizers? Hot meal? You could serve a

nice dip like the avocado pie or a 7 layer dip in the files, or a

quiche, how about enchiladas? They are easy. A crockpot of

spaghetti? If it's finger foods you could make a good sandwich wrap

or the pinwheels from stuffed tortillas rolled and cut in round

pinwheels.

> Donna

>

> --- On Tue, 5/20/08, clothnneedle <clothnneedle wrote:

>

> clothnneedle <clothnneedle

> Politeness?

>

> Tuesday, May 20, 2008, 5:28 AM

>

> I have been following the " Polite " thread with great interest and

> would like to expand on this a bit further.

>

> I belong to a card playing group which meets every Sunday for

> several hours at a different member's house each week. This week is

my

> turn and I don't know what would be considered polite.

>

> I am the only vegetarian in the group of meat eaters but each one

> has made sure to accomodate me with something I would eat while the

> others are eating meat. Since each member has given consideration

to

> my diet, does that mean I need to serve some kind of meat for them

this

> week?

>

> Thanks

>

> Lynda

>

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

I really hope this doesn't come out wrong but I wanted to respond to this.

Yesterday was my first day as a vegetarian so maybe that's why I can relate

to the meat eaters. I think the longer a person is a vegetarian the more

they forget what it was like to be a meat eater. They forget what it is like

to make the choice to either be vegetarian or not. They forget how hard the

decision was, if it was hard. They forget the difficulties of going from a

meat based diet to a vegetarian one..

 

America's thinking is based in the negativity of life.

Rather then saying " I want to be thin " ,,, we say " I don't want to be fat " .

Rather then saying " I want to be healthy " , we say " I don't want to be sick " .

Most of the time we focus on what we don't want or don't like. We focus on

the negative aspects instead of looking at the positive aspects of life.

 

So are the meat eaters afraid they might like veggie burgers or tofu? No, if

they give it any thought at all, they think the exact opposite. They will

hate it. It will be gross. And more thoughts like that...

Fact is, eating tofu, veggie burgers or anything like that is nothing like

they are used to eating and because of that it is going to be different

tasting, or a different texture, or a different something and that usually

means it is gross.

 

And lets face it, even though the vegetarian population is growing, we are

still the odd ones. You tell people your a vegetarian or going to become a

vegetarian and their eyes get big and they cant figure out WHY you would do

something so strange. They're afraid that not only are your eating habits

going to change but also your very core. You might start wearing hippie

clothes, dye your hair blue and start picketing the meat processing plants

or even worse, you might live in a tree for a year. You will become a

radical in some way and it makes people fearful. So when they say no to your

vegetarian food they are also saying " No, I don't want to get into your kind

of lifestyle. It scares me. "

 

As vegetarians we want the meat eaters to respect our choices. But shouldn't

we also respect their choice to continue to eat how they choose? I'm not

saying that we should cook meat for them. I'm just saying that we need to

realize we are all different and we all have reasons for eating meat or not

eating it. Sometimes the reasons are as simple as " I wont like it " or " I

hate anything with veggies " but sometimes the reasons go much deeper.

 

I can tell you if my father was alive he would call me a freak and be

disappointed in me that I decided to become a vegetarian. He just wouldn't

understand it nor would he want to. I would not try to make him try a veggie

burger because it is his life, his choice. If he ever wanted to try it and

wanted to talk about it, then I would be happy to help him understand more.

But until then, I have to respect his choices and I would expect him to

eventually respect mine.

Yes, his choice causes animal abuse and other problems and that should allow

me to live up on my ethical high horse because I am helping animals and the

environment. But I have to remember to not allow myself to go up on that

horse because we are all where we are supposed to be and by looking down at

him I put a bigger wedge between us. Then he would never want to try

anything or even discuss the issues behind it.

Please don't think I am saying any of you are on a high horse. I'm not. I do

know that since my decision to become a vegetarian I have found myself

getting up on that high ethical horse. That is why I brought it up.

 

I just think we need to stop and remember that we are all different and we

all have reasons for our choices.

 

   

Tami

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I don't know why but this is so common. What are they afraid of? They

might enjoy those veg burgers? LOL

 

 

I don't get it either....

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

I think most of us feel the same way about respecting their choices. Many of us

live with and dearly love those who eat meat. But you are right about the

negativity of the modern way of thinking and that if anything is different, it

isn't " normal " .

Welcome to the wonderful world of vegetarianism. There are so many taste

treats and sensations aswiting you. You sound like you are jumping right into

it, rather than wading slowely and carefully into new eating patterns. Good for

you. Even my carnivorous husband appreciates the amazing diversity of

vegetarian eating. There are hundreds of new dishes that have never been made

before because you haven't gotten creative in the kitchen, yet. Have fun.

 

Katie

[Guest guest]

"

I just think we need to stop and remember that we are all different and we

all have reasons for our choices.

 

   

Tami "

 

Tami -- WELL SAID! I too am fairly knew at this, and if we want 'meat eaters "

to think of our food choices, then I think we owe them the same courtesy.

Thanks, for saying it so well! Kelly, FL

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

Lynda,

 

These are just suggestions. If they don't fit your needs or don't fall

into the framework of your own way of being " veggie " , then just ignore them!

 

If it has to be a " full meal " , then something warm might be good...bean

burritos, for example. Or a " vegetable Lasagna " --I once worked at a " tea room "

restaurant that had veg. lasagna for a menu item and it was a hit all the

time--not for veggies only!

