Guest guest Posted June 20, 2003 Report Share Posted June 20, 2003 sure did, the marriage came with a 3 year old, we had our son 9 months after we said " I do " and then we adopted an 8 year old. They all moved out upon graduating from HS and never looked back! Last one left in April, about a month before graduation. I'm 42 and hubby is 45, so we are livin it up at still a young age! Nancy - ~Janice~ Friday, June 20, 2003 6:03 PM Re: Role Call Check In >I am a stay at home wife, kids are grown and gone You've only been married for 20 years and your kids are grown and gone? Wow!! I've been married for 19 years and I still have a set of 17 year old twin boys and a 12 year old daughter. You must have gotten an early start huh? :-) ~Janice~ Be your own cheerleader! Encourage yourself every step of the way! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2003 Report Share Posted June 20, 2003 , " Nancy K. " <nkohn@c...> wrote: > sure did, the marriage came with a 3 year old, we had our son 9 months after we said " I do " and then we adopted an 8 year old. They all moved out upon graduating from HS and never looked back! Last one left in April, about a month before graduation. I'm 42 and hubby is 45, so we are livin it up at still a young age! > > Nancy That's fantastic! Good for you! My daughter will be 20 when I'm 40 & the one I'm carrying will be 13. By the time I reach 45 I'm going to be livin it up & making the most of life, just like yourself. I've also considered adoption but that will have to wait until I have a bigger place & I'm settled with my own children. But saying that I would like another one after this one so we will have to wait & see what life throws at me. XxX Mi XxX Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2003 Report Share Posted June 20, 2003 Um, well......mine are all grown and gone, one even married......and we passed just only 10 years in April. some of us have done that game more than once, ya know!! ~Pixx Nancy K. wrote: sure did, the marriage came with a 3 year old, we had our son 9 months after we said " I do " and then we adopted an 8 year old..... - ~Janice~ You've only been married for 20 years and your kids are grown and gone? ......... You must have gotten an early start huh? :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2003 Report Share Posted June 20, 2003 >I am a stay at home wife, kids are grown and gone You've only been married for 20 years and your kids are grown and gone? Wow!! I've been married for 19 years and I still have a set of 17 year old twin boys and a 12 year old daughter. You must have gotten an early start huh? :-) ~Janice~ Be your own cheerleader! Encourage yourself every step of the way! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 21, 2003 Report Share Posted June 21, 2003 Ooh...Nancy, please forgive me, as I'm sure I could be overreacting, but the feminist in me couldn't let this statement go unanswered.... You are *you* to argue, if you want to!! Please tell me that you truly do not want to be working...that inside, you are completely okay with being a housewife (even with no children home to care for). The situation of a man wanting his wife to stay home rather than work is bothersome to me. Why does he like you not working? What is it about you having a job that does not sit well with him? I'm sorry, I'm truly not trying to talk badly about your husband or to create a dire situation where there very well may not be one, but I just don't like hearing (or reading, ha ha) things like this. If you don't have any desire to be working, then that's fine, but if you do...that's not fine. Once again, sticking my nose into a stranger's business...forgive me! " Nancy K. " <nkohn wrote: but hubby likes me not working and who am I to argue? ~~blessed be~~ Alison, the ana-spryte SBC DSL - Now only $29.95 per month! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 21, 2003 Report Share Posted June 21, 2003 ooooh Alison, the ana-spryte, honey, its ok to butt into my business <grin>...he does not want me to work because I am much happier not working outside the home. I am a free-lance writer/editor, and he whole heartedly supports my creative endeavors, which I would not be able to persue if I worked even part time outside the home. In addition, we are both much happier with me at home. As old fashioned as it may sound, if I am able to get all the cleaning and cooking done during the day, then we have nothing to do in the evening but enjoy one anothers company. When our friends are winding down from a hard day at the office, or arguing about who takes the trash out tonight, we are at the library reading books, watching a good ole movie on the DVD player, taking a walk in the part, or playing music together, reading to one another, and well, you know <wink>. He has nothing to do as far as the house is concerned when he gets home because its all done by me during the day (helps that we have such a small, 560 sq.ft. apartment and the maintenence guy does our grass), so he's less grumpy, I'm less grumpy, and we, as a couple, are much happier. His income from being a postal worker is MORE than sufficent for us to live on, and in addition to that income, he is a professional piano player on Friday and Saturday night, something he could not do if he had to more around the house. I know it sounds a little like the 50's around here, but boy, it sure works great for us. I get to write and edit, he gets to play the