Guest guest Posted July 3, 2003 Report Share Posted July 3, 2003 Ok, so we're invited to this FOJ/office picnic thing tomorrow, which I am supposed to attend as part of my " team player " image. (I am not a team player, FYI) Today I was informed that the host is only providing meat, celery and carrot sticks. This guy is a recovering alcoholic...and I wouldn't invite him to a party and say, hey, I'm buying 12 cases of beer, but if you want water, you'll have to bring your own. It's not like he doesn't know I'm veg. It's not like it would be that hard, while he's at the store buying 15 pounds of steak, to grab a package of veggie burgers. I mean really. The omission just seems so obvious. I've decided not to pollute my body (and my daughter's body) with hormones, antibiotics, cholesterol and carcinogens via an animal who suffered torture from the moment of birth until its horrific slaughter. So I must only eat carrots and celery. Why are people stupid? On the bright side, as I help my veg 3.5 year old navigate in her decidedly non-veg world...she is invited to a birthday party and the little boy's mother has already mentioned that she had looked around and found rice cream for my daughter, so she could have some with her cake...and the mom said she could only find vanilla and asked if that would be ok. Trust me, in the marinated-in-meat-juice community we are in, this is the height of sensitive and insightful. Someone gets it! Shutting up now, Carol Mom to Lucia, 3.5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 7, 2003 Report Share Posted July 7, 2003 Carol, Have you called your supervisor and asked him if it would be okay for you to bring your own veggie burgers to cook at the picnic? It could be that though he knows you are vegetarian, he may have unintentionally overlooked this. By you asking, you may jog his memory and he will tell you not to worry about it, he will get them. You will also let him know that you are willing to cook your own food at the picnic (sometimes people have a hard time knowing what to do when there is just one or two vegetarians/vegans and how to handle the food issue) and he won't need to worry about that part. Why not give him the benefit of the doubt and call or go see him and ask? I find that many times people just don't know what to do for a veg. They don't know what to get or how to cook anything. Many times, unless they are people I hang out with regularly, they are just plain intimidated by my veganism. Maybe this could be an opportunity for you to do some educating - however little or big - especially if you bring your own veggie burgers and cook them in front of everyone. Questions will be asked and you can educate. Good Luck. God's Peace, Gayle - mom to Naomi, Ethan, Rebekah, Seth, and Arielle - 3/31/97 - cc566 Thursday, July 03, 2003 3:55 PM ranting and non-ranting Ok, so we're invited to this FOJ/office picnic thing tomorrow, which I am supposed to attend as part of my " team player " image. (I am not a team player, FYI) Today I was informed that the host is only providing meat, celery and carrot sticks. This guy is a recovering alcoholic...and I wouldn't invite him to a party and say, hey, I'm buying 12 cases of beer, but if you want water, you'll have to bring your own. It's not like he doesn't know I'm veg. It's not like it would be that hard, while he's at the store buying 15 pounds of steak, to grab a package of veggie burgers. I mean really. The omission just seems so obvious. I've decided not to pollute my body (and my daughter's body) with hormones, antibiotics, cholesterol and carcinogens via an animal who suffered torture from the moment of birth until its horrific slaughter. So I must only eat carrots and celery. Why are people stupid? On the bright side, as I help my veg 3.5 year old navigate in her decidedly non-veg world...she is invited to a birthday party and the little boy's mother has already mentioned that she had looked around and found rice cream for my daughter, so she could have some with her cake...and the mom said she could only find vanilla and asked if that would be ok. Trust me, in the marinated-in-meat-juice community we are in, this is the height of sensitive and insightful. Someone gets it! Shutting up now, Carol Mom to Lucia, 3.5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 7, 2003 Report Share Posted July 7, 2003 > Today I was informed that the host is only providing meat, celery and carrot sticks. Well, what are other people bringing? I mean, it's rude, but if everyone is bringing things, it seems somewhat less rude. > This guy is a recovering alcoholic But alcoholism is different than eating meat. If you slip and eat meat, you're not gonna be dangerous to drivers around you or do anyone one of a number of other things that alcohol can cause people to do. You might get sick, the cow sure won't appreciate it, but beyond that, there's no immediately obvious consequence. > Trust me, in the marinated-in-meat-juice community we > are in, this is the height of sensitive and insightful. Someone gets it! What I don't get is why people don't realize that this is the obligation of