 

If it's not too hot for it, a good vegetable soup with side items (and a

good, hearty bread or whole-grain rolls) is neat. Salads of all kinds are

interesting and people will try them just to find out what they are like--and

you can't go wrong wtih a cabbage slaw and a potato salad. You can try a pasta

salad or macaroni salad or a bean salad, as well.

 

If lighter fare might go well, sandwiches with a cheese, cream-cheese or

egg filling (like egg salad) might be acceptable. I don't know if you do

" lacto-ovo " vegetarian; if not, just ignore this suggestion! Among

non-vegetarians, however, a cheese plate, cream-cheese spreads (with olives,

pimentos, nuts, or herbs stirred in but no meat) are tasty and fairly

" mainstream " . So is egg salad and/or " deviled eggs " , which are convenient to

serve.

 

You don't have to have just " plain " baked beans, either! You can make a

" mixed-bean " bake and " kick it up a notch " with a sweet-tangy sauce, onion,

brown sugar (or maple syrup, if you like that better!) and a bit of liquid

smoke, maybe a few drops of hot sauce, too! --stirred in....(I made some of this

a few days ago and it's something that you can make a " meal " of!) There is a

more " traditional 'with-meat' " version of this called variously, " Barbecued

Beans " , " Glorified Beans " or " Calico Beans " --that includes cooked ground

beef--you COULD tuck in some veggie " beef " crumbles (like Boca, etc.) and make

something that appears and tastes like something THEY might make!

 

If you get out the grill, you can have anything on it except meat, of

course! Grilled mixed vegetables are really good--so is grilled

corn-on-the-cob! Grilled veggie ka-bobs, and so on. I saw a magazine recipe

article a while ago about " grilled pizzas " . You DON'T have to make it " with

meat " if you make interesting and tasty non-meat toppings for pizzas!

(Artichoke hearts, carmelized onions roasted garlic, mushrooms, peppers, olives

and a really good sauce--some cheese, if you do cheese--that sounds good! I bet

any non-veggie would at least try it (although some would not go for

mushrooms...peppers, etc.) It would taste GOOD without any meat, is what I am

saying, and a non-veg wouldn't really " miss " it!

 

I think, when non-vegetarians eat a meal, they have the unspoken

expectation in their minds that a meal is " incomplete " without a " meat " entree.

To show them that vegetarian meals are all right and nothing is really being

" lost " in the process, I guess it's good to make something that they feel is

sort-of familiar, yet made YOUR way. It bridges the credibility gap, so to

speak, when they see the familiar (veggie salads, chips, and cheese sandwiches,

for example) and think, " Well, WE eat those things, too! " Then they don't come

with the " Is she going to make us eat TOFU?? " in the back of their minds.

 

So, load up the flavor! Make " veggie " versions of some " mainstream "

foods, and I think your gathering will be just fine! (The purpose, of course,

is the enjoyment of each other's company, right? It isn't some kind of food

competition! Keep it FUN and simple!!)

 

Maybe my ideas won't be what you need. Just thought I'd toss them in

anyway. Oh yeah--and have SWEETS! (dessert!) EVERYONE loves those kinds of

things! LOL!

 

--Laura B., in Illinois

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

Then they don't come with the " Is she going to make us eat TOFU?? " in the back

of their minds.

 

This makes me laugh because a few summers ago I had a guest who was allergic

to cows milk. I made all the dips & the cheesecake with Tofutti 'sour cream' &

'cream cheese'. One guy kept saying, " this is made with WHAT?? " They all loved

everything & were quite impressed.

Beth

 

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[Guest guest]

I am not sure what is polite or what is not, but I do know what respect is.

I have been a vegetarian all my life. My Mother was a vegetarian and raised

me as a vegetarian also. My Father was a meat eater along with the rest of

the family. I grew up being the only child and teenager in town a

vegetarian. My experiences have been pleasant but some very unpleasant

because I was different. I do not wish to continue this action with family

and friends in my adult life. I am a vegetarian because of the health

benefits 1st and everything else falls next. My husband is a meat eater

and, the same as when I grew up, I am the only vegetarian is our family and

friends. Everyone respects my choice and accommodates me at functions when

food is involved. I feel that is a polite gesture and wish to return the

same kindness. By the way I have been a vegetarian for 60 years.

 

 

On Tue, May 20, 2008 at 4:27 PM, Beth Renzetti <elmothree2000

wrote:

 

> Then they don't come with the " Is she going to make us eat TOFU?? " in

> the back of their minds.

>

> This makes me laugh because a few summers ago I had a guest who was

> allergic to cows milk. I made all the dips & the cheesecake with Tofutti

> 'sour cream' & 'cream cheese'. One guy kept saying, " this is made with

> WHAT?? " They all loved everything & were quite impressed.

> Beth

>

> " L.B. " <elbee577 <elbee577%40>> wrote:

>

>

>

 

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Tuesday, May 20, 2008 10:45:42 AM

Re: Re: Politeness? What to serve?

 

 

 

In a message dated 5/20/2008 7:40:38 AM Pacific Daylight Time,

thelilacflower@ writes:

 

I don't know why but this is so common. What are they afraid of? They

might enjoy those veg burgers? LOL

 

I don't get it either....

 

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[Guest guest]

How about making a meat dish minus the meat? Like a meatloaf made from nuts

and grains. IOW, something that they will think is meat but be pleasantly

surprised to discover isn't made from meat at all? I think it was Linda

McCartney who talked about making dishes like that and her meat eating

friends always amazed that it was meatless.

 

Kerry

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