piano on Friday and Saturday nights, and the rest of our weeknights, and weekends are spent in quality time together because neither of us are stretched to the bare bones. This lifestyle fits our simplistic ideals, and in its own way, supports our vegetarian ways (no quickie meals since I have time to cook from whole products) We have all three of our meals together too! I send him to work with a smile on his face, I bike to the park and meet him for lunch, and then dinner is ready in the evening....its just a great life, and we've been at it 20 years next week, so something must be going right! <deep in love smile> I'm really crazy about him...can ya tell? Nancy-the homemaker - Alison Parker Saturday, June 21, 2003 7:02 PM Re: Role Call Check In Ooh...Nancy, please forgive me, as I'm sure I could be overreacting, but the feminist in me couldn't let this statement go unanswered.... You are *you* to argue, if you want to!! Please tell me that you truly do not want to be working...that inside, you are completely okay with being a housewife (even with no children home to care for). The situation of a man wanting his wife to stay home rather than work is bothersome to me. Why does he like you not working? What is it about you having a job that does not sit well with him? I'm sorry, I'm truly not trying to talk badly about your husband or to create a dire situation where there very well may not be one, but I just don't like hearing (or reading, ha ha) things like this. If you don't have any desire to be working, then that's fine, but if you do...that's not fine. Once again, sticking my nose into a stranger's business...forgive me! " Nancy K. " <nkohn wrote: but hubby likes me not working and who am I to argue? ~~blessed be~~ Alison, the ana-spryte SBC DSL - Now only $29.95 per month! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 21, 2003 Report Share Posted June 21, 2003 thanks Carol! I'm so excited about our vacation I can hardly stand it! Nancy - Dale and Carol Wade Saturday, June 21, 2003 8:00 PM Re: Role Call Check In Nancy and husband....happy 20th Anniversary next week! God bless you! Carol - Nancy K. Saturday, June 21, 2003 7:38 PM Re: Role Call Check In ooooh Alison, the ana-spryte, honey, its ok to butt into my business <grin>...he does not want me to work because I am much happier not working outside the home. I am a free-lance writer/editor, and he whole heartedly supports my creative endeavors, which I would not be able to persue if I worked even part time outside the home. In addition, we are both much happier with me at home. As old fashioned as it may sound, if I am able to get all the cleaning and cooking done during the day, then we have nothing to do in the evening but enjoy one anothers company. When our friends are winding down from a hard day at the office, or arguing about who takes the trash out tonight, we are at the library reading books, watching a good ole movie on the DVD player, taking a walk in the part, or playing music together, reading to one another, and well, you know <wink>. He has nothing to do as far as the house is concerned when he gets home because its all done by me! during t! he day (helps that we have such a small, 560 sq.ft. apartment and the maintenence guy does our grass), so he's less grumpy, I'm less grumpy, and we, as a couple, are much happier. His income from being a postal worker is MORE than sufficent for us to live on, and in addition to that income, he is a professional piano player on Friday and Saturday night, something he could not do if he had to more around the house. I know it sounds a little like the 50's around here, but boy, it sure works great for us. I get to write and edit, he gets to play the piano on Friday and Saturday nights, and the rest of our weeknights, and weekends are spent in quality time together because neither of us are stretched to the bare bones. This lifestyle fits our simplistic ideals, and in its own way, supports our vegetarian ways (no quickie meals since I have time to cook from whole products) We have all three of our meals together too! I send him to work with a smile on his face, I bik! e to the park ! and meet him for lunch, and then dinner is ready in th e evening....its just a great life, and we've been at it 20 years next week, so something must be going right! <deep in love smile> I'm really crazy about him...can ya tell? Nancy-the homemaker - Alison Parker Saturday, June 21, 2003 7:02 PM Re: Role Call Check In Ooh...Nancy, please forgive me, as I'm sure I could be overreacting, but the feminist in me couldn't let this statement go unanswered.... You are *you* to argue, if you want to!! Please tell me that you truly do not want to be working...that inside, you are completely okay with being a housewife (even with no children home to care for). The situation of a man wanting his wife to stay home rather than work is bothersome to me. Why does he like you not working? What is it about you having a job that does not sit well with him? I'm sorry, I'm truly not trying to talk badly about your husband or to create a dire situation where there very well may not be one, but I just don't like hearing (or reading, ha ha) things like this. If you don't have any desire to be working, then that's fine, but if you do...that's not fine. Once again, sticking my nose into a stranger's business...forgive me! " Nancy K. " <nkohn wrote: but hubby likes me not working and who am I to argue? ~~blessed be~~ Alison, the ana-spryte SBC DSL - Now only $29.95 per month! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 21, 2003 Report Share Posted June 21, 2003 Nancy and husband....happy 20th Anniversary next week! God bless you! Carol - Nancy K. Saturday, June 21, 2003 7:38 PM Re: Role Call Check In ooooh Alison, the ana-spryte, honey, its ok to butt into my business <grin>...he does not want me to work because I am much happier not working outside the home. I am a free-lance writer/editor, and he whole heartedly supports my creative endeavors, which I would not be able to persue if I worked even part time outside the home. In addition, we are both much happier with me at home. As old fashioned as it may sound, if I am able to get all the cleaning and cooking done during the day, then we have nothing to do in the evening but enjoy one anothers company. When our friends are winding down from a hard day at the office, or arguing about who takes the trash out tonight, we are at the library reading books, watching a good ole movie on the DVD player, taking a walk in the part, or playing music together, reading to one another, and well, you know <wink>. He has nothing to do as far as the house is concerned when he gets home because its all done by me during t! he day (helps that we have such a small, 560 sq.ft. apartment and the maintenence guy does our grass), so he's less grumpy, I'm less grumpy, and we, as a couple, are much happier. His income from being a postal worker is MORE than sufficent for us to live on, and in addition to that income, he is a professional piano player on Friday and Saturday night, something he could not do if he had to more around the house. I know it sounds a little like the 50's around here, but boy, it sure works great for us. I get to write and edit, he gets to play the piano on Friday and Saturday nights, and the rest of our weeknights, and weekends are spent in quality time together because neither of us are stretched to the bare bones. This lifestyle fits our simplistic ideals, and in its own way, supports our vegetarian ways (no quickie meals since I have time to cook from whole products) We have all three of our meals together too! I send him to work with a smile on his face, I bike to the park ! and meet him for lunch, and then dinner is ready in the evening....its just a great life, and we've been at it 20 years next week, so something must be going right! <deep in love smile> I'm really crazy about him...can ya tell? Nancy-the homemaker - Alison Parker Saturday, June 21, 2003 7:02 PM Re: Role Call Check In Ooh...Nancy, please forgive me, as I'm sure I could be overreacting, but the feminist in me couldn't let this statement go unanswered.... You are *you* to argue, if you want to!! Please tell me that you truly do not want to be working...that inside, you are completely okay with being a housewife (even with no children home to care for). The situation of a man wanting his wife to stay home rather than work is bothersome to me. Why does he like you not working? What is it about you having a job that does not sit well with him? I'm sorry, I'm truly not trying to talk badly about your husband or to create a dire situation where there very well may not be one, but I just don't like hearing (or reading, ha ha) things like this. If you don't have any desire to be working, then that's fine, but if you do...that's not fine. Once again, sticking my nose into a stranger's business...forgive me! " Nancy K. " <nkohn wrote: but hubby likes me not working and who am I to argue? ~~blessed be~~ Alison, the ana-spryte SBC DSL - Now only $29.95 per month! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 21, 2003 Report Share Posted June 21, 2003 Oh, kick-ass!! Being a freelance writer is one of my (pretty much) unattainable dreams. (I don't plan on ever marrying and so would have no second income for support.) I think that's fucking great that he supports you in that, because as you said, any amount of work would take way too much time and attention from your writing... What do you write? have you had anything published? " Nancy K. " <nkohn wrote: ooooh Alison, the ana-spryte, honey, its ok to butt into my business ...he does not want me to work because I am much happier not working outside the home. I am a free-lance writer/editor, and he whole heartedly supports my creative endeavors, which I would not be able to persue if I worked even part time outside the home. ~~blessed be~~ Alison, the ana-spryte SBC DSL - Now only $29.95 per month! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 21, 2003 Report Share Posted June 21, 2003 hahaha....you crack me up Alison..I loved both your posts. Yes, I have been published a couple times, but I have more rejection letters than publishings! <laugh> I have some poetry that has been published locally, and I have a couple that were recorded onto CD. I like writing poetry, but my favorite work is short stories on the humorous observances of what would seemingly be bothersome happenings in life, like our flooded basement, and first time I went to find the right kind of paper to publish my church newsletter on, my sons getting picked up for curfew, the day the computer table fell apart when I was home alone, stuff like that. I was once told that my humorous writing was simliar to Jerry Seinfeld humor. I was honored beyond belief since I LOVE Jerry Seinfeld humor! Do you write at all? Nancy - Alison Parker