Guest guest Posted October 27, 2005 Report Share Posted October 27, 2005 hi guys! i was wondering how you guys handle a situation like this: you go to a party hosted by someone you don't know. when you get there, there is absolutely no vegetarian dish in sight! how do you handle this? if it's a large crowd for me, it's fine. i just blend in, maybe just have some dessert, then i just load up after the party. but if it's a sit-down dinner, i don't know how! here in my country, it's still considered " rude " to tell them i am a vegetarian and not eat. people will have negative impressions of me and the people i'm with if i ask them to cook a veggie dish. so sometimes i find myself " cheating. " i hate it. i don't want to compromise just because it's " polite " that i'm not eating meat. i don't understand why they would excuse muslims for not eating meat, but not a catholic vegetarian. so sometimes, if i can get away with it, i just pick out the vegetables from the dishes so that they can see that i am eating something. how do you guys do it? do you cheat, too? -zoe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 27, 2005 Report Share Posted October 27, 2005 --- Zoe, it doesn't go over well here either saying you are a veggie in small town nowhere : ). I haven't encountered it much but if at all possible I am the FIRST one to volunteer to bring something I can have--chances are there is someone there also like you but has never said anything. I also do Weight Watchers so it can be a double challenge. usually before I go somewhere, I just automatically eat before going--it lets me stay on my plan and also I don't feel yucky compromising much. I prefer vegan but can compromise to lacto-ovo if need be but not any further. you could just say you have to eaten a certain way because of health reasons. people buy my " it's better for my heart " than anything I say about cruelty to animals-- sigh....I am making progress with a few people though but it's very tough living in a factory-farm dependent area. I don't have any specific advice other than do what you can, it still helps : ).......... take care : )...... Anne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 27, 2005 Report Share Posted October 27, 2005 kabibe_md <hey_soleil wrote: hi guys! i was wondering how you guys handle a situation like this: you go to a party hosted by someone you don't know. when you get there, there is absolutely no vegetarian dish in sight! how do you handle this? < snip> -zoe I tell the hostess I'm vegetarian when invited, same as if I were diabetic or had food allergies. when I'm the hostess I always ask if my guests have food allergies or restrictions. don't understand why perfectly nice people who wouldn't dream of being so rude as to serve pork to Jewish or Muslum friends think it's ok to push meat on vegetarians! for a sit down dinner I'd have to have a 'prior commitment' ( i'm commited to my good health! LOL) preventing my arriving on time but " perhaps I could join you for dessert? " Non vegetarians have no clue usually, the sight and smell of meat makes me nauseous so tend to avoid exposure as much as possable. since quitting smoking have found it difficult to be near anyone who eats a lot of meat - they smell of carrion! fortunately my carnivorus friends are health concious and don't over do the beast eating. peace, Angela who I am is fine, it's just this body that's disabled! " work your fingers to the bone, whatta ya get.... boney fingers, boney fingers " Source: Boney Fingers by the late great Hoyt Axton FareChase - Search multiple travel sites in one click. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 27, 2005 Report Share Posted October 27, 2005 I would do what feels right in your heart and to me it sounds like you don't want to compromise just because it's polite. If you cheat, then people won't understand why you're a vegetarian if you still eat meat. Stick with it and soon people will understand. If you do get invited to a sit down dinner (non potluck) of someone you don't know, then you are also welcome to decline the offer, ask what is being served or offer to bring a dish. Many times James and I will eat before going to a party if we know there won't be anything for us to eat that is fulfilling. If we are invited to a sit down meal, we let the host/hostess know that we don't eat meat and ask if we can bring something. Denise , " kabibe_md " <hey_soleil@l...> wrote: > > hi guys! > > i was wondering how you guys handle a situation like this: > > you go to a party hosted by someone you don't know. when you get > there, there is absolutely no vegetarian dish in sight! how do you > handle this? > > > if it's a large crowd for me, it's fine. i just blend in, maybe just > have some dessert, then i just load up after the party. but if it's a > sit-down dinner, i don't know how! here in my country, it's still > considered " rude " to tell them i am a vegetarian and not eat. people > will have negative impressions of me and the people i'm with if i ask > them to cook a veggie dish. so sometimes i find myself " cheating. " i > hate it. i don't want to compromise just because it's " polite " that > i'm not eating meat. i don't understand why they would excuse muslims > for not eating meat, but not a catholic vegetarian. so sometimes, if > i can get away with it, i just pick out the vegetables from the > dishes so that they can see that i am eating something. > > how do you guys do it? do you cheat, too? > > -zoe > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 27, 2005 Report Share Posted October 27, 2005 thanks so much anne, angela, donna, and denise! [angela] wrote: > don't understand why perfectly nice people who wouldn't dream of being so rude as to serve pork to Jewish or Muslum friends think it's ok to push meat on vegetarians! ... but " perhaps I could join you for dessert? " Non vegetarians have no clue usually, the sight and smell of meat makes me nauseous so tend to avoid exposure as much as possable. they don't understand that part. they just think i'm overreacting. but they don't get it that i would get nauseous, or worse, palpitations! joining for dessert instead is a good idea. i'll have that in mind. ;-) [donna] wrote: > if not I eat something ahead of time and I always have a banana in my purse just incase. good idea, too. thanks. [denise] wrote: >If you cheat, then people won't understand why you're a vegetarian if you still eat meat. you're right. i hate saying instead that i'm pesco/not quite " there " yet. thanks. -zoe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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