Guest guest Posted August 15, 2005 Report Share Posted August 15, 2005 My Dad loves his grand children and loves to spoil them - Our daughter is the only vegan child in a pretty big vegetarian family- most of us follow a vegetarian diet - but we are the only strict vegans. Each time we see my dad he wants to give our daughter icecream, cookies ,and cake - all the other kids love it! She feels pressure by the other kids eating it - I have explained to my daughter about the baby cows and their direct relation to cows milk production -I have explained to my dad about veganism - and asked him to refrain from giving her stuff - he gets offended - very offended - I don't want to hurt his feelings and I know my daughter will have these type of temptations throughout her life and needs to learn how to make the appropriate choices - Does anyone else have any other advice on what to say to help my daughter, or how to approach these family functions - with the least amount of offense and the most amount of empowerment for my daughter? Any help will be greatly appreciated! Wendi Start your day with - make it your home page Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2005 Report Share Posted August 15, 2005 Wendi Johnson <vegforce3 wrote: My Dad loves his grand children and loves to spoil them - Our daughter is the only vegan child in a pretty big vegetarian family- most of us follow a vegetarian diet - but we are the only strict vegans. Each time we see my dad he wants to give our daughter icecream, cookies ,and cake - all the other kids love it! She feels pressure by the other kids eating it - I have explained to my daughter about the baby cows and their direct relation to cows milk production -I have explained to my dad about veganism - and asked him to refrain from giving her stuff - he gets offended - very offended - I don't want to hurt his feelings and I know my daughter will have these type of temptations throughout her life and needs to learn how to make the appropriate choices - Does anyone else have any other advice on what to say to help my daughter, or how to approach these family functions - with the least amount of offense and the most amount of empowerment for my daughter? Any help will be greatly appreciated! Wendi Hi Wendi You didn't say how old she is? My 11 year old saw Peaceable Kingdom with me and it moved her to become vegan. I must say that you are much nicer than I am. I would be mad as h*ll if my parent showed such disrespect for my beliefs. When my middle child was 18 months old my sil gave her chicken nuggets from one of the fast food places. I hit the roof. She had been vegan until that time. Now, she is ovolacto veg and I really blame it on that experience. My baby is vegan and I will make sure that anyone who takes her for the day or a play date knows it. I am just finishing " The China Study " . Maybe you should get a copy for your dad. It might " show him the light " . It is a very tough situation. I think lots of vegetarians and vegans find themselves in the same one. You can ask your dad to respect you and keep sharing with you dd why you don't eat animal products. Good Luck Carol, mom to Melissa, 3/14/94 Julia, 2/18/97 Lily, 9/7/04 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2005 Report Share Posted August 15, 2005 If you are going to a family function and know that desert will be offered, why not bring along your own vegan desert that you know you daughter loves. Than she will have something yummy and won't feel left out. You can even offer it as an alternative for the other kids in the family to try. Don't even mention that it is vegan (though they will probobly know since they know you are vegan). Just say that you thought it would be nice to make a desert to bring along. Another thing to try would be to talk to your dad and ask him if anyone has ever pressured him about his vegetarianism (I am assuming he is from your post) and how he felt. Tell him that you feel the same way about your veganism. Maybe he will understand better if he thinks of it that way. , Wendi Johnson <vegforce3> wrote: > My Dad loves his grand children and loves to spoil them - Our daughter is the only vegan child in a pretty big vegetarian family- most of us follow a vegetarian diet - but we are the only strict vegans. Each time we see my dad he wants to give our daughter icecream, cookies ,and cake. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2005 Report Share Posted August 15, 2005 Perhaps you can suggest to your father that if he wants to give these treats to her, that he can in vegan form. There are plenty of sweets out there that are vegan. If you are against her eating sweets then maybe you can suggest to him something you consider a treat. You can go shopping with him and show him what she can eat. Wendi Johnson <vegforce3 wrote:My Dad loves his grand children and loves to spoil them - Our daughter is the only vegan child in a pretty big vegetarian family- most of us follow a vegetarian diet - but we are the only strict vegans. Each time we see my dad he wants to give our daughter icecream, cookies ,and cake - all the other kids love it! She feels pressure by the other kids eating it - I have explained to my daughter about the baby cows and their direct relation to cows milk production -I have explained to my dad about veganism - and asked him to refrain from giving her stuff - he gets offended - very offended - I don't want to hurt his feelings and I know my daughter will have these type of temptations throughout her life and needs to learn how to make the appropriate choices - Does anyone else have any other advice on what to say to help my daughter, or how to approach these family functions - with the least amount of offense and the most amount of empowerment for my daughter? Any help will be greatly appreciated! Wendi Start your day with - make it your home page Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2005 Report Share Posted August 15, 2005 How old is your daughter? - " Wendi Johnson " <vegforce3 Sunday, August 14, 2005 11:33 PM well meaninged grandpaewnts > My Dad loves his grand children and loves to spoil them - Our daughter is > the only vegan child in a pretty big vegetarian family- most of us follow > a vegetarian diet - but we are the only strict vegans. Each time we see my > dad he wants to give our daughter icecream, cookies ,and cake - all the > other kids love it! She feels pressure by the other kids eating it - I > have explained to my daughter about the baby cows and their direct > relation to cows milk production -I have explained to my dad about > veganism - and asked him to refrain from giving her stuff - he gets > offended - very offended - I don't want to hurt his feelings and I know my > daughter will have these type of temptations throughout her life and needs > to learn how to make the appropriate choices - Does anyone else have any > other advice on what to say to help my daughter, or how to approach these > family functions - with the least amount of offense and the most amount of > empowerment for my daughter? Any help will be greatly > appreciated! > Wendi > > > > Start your day with - make it your home page > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2005 Report Share Posted August 17, 2005 8 years old Heather Trovinger <hechtrov wrote: How old is your daughter? - " Wendi Johnson " <vegforce3 Sunday, August 14, 2005 11:33 PM well meaninged grandpaewnts > My Dad loves his grand children and loves to spoil them - Our daughter is > the only vegan child in a pretty big vegetarian family- most of us follow > a vegetarian diet - but we are the only strict vegans. Each time we see my > dad he wants to give our daughter icecream, cookies ,and cake - all the > other kids love it! She feels pressure by the other kids eating it - I > have explained to my daughter about the baby cows and their direct > relation to cows milk production -I have explained to my dad about > veganism - and asked him to refrain from giving her stuff - he gets > offended - very offended - I don't want to hurt his feelings and I know my > daughter will have these type of temptations throughout her life and needs > to learn how to make the appropriate choices - Does anyone else have any > other advice on what to say to help my daughter, or how to approach these > family functions - with the least amount of offense and the most amount of > empowerment for my daughter? Any help will be greatly > appreciated! > Wendi > > > > Start your day with - make it your home page > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2005 Report Share Posted August 17, 2005 Thanks that is a good idea smartgirl27us <thesmartfamily3 wrote:If you are going to a family function and know that desert will be offered, why not bring along your own vegan desert that you know you daughter loves. Than she will have something yummy and won't feel left out. You can even offer it as an alternative for the other kids in the family to try. Don't even mention that it is vegan (though they will probobly know since they know you are vegan). Just say that you thought it would be nice to make a desert to bring along. Another thing to try would be to talk to your dad and ask him if anyone has ever pressured him about his vegetarianism (I am assuming he is from your post) and how he felt. Tell him that you feel the same way about your veganism. Maybe he will understand better if he thinks of it that way. , Wendi Johnson <vegforce3> wrote: > My Dad loves his grand children and loves to spoil them - Our daughter is the only vegan child in a pretty big vegetarian family- most of us follow a vegetarian diet - but we are the only strict vegans. Each time we see my dad he wants to give our daughter icecream, cookies ,and cake. For more information about vegetarianism, please visit the VRG website at http://www.vrg.org and for materials especially useful for families go to http://www.vrg.org/family.This is a discussion list and is not intended to provide personal medical advice. Medical advice should be obtained from a qualified health professional. edical advice. Medical advice should be obtained from a qualified health professional. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2005 Report Share Posted August 17, 2005 Thanks for the advice everyone carol sobczak <cpsobczak wrote:Wendi Johnson <vegforce3 wrote: My Dad loves his grand children and loves to spoil them - Our daughter is the only vegan child in a pretty big vegetarian family- most of us follow a vegetarian diet - but we are the only strict vegans. Each time we see my dad he wants to give our daughter icecream, cookies ,and cake - all the other kids love it! She feels pressure by the other kids eating it - I have explained to my daughter about the baby cows and their direct relation to cows milk production -I have explained to my dad about veganism - and asked him to refrain from giving her stuff - he gets offended - very offended - I don't want to hurt his feelings and I know my daughter will have these type of temptations throughout her life and needs to learn how to make the appropriate choices - Does anyone else have any other advice on what to say to help my daughter, or how to approach these family functions - with the least amount of offense and the most amount of empowerment for my daughter? Any help will be greatly appreciated! Wendi Hi Wendi You didn't say how old she is? My 11 year old saw Peaceable Kingdom with me and it moved her to become vegan. I must say that you are much nicer than I am. I would be mad as h*ll if my parent showed such disrespect for my beliefs. When my middle child was 18 months old my sil gave her chicken nuggets from one of the fast food places. I hit the roof. She had been vegan until that time. Now, she is ovolacto veg and I really blame it on that experience. My baby is vegan and I will make sure that anyone who takes her for the day or a play date knows it. I am just finishing " The China Study " . Maybe you should get a copy for your dad. It might " show him the light " . It is a very tough situation. I think lots of vegetarians and vegans find themselves in the same one. You can ask your dad to respect you and keep sharing with you dd why you don't eat animal products. Good Luck Carol, mom to Melissa, 3/14/94 Julia, 2/18/97 Lily, 9/7/04 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2005 Report Share Posted August 17, 2005 Hi All PETA has a great list of vegan snack foods at.... http://www.peta.org/accidentallyVegan/VeganShoppingQS- Snacks.asp?Category=Snacks , Wendi Johnson <vegforce3> wrote: > My Dad loves his grand children and loves to spoil them - Our daughter is the only vegan child in a pretty big vegetarian family- most of us follow a vegetarian diet - but we are the only strict vegans. Each time we see my dad he wants to give our daughter icecream, cookies ,and cake - all the other kids love it! She feels pressure by the other kids eating it - I have explained to my daughter about the baby cows and their direct relation to cows milk production -I have explained to my dad about veganism - and asked him to refrain from giving her stuff - he gets offended - very offended - I don't want to hurt his feelings and I know my daughter will have these type of temptations throughout her life and needs to learn how to make the appropriate choices - Does anyone else have any other advice on what to say to help my daughter, or how to approach these family functions - with the least amount of offense and the most amount of empowerment for my daughter? Any help will be greatly > appreciated! > Wendi > > > > Start your day with - make it your home page > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 19, 2005 Report Share Posted August 19, 2005 Thanks! My son is also very allergic to eggs and dairy so having that list is really helpful to us. Jacqueline http://adhdnme.blogspot.com On Behalf Of Barb August 17, 2005 5:30 PM Re: well meaninged grandpaewnts Hi All PETA has a great list of vegan snack foods at.... http://www.peta.org/accidentallyVegan/VeganShoppingQS- Snacks.asp?Category=Snacks , Wendi Johnson <vegforce3> wrote: > My Dad loves his grand children and loves to spoil them - Our daughter is the only vegan child in a pretty big vegetarian family- most of us follow a vegetarian diet - but we are the only strict vegans. Each time we see my dad he wants to give our daughter icecream, cookies ,and cake - all the other kids love it! She feels pressure by the other kids eating it - I have explained to my daughter about the baby cows and their direct relation to cows milk production -I have explained to my dad about veganism - and asked him to refrain from giving her stuff - he gets offended - very offended - I don't want to hurt his feelings and I know my daughter will have these type of temptations throughout her life and needs to learn how to make the appropriate choices - Does anyone else have any other advice on what to say to help my daughter, or how to approach these family functions - with the least amount of offense and the most amount of empowerment for my daughter? Any help will be greatly > appreciated! > Wendi > > > > Start your day with - make it your home page > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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