Saturday, June 21, 2003 8:15 PM Re: Role Call Check In Oh, kick-ass!! Being a freelance writer is one of my (pretty much) unattainable dreams. (I don't plan on ever marrying and so would have no second income for support.) I think that's fucking great that he supports you in that, because as you said, any amount of work would take way too much time and attention from your writing... What do you write? have you had anything published? " Nancy K. " <nkohn wrote: ooooh Alison, the ana-spryte, honey, its ok to butt into my business ...he does not want me to work because I am much happier not working outside the home. I am a free-lance writer/editor, and he whole heartedly supports my creative endeavors, which I would not be able to persue if I worked even part time outside the home. ~~blessed be~~ Alison, the ana-spryte SBC DSL - Now only $29.95 per month! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 22, 2003 Report Share Posted June 22, 2003 , " Nancy K. " <nkohn@c...> wrote: > thanks Carol! I'm so excited about our vacation I can hardly stand it! > <deep in love smile> I'm really crazy about him...can ya tell? > Would you please clone your life for me!!!! If I ever find a person of the male persuasion who even remotely did THAT to me, I would be a lucky woman! (31, SWF, Albuquerque, brown hair, blue/green eyes, no kids, never been married, photos and biography available upon request) sheryl in albuquerque Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2003 Report Share Posted June 23, 2003 Well, glad to hear I'm still as amusing as my friends in high school always said I was! I never really believed them, but maybe they weren't just being nice? Hmm.... I think having more rejection letters than publishings is a common issue among writers. I'd be surprised to find someone who's situation was the opposite, in fact. Being compared to Seinfeld is certanly a compliment. Although I was never a rabid fan of the show like many of my friends or coworkers, I definitely always found him very funny, especially in his stand-up routines. In fact, many stars of TV sitcoms, even the lame ones, have turned out to be extremely funny people. I once saw Bob Saget (the corny dad on that wretchedly lame and cheesy show " Full House " ) do a stand-up special on HBO or something, and he surprised the hell out of me by being absolutely hilarious, and more than a little raunchy. Well, I used to write much more than I do now. In high school, and in my first couple of years attending junior college, I did a lot of writing, in and out of creative writing classes. Mostly poetry, but also some short stories, and a novella that I plan to rework and lengthen into a novel...you know, when I win the lottery or something...LOL Good luck in your endeavors, and don't let the rejection letters get to you. It's just one person's opinion, not a universal fact! " Nancy K. " <nkohn wrote: hahaha....you crack me up Alison..I loved both your posts. Yes, I have been published a couple times, but I have more rejection letters than publishings! I have some poetry that has been published locally, and I have a couple that were recorded onto CD. I like writing poetry, but my favorite work is short stories on the humorous observances of what would seemingly be bothersome happenings in life, like our flooded basement, and first time I went to find the right kind of paper to publish my church newsletter on, my sons getting picked up for curfew, the day the computer table fell apart when I was home alone, stuff like that. I was once told that my humorous writing was simliar to Jerry Seinfeld humor. I was honored beyond belief since I LOVE Jerry Seinfeld humor! Do you write at all? Nancy ~~blessed be~~ Alison, the ana-spryte SBC DSL - Now only $29.95 per month! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2003 Report Share Posted June 23, 2003 And, even if you do finally make it into print, there's still more rejections than one would expect. The literary world is so fickle and yet a few of us are drawn uncontrollably into its craziness. I have been writing professionally for nine years now with four novels in print. #5 is in the downhill stages of first draft. I just returned from BookExpo America in LA last month. It was a mere shadow of itself from just a few years ago. If anyone is interested in talking craft, we probably ought to move that discussion off-list. Dave Alison Parker [ana_spryte] Sunday, June 22, 2003 11:22 PM Re: Role Call Check In I think having more rejection letters than publishings is a common issue among writers. I'd be surprised to find someone who's situation was the opposite, in fact. Well, I used to write much more than I do now. In high school, and in my first couple of years attending junior college, I did a lot of writing, in and out of creative writing classes. Mostly poetry, but also some short stories, and a novella that I plan to rework and lengthen into a novel...you know, when I win the lottery or something...LOL Good luck in your endeavors, and don't let the rejection letters get to you. It's just one person's opinion, not a universal fact! " Nancy K. " <nkohn wrote: Yes, I have been published a couple times, but I have more rejection letters than publishings! I have some poetry that has been published locally, and I have a couple that were recorded onto CD Do you write at all? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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