Guest guest Posted January 2, 2003 Report Share Posted January 2, 2003 If you have an ethical issue with a particular food however people take a totally different point of view and are offended that you won't eat their cooking or are unwilling to accomodate you. What do other people think about this? I think for some non-vegetarians it is somewhat threatening. I sometimes get the impression that they feel that my personal dietary choices somehow threaten/condemn/condescend upon their own. Also, eating with others outside of the work place usu occurs with people we are close to. Preparing food for someone that we love is in and of itself an act of love. Thus, I can see where mom would be hurt by not eating certain dishes and that hurt being expressed as being offended. (Note: I'm not this perceptive on my own. My Intro. Sociology class had a chapter on 'The Meaning of Food'.) In regards to why others won't accomodate us..some people just aren't accomodating. Ya get the idea that some feel that we chose not to eat meat and that if meat is the only thing being served then you are just choosing not to eat this meal. I guess some people feel like 'this is my house and this is how it is. If you don't like it, leave'. Personally, when a guest is in my house I want them to feel comfortable. Granted not so comfortable that I'll actually prepare meat for them, but I've always made it quite clear to my non-veg peeps to feel free to bring over to eat what they like and that I'm not upset if that includes meat. A wider question for the whole group, mixed vegetarian & non- vegetarian relationships, do people think they can work? I think a meat-eater and non-meater can work out. I think each person's respect for their partner plays a much larger role in determining such a relationship's success. Any relationship between two people is gonna have its differences and sources of stress. It is how such is handled that matters in the end. Of course the romantic in me believes that if they both really love one another it will work out. All that said, I know a married couple where the wife is vegetarian and he is just a vegetarian at home. He sometimes eats meat when he isn't at home (thus there is never any meat in the house). He also prefers it this way b/c he thinks its healthier not having the fattening meats tempt him at home. I've often wondered if I would have the level of consideration that this couple has if I were with a meat eating companion. I personally cannot imagine being with someone who does. Years ago, my boyfriend and I converted to vegetarianism within about a week of one another. So, I've never been in that kind of sitution. I guess I feel sort of lucky in this respect. I can see where it could be quite difficult. I don't think I could be with a 'hard-core' meat eater but prob someone like the hubby who just eats meat away from home. But then what about cold-cuts? They don't even put the smell of meat in your house b/c they're not being cooked. I've felt like it was utter torture when I was at my mother house's while her oven-fried chicken was cooking. (This was my fav meal of hers growing up) I find myself going well, what about this or that..and if you really love the person, etc. Great, intriguing question Lisa! No-meat Man Preferred, Karen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 >>...I've always made it quite clear to my non-veg peeps to feel free to bring over to eat what they like and that I'm not upset if that includes meat.<< That's where I draw the line. My home is my castle, and my castle is a meat-free zone. When I host my friends and bringing a dish is an option, I tell everyone that meat is not to be included because I plan to supply that portion of the meal. An interesting aside is notable here. The only ones who have objected over the years has been my parents and my brothers and sisters. Go figure!! >>A wider question for the whole group, mixed vegetarian & non- vegetarian relationships, do people think they can work? << I think not!! As a veggie man, I've been married and I've been single. I find that women are more compromising when it comes to food than most men I know. Even the men who will not make a fuss about having a veggie meal at my house are much less accommodating when I dine with them. Since my home is a meat-free zone, I have eliminated all of the day to day issues about having meat on the table for a less than 100% veggie companion. When I dine out, the only veggie diet I'm concerned about maintaining is my own. With that said, I know the benefits of a veggie diet, and as I age, I'm concerned about choosing only a companion who eats no meat. Here's why. As a veggie, I expect a longer than usual lifespan. A woman who chooses to eat meat is IMHO choosing a shorter than usual lifespan. Sounds very unromantic but I don't want to be left alone in my elder years by a companion who has made bad health choices. Dave Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 " With that said, I know the benefits of a veggie diet, and as I age, I'm concerned about choosing only a companion who eats no meat. Here's why. As a veggie, I expect a longer than usual lifespan. A woman who chooses to eat meat is IMHO choosing a shorter than usual lifespan. Sounds very unromantic but I don't want to be left alone in my elder years by a companion who has made bad health choices. " I don't think this is unromantic at all Dave, I hear 'ya on that one. I think it's just the opposite: very romantic. My dh is a little older than me, and it's more typical for women to live longer than men, so I'm faced with the possibility of having many years in old age without him. I have to do what I can to keep him around longer. If you care for someone you want the best for them, including their health. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 I'm not sure, but I am basically of the opinion that Men and Women are different enough already to make it difficult to get along... throw in religion, culture, ethical, racial differences and the challenges become heroic. Not unadvised, mind you, not impossible. Just heroic. -dawn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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