the host. It's not above and beyond! If you don't want to deal with dietary restrictions, don't invite that guest. Sandra, who has to make all of her kids' parties gf/df and doesn't consider it optional Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 I understand! This is an issue we've struggled with for many years, and not just as parents. When I was in college, my friends would order a half-veggie and half-meat pizza, but the meat would " overflow " onto both sides. So, then they started ordering one meat pizza and one veggie pizza - but they'd eat from both pizzas, and I'd say " Hey! Where'd the veggie pizza go? " One year after college my mom had a surprise birthday party for me, and invited friends I hadn't seen in years - and she made a big fat meat lasagna! (I had been a vegetarian for about 7 or 8 years at this point.) When I said something to her about it, she pointed out that there was macaroni & cheese in the kitchen - but that I was free to eat her lasagna if I wanted to. People can be insensitive about vegetarians, especially if they come from an old-school meat-and-potatoes upbringing, where " rabbit food " is little more than garnish. If it's any encouragement, my mom eventually did some reading on the vegetarian diet, and treated me better once I was married to a vegetarian and had vegetarian kids. Nice to hear about the rice cream - now that's the kind of anecdote that's encouraging! So, how DID that event go? cc566 <ccl wrote: Ok, so we're invited to this FOJ/office picnic thing tomorrow, which I am supposed to attend as part of my " team player " image. (I am not a team player, FYI) Today I was informed that the host is only providing meat, celery and carrot sticks. This guy is a recovering alcoholic...and I wouldn't invite him to a party and say, hey, I'm buying 12 cases of beer, but if you want water, you'll have to bring your own. It's not like he doesn't know I'm veg. It's not like it would be that hard, while he's at the store buying 15 pounds of steak, to grab a package of veggie burgers. I mean really. The omission just seems so obvious. I've decided not to pollute my body (and my daughter's body) with hormones, antibiotics, cholesterol and carcinogens via an animal who suffered torture from the moment of birth until its horrific slaughter. So I must only eat carrots and celery. Why are people stupid? On the bright side, as I help my veg 3.5 year old navigate in her decidedly non-veg world...she is invited to a birthday party and the little boy's mother has already mentioned that she had looked around and found rice cream for my daughter, so she could have some with her cake...and the mom said she could only find vanilla and asked if that would be ok. Trust me, in the marinated-in-meat-juice community we are in, this is the height of sensitive and insightful. Someone gets it! Shutting up now, Carol Mom to Lucia, 3.5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2003 Report Share Posted July 9, 2003 How do you feel about bringing your own veggie burgers and maybe even your own " little smokey " grill? Or perhaps some falafel pitas for you and yours? If it's something like a good falafel people will ask what it is and you will have the opportunity to enlighten. Personally I don't think it would be bad form since you know the event will only have a few (pesticide ladden?) veggies and meat. We bring our own all the time. On the flip side that is so cool that the mother of your daughters friend is going out of her way to accomodate you. Stephanie , " cc566 " <ccl@p...> wrote: > > Ok, so we're invited to this FOJ/office picnic thing tomorrow, which I am supposed > to attend as part of my " team player " image. (I am not a team player, FYI) > Today I was informed that the host is only providing meat, celery and carrot sticks. > This guy is a recovering alcoholic...and I wouldn't invite him to a party and say, hey, > I'm buying 12 cases of beer, but if you want water, you'll have to bring your own. > It's not like he doesn't know I'm veg. It's not like it would be that hard, while > he's at the store buying 15 pounds of steak, to grab a package of veggie burgers. > I mean really. The omission just seems so obvious. > > I've decided not to pollute my body (and my daughter's body) with > hormones, antibiotics, cholesterol and carcinogens via an animal who suffered torture > from the moment of birth until its horrific slaughter. So I must only eat carrots > and celery. Why are people stupid? > > On the bright side, as I help my veg 3.5 year old navigate in her decidedly non-veg > world...she is invited to a birthday party and the little boy's mother has > already mentioned that she had looked around and found rice cream for my daughter, > so she could have some with her cake...and the mom said she could only find vanilla and > asked if that would be ok. Trust me, in the marinated-in-meat- juice community we > are in, this is the height of sensitive and insightful. Someone gets it! > > Shutting up now, > Carol > Mom to Lucia, 3.5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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